The last few weeks have been a whirlwind for me. I got another pt.job at a produce store stocking shelves just so I could scrounge enough money for my girl. I hope this doesn't come off as sounding braggish but I managed to save enough for us to take a trip to Whistler to go skiing. I also bought her a Tiffany's bracelet which I must thank one of the wonderful RS'ers for suggesting. You know who you are :thumbs up:
Anyways, sorry I was unable to reply promptly. I'm just hella busy and enjoying the last fleeting days of 2008.. oh ya and Xmas BOOYA!!!
I made a sincere effort to reply to everyone worth replying and if I missed you I sincerely apologize. It took me quite a while to reply to everyone and my fingers are totally like numb. Inaii: What do you mean started anything? she's not the type to be overly flirtatious and forward. When we're fooling around and stuff I take the lead and she hasn't been uncomfortable yet.
vmec: great point but when you've been masterbating for years (like I have)without engaging in sexual intercourse it's a whole different ballpark. lest we forget this isn't apples and oranges. There's a huge difference when you're with someone and being intimate with them. And trust me, there's no one more special than my gfd
miss_crayon: Technically it is. Is rubbing one out even considered sex? I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that I am so ready for sex. That could be because I'm just horny as the next guy. But, I'm one of those dudes that won't demand it because I have morals and 100% respect my gfd. Sure I might be dissapointed but if we're mean't to be, surely we're bound to end up under the sheets, right?
I just hear these horror stories of guys having dreadful first time stories and not being able to do it (pun not intended). I don't want to delve into my personal life too deeply but I'm not the natural kind of guy. Maybe I should get some tips from Randy Couture?
Good_Karma: Seriously dude, thats my single worst nightmare. I'm shooting for 10 minutes and I am open to the idea of using Viagra or ordering eXstenze.
6793026: I like the cave man technique. I'm just worried I might encounter a bit of LMR from her. Could you elaborate on the condom stage? How do I pull the condom out without it screwing up our heated "in the moment" seduction phase.
6chr0nic4: Were you drinking? I know after I drink and try to masterbate, I can't seem to bust it. Haha probably because I was listening to too much plies.
SimplyComplex: Hahaa Vickie, you're busting on my balls
Would you rather I have been browsing porn? j/k
I haven't formally asked her if she wants to have sex with me. Call it a man's intuition or whatever.. I just get this sweet vibe when we're together like doing random crap or whatnot that we're ready to take that next step. Again, she has no problem with being affectionate with me nor I with her. Take that for what its worth.
oniyou: Now that I look back at it, getting the gfd wasn't the hard part.. Keeping her, maintaing a relationship and getting to that stage when you can sleep with each other is the hardest aspects in it all. Fortunately, I'm not in this alone and everyone is providing their wealth of knowledge which is simply phenominal. +1 thank you!!
Hollshiit: Explain.. I'm not rich and its not like my gfd expects I buy her expensive jewelry.
The_AK: Ok, good advice bro!! I need to somehow transition into moving down towards the southern hemisphere. It's not like I can autmatically dive right down to her goodies without it being like "No he didn't do just that". I'm not worried about not being able to pleasure her with my fingers. More emphasis should be placed on the pace of things. This is love not how fast I can pull of a quicky.
Gt-R R34: Gotcha *wink* Would it be weird to reserve a really nice nice room at like the Westin Hotel to spend our night together? Would that be too cheesy? I was watching the 2 Corey's TV show and Feldman pulled out all the stops when it was Valentiines Day. Rose Pedals, Serenading, Gifts. Suffice to say he got laid
Dinan3: Don't want to get into a war of words with you but don't you think that your comment was somewhat smug? How do you even know I'll get to have sex again that night? Is it a foregone conclusion? Plus, everythings always better the first time around.
Nintensity: There's no doubt you get more poon than me but isn't it risky to pull out the comedy routine when I should be setting the mood to a more romantic and serious tone? I don't see how being funny is the right gear to be in before doing arguably the greatest thing known to man. I understand the comfort part but needless to say we're already comfortable with each other. This issue will either make me or break me and my confidence is at an all time high. My pubes never looked better bro
unidentified: I can never be for certain if my gfd and I are ready. If I had to make an educated guess it would probably be a resounding yes. Now the reason I'm getting all worked up over this issue is because this isn't something you can take lightly. Even more so for someone like myself who at a stage in his life questioned if he'd ever have sex. I once feared sex like the bubonic plague. Sorry if I'm being redundant.
penner2k: Beautiful!! Compliance test at its finest. I have absolutely no qualms with the stomache area but its the nether region that has me flabbergasted at times. If I do run into a bit of resistance should I go with the whole 1 step forward 2 steps back routine? I could always pull out a couple faze outs from the hat of tricks. Obviously I'd have make sure to get her naked before the movie ends. This is like a sneaky way of going for the home run. I'm just having a little bit of trouble grasping this concept as forward as it is.
rslater: whoa cowboy.. easy up on the reigns my man. Are you insinuating that I should have seen my gfd breasts or played with her vagine before I can have sexual intercourse with her? Is this some sort of rule I must abide by? I'd love nothing more than to go over to my gfd house and have a field day with her boobs and coochie but thats not practical or even sensible. I am not an expert of the female anatomy but is that a reason why I should not strive to understand it by getting first hand experience so I can get a feel for it?
Moving on, you could very well be right. I may yet still be a Padwan but I'll be damned if I don't yearn to learn to become a full fledged Jedi Master.
Grandmaster TSE: MY gfd is not a guy. Point taken.
min.tee: well I gave her a light hickey so when I was kissing that area there were a lot of sensitive places i discovered. Its not so much being afraid as it is being somewhat apprehensive. I've been living in a stale environment so this is all still relatively new to me. I know i'll make mistakes along the way but I just want to prevent as many as possible.
underscore: a very detailed opinion and some excellent pointers to boot. How far should I go without having sex with her? Maybe I should make it a goal to reach a certain point and then progress further on another day? I've got all this planned out in my head but when it comes to action its entirely up to me. I might just go in missionary and see how things pan out from there. I'm all prepared bro, bought condoms, lube, sex toys, candles, insensce.
My gfd and I are very open with each other. We don't get into too much discussion about sex but it has come up a few times.
poweredbyph: I always touch her whether its just hugging her or teasing her so there's no problem with the physical side of things. She's pretty much your prototypical good girl.
sexyflanders: we've ventured in the sex discussion a few times. Not overtly but it's been brought up.
Marco911: Thats why I want to make it special and not funk things up. I know enough that sex can make or break relationships. It may be a three letter word but it's one hell of word packed in that one syllable.
Bonethug: Can you explain more about your rhythm? Do you mean like your speed? Sex isn't a race, its more like a marathon. Personally, i'm not going into the bedroom like a jack rabbit seeing how fast I can get off.
Boostaholic: As much as I value your opinion I just can't see myself using alcohol as a way to loosen our inhibitions in order to do the deed. I know about the clit technique and I always see it in porn movies.
dvxo: Brother, that would be a fantastic idea but its just not something I'd do with the gfd. My gfd is anything but the freaky type. Even I'm trying to cut down my porn watching.
LC21: I actually bought a couple different brands. I bought 1 flavored and the rest normal.
Big ups to everyone who took the time to offer their opinions. I also want to wish you and yours a very merry xmas and happy new year.
Cheers