[Confidential] Bored with relationships/Knowing someone is 'the one'
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I'm not sure what it is, but I tend to get bored of dating relationships.
With my buddies or whatnot I can chill with them all the time and each time is a blast, and everyone has a good time.
With an SO, I get bored. They treat me well, visit me at my place, treat me to stuff (of course it goes both ways), hang out together at tons of places, put out etc etc.. but a lot of the time I find that I'd still rather hang with my buddies than with the SO. Not saying we don't get along as my SO and I see eye-to-eye on most issues, and NEVER fight or even argue.
Meanwhile, my engaged/married friends all tell me you KNOW when you find "The One". I am still completely clueless. In fact, I lost my last gf because I couldn't find it in me to tell her I loved her (she told me that she loved ME many many times over a year or so), and also tried to break it off on her a few times (not asking for sympathy here). When I get into a relationship, within a month or two (ie after the honeymoon period ends), I simply get bored or something, especially when our lives fall into the daily/weekly routine. While I'm not repulsed by her or anything, I simply don't feel this urge to see her more than 1-2x a week.
It's stressing me out because I'm 28 now, and everyone around me seems to have figured out this game already and yet I feel like a total noob.
I don't the world's most dating experience (say 1-2 years of serious relationship dating, tops), but even my friends with the same level of "experience" are all in happy relationships and here I am, still floating. Sometimes I feel like a highschool kid.
Any advice for a clueless guy like myself?
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