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joolee · 02-10-2009, 10:48 PM

i think that's a little too much. he should delete it and if he doesn't, dump his ass

personally, i think gifts, love notes, pictures, etc is ok to keep. they were a part of your life at 1 point so it's no big deal to keep that stuff but stash it away so your new s/o doesn't have to stumble across it.

freakshow · 02-10-2009, 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by 6793026

where do you draw the line?

I think sex tapes with your ex would be a reasonable place to draw the line.

babykiller · 02-11-2009, 05:43 PM

I wouldn't have a problem with it. The stuff on the tapes is nothing compared to what they've got stored in their brains, and they'll never be able to delete that.

You have to ask yourself, why do you want them to delete it? because the memory of the sex they had with the other people is somehow threatening to your masculinity/femeninity? Because it reminds you that their vag/dink/asshole/mouth/armpit was once someone elses?

Think of it this way. The sex tape might be a momento of sex they had with someone else, but so is everything they do right in bed. You wouldn't want them to get rid of that would you?

Gridlock · 02-11-2009, 06:28 PM

He will keep backups anyway.

oinkoinkpig · 02-12-2009, 12:22 AM

whoa whoa whoa there edison chen

BabyblooLexus · 02-12-2009, 12:27 AM

uhhhhhh YEA. definately delete! thats gross that they'd even still have it while dating u!

fuhkyu · 02-12-2009, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by oinkoinkpig

whoa whoa whoa there edison chen

maybe it's becuase its 3:20 am.. but that made me laugh pretty hard

6793026 · 02-12-2009, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by oinkoinkpig

whoa whoa whoa there edison chen

WAAWAWAHHAHAHHAHAHHHA

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Originally Posted by vmec

I draw the line at practical vs. sentimental. If the item or gift in question is practical like a shirt/ table/ cup/ vaccume or TV sure, can't say much here as long as the item doesn't hold a sentimental value it's all good. I don't think it's cool to keep cards, love notes, jewlery, watches, stuffed animals, framed pictures and other shit that does hold sentimental value. IMO.

I can understand some people throw away love notes. But jewelry? How about purses given to a girl during valentines?

How would your bf feel that you're still carrying your X's valentine's gift which was a LV bag?

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BTW: to the post above mine, I'd put watches into the practical category. Jewelry maybe, but it's not something I'd throw away since it has some monetary value to it.

so now we got monetary value to consider.... that's pretty hard.

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IYO...

A watch given to me is like jewlery therefore sentimental. And just beacause it has to go doesn't mean it has to get thrown away.

I want to thank you on behalf of Tiffany, Prada, Coach and LV.

If jewelry are to be thrown away, girls would have to buy brand new Tiffany bracelets every other month cause she'll have throw away her collection.

OP still has to answer the question: Did you stumble upon the video cause you were 'digging' thru your computer or he told you he has those video?

syee · 02-12-2009, 08:55 AM

I guess sell rather than just throw away like vmec suggested. You can get some money for it and it makes it a lot less "personal" at that point.

Personally, if it was a high value gift, I probably would have given it back to them. If they refuse to take it back, that's one thing, but it's not left sitting on my conscience that I have a high value gift from them.

Noir · 02-12-2009, 09:31 AM

Wow, you guys are a sentimental bunch regarding previous gifts.

I don't see why you have to return previous articles of property. So what if they were sentimental in purpose. Once a relationship ends, that article of jewellry, accessory, or property loses all meaning. At that point, it's just another ornament.

vmec · 02-12-2009, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by 6793026

I can understand some people throw away love notes. But jewelry? How about purses given to a girl during valentines?

How would your bf feel that you're still carrying your X's valentine's gift which was a LV bag?

Well see it's all in perception. Does the purse hold sentimental value? Maybe, maybe not. I mean if I really loved the purse, I suppose I'd probably keep it? But if there was ever a time I did find out that me having it or keeping it actaully did bother my bf, I'd sell it or give it away.

I guess if I found out anything really bothered him about me having around and he made it known, I'd ditch it for him.

so now we got monetary value to consider.... that's pretty hard.
True, I mean I guess I wouldn't want to throw away jewlery, especiallyif I actually liked the style. But I would at least not wear it! I honestly don't know what I'd do with the jewlery, the stuff I had, I lost and not on purpose.
I want to thank you on behalf of Tiffany, Prada, Coach and LV.

If jewelry are to be thrown away, girls would have to buy brand new Tiffany bracelets every other month cause she'll have throw away her collection.

To each girl her own. It's hard to say what to keep, what to not and where does it go or what do you do with it in each case? I wasn't given many fancy or expensive gifts from the ex. And the stuff that was (stuffed animals and a not-super-expensive watch) sits in a box in my mothers garage. I don't live at home so it's not even in 'our' home.

vmec · 02-12-2009, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Noir

I don't see why you have to return previous articles of property. So what if they were sentimental in purpose. Once a relationship ends, that article of jewellry, accessory, or property loses all meaning. At that point, it's just another ornament.

I don't think that's true for all. Maybe for you but for me gifts don't just lose their sentimental value. Some things sure, but the ring I got still held it's symbolic value even after we broke up. It didn't just automatically become a ring with diamonds.

Noir · 02-12-2009, 10:28 AM

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I don't think that's true for all.

I guess. Maybe some people are more easily emotionally detached than others.

vmec · 02-12-2009, 10:35 AM

Well of course some people are more or less emotionally detached than others!

Noir · 02-12-2009, 10:46 AM

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Well of course some people are more or less emotionally detached than others!

Yeah, but the point I was trying to make is, the people who have the ability to be emotionally detached appropriate to circumstance are far better off than the people who absolutely have no control of their emotions. It affords simplicity on complex problems.

vmec · 02-12-2009, 11:03 AM

I'm not one to think that a complex problem should be simplified.

Grandmaster TSE · 02-12-2009, 11:12 AM

i don't think i'll make them delete it
unless the video had them doing some weird freaky fucking shit that would make ulic blush

HonestTea · 02-12-2009, 04:59 PM

I'd make her delete anything that doesn't have me in it LOL

ZiG-87 · 02-12-2009, 05:06 PM

wtf, I would never allow myself to be filmed in the first place..

Peanut Butter Jelly Time! · 02-12-2009, 07:01 PM

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wtf, I would never allow myself to be filmed in the first place..

+1

3xta · 02-13-2009, 12:28 AM

if i was dating a girl that had a sex tape with her ex. I'd want her to delete it....

hotjoint · 02-13-2009, 07:16 AM

sex tapes are awesome

Noir · 02-13-2009, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by 3xta

if i was dating a girl that had a sex tape with her ex. I'd want her to delete it....

Trust me, she wouldn't have it. You'd have to ask her ex. Doubt it he'd give a shit about you though to delete it.

3xta · 02-13-2009, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Noir

Trust me, she wouldn't have it. You'd have to ask her ex. Doubt it he'd give a shit about you though to delete it.

hahah if he had it, hes just a fucking creep then

you · 02-17-2009, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by hotjoint

sex tapes are awesome

+1