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Gt-R R34 07-28-2009 09:01 AM

Settling Down age
 
so boys and girls, for those that are older, what point in time did you felt like you were going to settle down with your SO vs when you were still in the "play mode" even if you were with a SO.

muteki 07-28-2009 09:47 AM

When both you actually see a realistic future.
Even though 2 people really like each other, sometimes a future isn't possible.
One can dream.
Those that attempt it anyways most likely end in divorce because they weren't prepared for it.

Z3guy 07-28-2009 09:55 AM

I was 26 when I met my SO, but if I could have planned it out, I would have been "playing" until I was 30yr.

31yrs - pick SO to be with
33yrs - move in together
34yrs - get engaged
35yrs - get married
36yrs - have kids

having kids later in life avoids having a mid life crisis because you did all your stupid stuff in your 20s and early 30s.....

danlee78 07-28-2009 12:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SimplyComplex (Post 6525139)
Even though 2 people really like each other, sometimes a future isn't possible.
One can dream.
Those that attempt it anyways most likely end in divorce because they weren't prepared for it.

Sadly, this is true. I've been in this situation before, but it ended kinda sour cuz I just couldn't see myself takin that "future" step with her... as time went by, just more drama came up...

Anyways, back to the topic i don't kno about the age, but for me financial stability is more important then the age

hotjoint 07-28-2009 01:24 PM

there's no "right" age to settle down. Its different for everyone. Just depends on what people want in their lives. I wanna be married and have kids by the time I'm 30.

q0192837465 07-28-2009 02:12 PM

the right age is the age when u meet the one u want to settle down for.

Mananetwork 07-28-2009 02:27 PM

I have no idea when I'm going to settle down, maybe just haven't found the right person either.

quasi 07-28-2009 03:50 PM

We bought our own place when I was 27 and she was 24, got married a year after that and had the first kid 2 years after getting married.

I don't think there is a formula though you have to do what you feel is right. I'm not a person who rushes into anything, we were dating for 5 years before getting engaged.

Jassanova 07-28-2009 05:12 PM

27.348

Gt-R R34 07-28-2009 08:01 PM

see quasi and Z3guy has an idea of what i'm trying to get @ they have a story of what happened in their lives.

Everyone that says the feel right or anytime, sure. Where's the financial stability when you're 21?

Quote:

Originally Posted by q0192837465 (Post 6525496)
the right age is the age when u meet the one u want to settle down for.

so say you're 19, you feel like you met the one, so you'll settle down? No temptations?

You can't say age isn't involved, if you look as quasi and z3guy, they have that age thing, 5 years met or met her at 26.

Curious on what people's (older) take on it. Can you truly say for those that are past 23 and said you met someone @ 21, you felt like you were going to settle down @ 21?

asian_XL 07-28-2009 09:15 PM

Path 1:
have a decent job -> have a decent place to live -> see if she's the one you want to spend your life together -> SETTLE

Path 2:
you get her pregnant -> find a good job -> live with your parents until you can afford a place -> SETTLE

hotjoint 07-29-2009 10:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by asian_XL (Post 6526001)
Path 1:
have a decent job -> have a decent place to live -> see if she's the one you want to spend your life together -> SETTLE

Path 2:
you get her pregnant -> find a good job -> live with your parents until you can afford a place -> SETTLE

thats sounds about right for alot of people

Jmac 07-29-2009 06:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by asian_XL (Post 6526001)
Path 1:
have a decent job -> have a decent place to live -> see if she's the one you want to spend your life together -> SETTLE

Path 2:
you get her pregnant -> find a good job -> live with your parents until you can afford a place -> SETTLE

Good job is optional for most of the people I know in Path 2 :P

sexyaccord 07-29-2009 10:13 PM

depends if you are a guy or a girl.
guys can be a bachelor like forever. lol

liu13 07-30-2009 11:53 AM

settle down as in marriage strictly? i know quite a few young 20 year olds who only been with their girls for no more than 1 year and they are pretty "settled" imo

tiger_handheld 07-30-2009 08:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by asian_XL (Post 6526001)
Path 1:
have a decent job -> have a decent place to live -> see if she's the one you want to spend your life together -> SETTLE

Path 2:
you get her pregnant -> find A job -> live in your parents basement as long as you can -> SETTLE


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