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08-16-2009, 02:01 PM
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#1 | noob
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| Palm face fail pertaining to my sucking ways with girls
I just messed up like a total idiot. I've been friends with this girl for awhile but I rarely hang out with her. Today I was supposed to do a favor for her and help her fix her computer. Usually I don't get nervous but for some reason when I got to her house my heart was just going nuts. Felt pretty embarrassing being nervous when I have no business being so.
Its important to know that she was free all day so I was expecting to hang out with her after I helped her. I fix her shit and all the while being a total nervous wreck. It would have been really painful to watch if you were there, trust me. Then in a lame attempt to further ruin my dignity, I asked her like a pussy if she wanted to do something... I totally sounded like a freaking chump.
Obviously I got hosed and usually I'm confident but I really like this girl.
Nerves got the better of me. She said she was tired and didn't feel like going out. She even made it clear before I arrived that she was free all day.
I really need to be smoother because at this rate I ain't never gonna get any for a loooooooooong ass time. Thing is whenever I get rejected it just makes me wanna try harder. I guess thats the only positive thing coming from this whole travesty.
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08-16-2009, 02:37 PM
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#2 | Banned By Establishment
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No real way to fix this other than have two diff mindsets
1) go in there, KNOWING you may not get a chance to "chill" wit her.
2) go in there, and work your game... it's not hard to sway someone's mind, read them, and play into it.
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08-16-2009, 02:47 PM
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#3 | Banned (ABWS)
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how old are you and how pretty is this girl
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08-16-2009, 02:57 PM
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#4 | Revscene.net has a homepage?!
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go in with an atittude with nothing to lose
and think of everyone is the same even how hot a girl is
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08-16-2009, 04:22 PM
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#5 | MiX iT Up!
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pics or didnt happen!
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08-16-2009, 06:47 PM
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you should've just chilled at her place when you were done fixing the computer, could've maybe pulled some moves on her
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08-16-2009, 10:38 PM
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That's pretty rude of her to just let you go. You did her a favour in fixing her computer. Don't be so friendly next time.
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08-16-2009, 10:44 PM
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld pics or didnt happen! | man someones always gotta say that
just ruins everything
fak oh well this is the internet
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08-17-2009, 12:29 AM
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#9 | 14 dolla balla aint got nothing on me!
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Originally Posted by liu13 how old is she and how pretty is this girl | Fixed.
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08-17-2009, 07:57 AM
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#10 | noob
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Originally Posted by Dinan3 That's pretty rude of her to just let you go. You did her a favour in fixing her computer. Don't be so friendly next time. | Can't think of it that way cause we all know nice guys finish last
I doubt anything is gonna happen other than friendship with her so I'm just nexting her and gonna find me some more fish to fry. |
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08-17-2009, 09:34 AM
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#11 | Need to Seek Professional Help
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^ Giving up even before you've tried?
What kind of pansy move is that?
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08-17-2009, 09:56 AM
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#12 | MiX iT Up!
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Originally Posted by Durrann1984 man someones always gotta say that
just ruins everything
fak oh well this is the internet | with 1400 posts, i'd expect you to know the classic rs responses....
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08-17-2009, 03:35 PM
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#13 | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld with 1400 posts, i'd expect you to know the classic rs responses.... | i do know the classic responses
its gettin old
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08-17-2009, 09:32 PM
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Honestly, with some women, it seems like you have to be an asshole to get anywhere with them. But hey, if you have to be someone you arent to get with her, then maybe shes not the one.
The question is.
Do you want to hook up with her and become FWB's or do you want a relationship? If you just want to hook up, next time you talk to her, joke around about her oweing you a favour for fixing her computer. Not like you have much to loose, atleast that way she knows want more then friendship from her.
