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09-15-2009, 11:26 PM
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| Some random thoughts on relationships
"Maybe this is more a note to myself online, or just some of my random observations/opinions... so I can remind myself anywhere I have access to the internet, but I thought maybe others might benefit from this as well, so here they are out loud":
NEVER change just because you're in a relationship. I think a lot of relationships that fail due to the girl losing interest in the guy has to do with him falling too hard and becoming soft (too nice, mushy, lovey)... remember how when you first met your SO, you used to poke fun at her and tease her, and she loved it, but now you can't stop saying nice things to her? To the point it's almost predictable aka. boringg? That's the change I'm talking about. I'm not saying not to open up, or to forever keep your guard up and be a rock.... but remind yourself who she fell for in the first place, and what made her so attracted....you - and the way you were when you first met. Do yourself and your SO a favour and don't change just because you're in relationship.
Sex.... don't always jump at it. A little bit of self control here goes a long way. Take your time and just enjoy the kissing and feeling, and let her lead the way for once. You'll know you've surrendered the lead to her when she's the one pulling your shirt off, and tugging at your pants.
On that same note, read my thread on going down on your girl. She will appreciate your willingness to please her like you would never believe, because oral is a two way street, trust me. If you've ever wondered why your girl is so reluctant to go down on you, or doesn't make a good effort at it....ask yourself when was the last time you did for her, and actually tried your honest best to please her (flickingg your tongue, or jamming your fingers in doesn't count lolol).
Limit your time with your SO. Less IS more. I'm not saying to brush her off, or purposely cut down time spent with her...what I'm talking about is having your own life. If you are busy, then it is what it is. Don't overcomplicate your life by trying to jam in time with your SO ALL the time. Even though you two are together, you both live separate lives. You need to have time to miss each other, and to truly appreciate the time you spend together. Let her know you dedicate all your free time to her - but remind yourself that is not the same as 'every waking moment'. You still need to live your own life.
If you love her, tell her that! You should probably also explain to her that you are not 'in love' with her (because honestly unless you're like 40yrs old, you're not gonna know what true love is) but you can still let her know how much you love her.
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09-15-2009, 11:34 PM
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AH, finally. A thread that I wanted to see for a while. 
All these things seem so simple yet people neglect it. Time to rethink about your actions people.
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09-16-2009, 12:17 AM
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Limit your time with your SO. Less IS more. I'm not saying to brush her off, or purposely cut down time spent with her...what I'm talking about is having your own life. If you are busy, then it is what it is. Don't overcomplicate your life by trying to jam in time with your SO ALL the time. Even though you two are together, you both live separate lives.
| I haven't read the whole thing yet, but this one catches my attention and I think it is SO DAMN true.
Keeping it less than 3 days, it will make your relationship much better.
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09-16-2009, 12:28 AM
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dont put the pussy on a pedastal
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09-16-2009, 07:15 AM
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appreciate the little things they do for you
constructively confront each other when issues arise
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09-16-2009, 07:48 AM
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09-16-2009, 08:30 AM
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I can break all of those rules and still come out on the winning side. (albeit, depends on the girl though if I go with the easy going, not stuck up kind)
Success to dating isn't really about how good your strategy is, nor how good your game is. It's how you are as a person.
That's why you see guys who can be jerks and still get girls.
That's why you see guys who cheat yet their gfs won't leave 'em and forgive 'em.
That's why you see guys who are possessive of their girls, and girls just let them.
You can do all the wrong things and still win. It really all depends on the guys persona.
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09-16-2009, 09:15 AM
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we need more of these. Now where is physixxs?
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09-16-2009, 01:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Noir  I can break all of those rules and still come out on the winning side. (albeit, depends on the girl though if I go with the easy going, not stuck up kind)
Success to dating isn't really about how good your strategy is, nor how good your game is. It's how you are as a person.
That's why you see guys who can be jerks and still get girls.
That's why you see guys who cheat yet their gfs won't leave 'em and forgive 'em.
That's why you see guys who are possessive of their girls, and girls just let them.
You can do all the wrong things and still win. It really all depends on the guys persona. | It also depends on how dumb the girl is.
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09-16-2009, 02:03 PM
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#10 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by min.tee It also depends on how dumb the girl is. | Yeah but that's like, a lot of them. 
But I was only using extreme examples for a purpose to show how far you can break rules.
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09-16-2009, 05:40 PM
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biggest rule - dont mix love with money....
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09-16-2009, 06:35 PM
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Originally Posted by hotjoint biggest rule - dont mix love with money.... | i have only one true love, money. | |
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09-16-2009, 07:48 PM
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your age and/or experience really shows in this post
or may be you're just inebriated
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09-16-2009, 08:18 PM
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Originally Posted by liu13 your age and/or experience really shows in this post
or may be you're just inebriated | you're*
who are you talking to though?
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09-16-2009, 08:31 PM
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Originally Posted by 03aspec you're*
who are you talking to though? | ..... no its your. As in a possessive, as in the person's (yours) age and experience. Thanks for proving his point.
you're = you are
you are age and or experience? does that make sense to you?
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09-16-2009, 08:35 PM
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Ezekiel 25:17. The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness. For he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. And you will know I am the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon you. | |
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09-16-2009, 08:46 PM
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ya, im an idiot and im high, but mostly just an idiot
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09-16-2009, 08:54 PM
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keep a relationship from turning to a relationshit, and you're set.
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09-16-2009, 09:10 PM
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09-16-2009, 09:16 PM
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Originally Posted by 03aspec you're*
who are you talking to though? | i was referring to the OP, seems like he had his first long term relationship just end and he was in a drunken stupor
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09-16-2009, 09:39 PM
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what does OP really mean anyways? i mean, it supposed to mean opening poster, from that /b/oard, but everyone just kinda takes it to every other board. shouldnt the "OP" be called a TS for "thread starter"?
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09-16-2009, 11:38 PM
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Originally Posted by liu13 i was referring to the OP, seems like he had his first long term relationship just end and he was in a drunken stupor | LOL for one, pretty much anything to do with typing goes out the window when I'm hammed .. and I probably would've used the word fuckshit or balls at least once in there
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09-16-2009, 11:47 PM
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I want to make it clear - my note is do with with serious relationships NOT dating... that's a totally different story. Please do not be telling the girls you're dating that you love them LOL.... in that case if you ever get asked, the only correct answer would be 'you wish' hahah
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09-17-2009, 12:09 AM
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HAHA YOU WISH?
K i'mma start using that line.
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09-17-2009, 02:00 AM
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^ LOL, don't say that.....No sex for you buddy...
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