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08-17-2009, 09:39 PM
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are you looking for advice or just venting??
either way my response is don't do it next time
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08-17-2009, 09:50 PM
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you sure she was "free all day" or she just wanted u to fix her computer for her and gtfo
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08-17-2009, 11:50 PM
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld with 1400 posts, i'd expect you to know the classic rs responses.... | classic means "time honored". those responses aren't honored at all.
the correct description should be typical as in " typical rs responses"
i win.
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08-18-2009, 02:03 AM
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08-18-2009, 02:15 AM
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Hahaha dude it sucks I know
I'm so smooth and chill with so many girls and some are even hotter then the one I like but when I talk with this girl, I tend to second guess myself, think a lot more then I should about what I should say and what not, eventually freezing up sometimes. FML.
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08-18-2009, 02:51 AM
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#20 | 無敵
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I notice that 90% of the people I know that always say "nice guys finish last" that I know, aren't nice guys.
Being a doormat and not actively doing anything to pursue the girl doesn't mean "nice" it's just pansy, then those guys claim they're being "nice".
What a convenient excuse to blame one's fail on being "nice" to the girl.
The guys that get the girls are the ones that actually do something about it. Waiting doesn't get anyone anywhere.
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08-18-2009, 03:02 AM
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Liquid courage might help out your situation. If you're damn near jizzing your pants while trying to talk to her, she obviously knows you're not much a challenge for her. She's already broken you. btw, you didn't actually just fix her computer the whole time did you? Throw some BS in there about letting some program download or software to finish working so you can get a chance to just sit with her, chat/work your charm while "insert bs excuse" finishes.
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08-18-2009, 03:12 AM
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Originally Posted by SimplyComplex I notice that 90% of the people I know that always say "nice guys finish last" that I know, aren't nice guys.
Being a doormat and not actively doing anything to pursue the girl doesn't mean "nice" it's just pansy, then those guys claim they're being "nice".
What a convenient excuse to blame one's fail on being "nice" to the girl.
The guys that get the girls are the ones that actually do something about it. Waiting doesn't get anyone anywhere. | Define: "actively doing anything to pursue the girl" Any examples? hehe
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08-18-2009, 03:32 AM
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#23 | 無敵
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^ Did you just copy and paste that?
Anyways, you're lack of editing changes the meaning from what I was stating but... "actively doing anything to pursue the girl" means doing ANYTHING to get the girl
ie. not sitting around and whining about it.
First step, make sure she knows you like her, if she doesn't know then you can't blame her for not reciprocating something she's unaware of.
I don't know why but a lot of guys don't get this, they just blindly be "nice" to the girl, but if she doesn't see that "nice" as being different than friendship nice it means nothing. Watch WongFu's "Just a Nice Guy"
Secondly, don't just tell the girl you like her and expect that she will like you there and then or just sit around waiting for her to magically fall in love with you or something.
Win her heart. You should know what you could do in this situation if you know the girl well enough, it's different for everyone. =3
And if she doesn't like you, then she doesn't like you. Don't get all creepy and stalkerish. -_-;;
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08-18-2009, 05:17 AM
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#24 | noob
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Originally Posted by rb Liquid courage might help out your situation. If you're damn near jizzing your pants while trying to talk to her, she obviously knows you're not much a challenge for her. She's already broken you. btw, you didn't actually just fix her computer the whole time did you? Throw some BS in there about letting some program download or software to finish working so you can get a chance to just sit with her, chat/work your charm while "insert bs excuse" finishes. | Liquid courage sounds about right except whenever I drink my face turns hella red. Asian flush syndrome FTMFL!!
Also what happens when the alcohol wears off. Then I'm fucked haha
Yeah I did fix her computer the whole time which makes this even more sad in retrospect. Should have found ways to involve her in the helping process.
Ahh well, lesson learnt
Don't be a doormat or else you'll just get walked over
Whatever.. I'm not gonna dwell on this anymore gotta think positive and go with the flow.
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08-18-2009, 09:31 AM
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^It's never good when u think too much. Try to enjoy urself on every occasion. It kinda build this aura around u so other ppl can loosen up as well.
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