Not really stalking this girl but keeping tabs on her
 

Before you automatically assume I'm a creep or some deranged maniac I'd ask you read what I have to say and then make judgement.

Basically, I'm infatuated with this girl but things between her and I didn't go well.
For awhile now I've been creeping her Facebook and making sure she hasn't hooked up with anyone. We're not really on talking terms since we kind of drifted apart after I told confessed my feelings.

Flash forward to now..
I am planning to write her a letter and then buy some roses to send her.
I will admit I am semi-obsessed with her and I am glad she hasn't found a boyfriend. I know where she works and have been debating whether or not I should casually bump into her. I haven't seen her for a couple months and I miss her a lot. We're not close anymore but I get all knots and shit thinking about the possibility that we won't ever be

Besides physically forcing myself to tell her that she should be with me what are some clever ways I can do to get her to see me as her match made in heaven. Don't want to hear any boneheaded suggestions like chloroform or date rape pills.

I'm so lonely it almost fucking hurts. And I love how warm, open and inviting Vancouver chicks are (note the sarcasm)
Anyone?

if people don't think your a creep from your title, they will for sure when they read the whole thing.

what exactly is your purpose on writing here... just to say you're lonely?

If your not a creep for being a stalker, then you're a creep for wasting peoples time and for starting a useless thread.

you ....are....a....creeep

I am sure the girl will run for her life.

Leave the poor girl alone. Move on with your life. Creepy letters and roses aren't going to do anything but make her put a restraining order on you.

No amount of cleverness/creepiness is going to change her mind about you. In almost all case, if a girl doesnt like you, they just dont, and it aint gonna change.

Think of it as you being in her situation, you have this girl who you just dont like (either ugly, fat, no personality, weird, etc) that is pursuing you...you wont change your mind to suddenly liking her no matter what she does to impress you.

You are in the process of being a full fledged stalker if you continue down this path. Today you are the online stalker, tomorrow you could be the physical stalker with a 100 meter temporary restraining order.

Move on. There are PLENTY of fishes in the sea. Get your life in order, be less obsessive, less desperate, less creepy, get new friends and your love life should improve dramatically.

just in case ya know?

I think you're pretty much out of luck on this one. Nothing really will change her mind about you, unless maybe if you change yourself.

pics of the girl please..yea dude , your pretty creepy..
revsceners like your creep me out.

you need to move on

Read what you have said it is my conclusion that you will come off as a creeper... seriously. Glad to see you back tho, good to see that noob incident didnt scare you off revscene completely.

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forget about it kid, stick to porn , WoW and taylor swift for now

no offense man, but you've been rejected.
and its not the rejected but still friends kinda thing either.
its rejected, leave me alone.

take the L and move on

Heh, sounds like you called the OP ugly, fat, no personality and weird.

Anyways, yeah no chance. If she is weirded out, its hard to bounce back.

Instead of falling into a hole of self pity, why not quit being a homofo and do something else?

do you have any idea how many girls turn 18 or 23 or 30 or whatever age you're comfortable with each day?
so things didn't work out. stop being a creeper and get over it

wow, you a CREEP and a NOOB....

if you keep doing what your doing, you got issues man....

the girl obviously doesn't want you, so just move the foook on!

OP how old are you?? I ask because you sound like you are in highschool? If she didn't like you the first time, what makes you think she will like you the second time?

Think of it this way. If she knew you were creeping, stalking, obsessed with her and she knew you were facebook creeping her....would she be into you
a) more
b) less
or
c) RUNNING for her life

Answer this..and your question is answered.

If she has any respect left for you, I think she'd lose it all if you were to write her a letter with roses.
If you guys drifted apart once you confessed, she probably hoped you'd get the hint

Just let things be as they are now. If you're meant to bump into each other you will somehow.
At least that way you'll actually be surprised you bumped into her. Im sure if you "casually" bumped into her at her work place
she'd know you planned it. Chicks pick up on this type of shit, especially if its not an area/store you frequent

don't 'bump' in to her at work man, it's a place of business. cornering her where she can't get away from you b/c she's at work is mighty greasy and not fair to her. stalking won't be endearing to her either

u are just hurting ur chances

if she didnt like u before she will deff be creeped out by roses and a letter

you have a clear cause of Onitis

AsRealAsItGets

Just by reading your post, I can tell that you're in a really shitty mental state. What I can say is that your perspective on things won't really help you. You need a SHIFT in your thought-process and thinking. Let's put it this way.

Okay let's say that you have hooked up to her on a date. What the hell can you offer her? Love? Check this out. Women LOVE to be mentally stimulated. They crave for that shit. That's why they are obssessed with korean pop stars dancing around saying "sarang hey". Women get off from mental stimulation. PERIOD. So THINK about it... if you hook up with her, how can you stimulate her mind? Buying roses and writing a letter ain't going to do shit. That will only buy time. That won't capture her HEART!!

How do you capture her heart? YOU GOT TO STAY ON TOP OF YOUR SHIT! Period. Make her feel lucky to be with you. Then it will be HER CHALLENGE to get her to focus on you. That's how women are. They always wonder if a guy is too busy for her etc etc. How do you do this? By having a focus that is EVEN GREATER THAN HER. Hahaha that's GAME right there for your motherfucking ass!! And if you don't have anything goin on or anything that you are working towards.... WORK ON SOMETHING NOW. GO GO GO! Be it modifying your car, or your career or your body or whatever. WORK ON SOMETHING. When you invest your time into yourself, women start to flock towards you. Ironic isn't it when your shift your focus? They'l be like... Ohhh AsRealAsItGets is really building into something.... I love his passion for _________! That is what really gets them. FUck all the bullshit. Make your world more interesting than hers.

:haha:

lol, maybe inadvertently...IMHO, all he needs is an ounce of personality and good confidence in himself, and that can make his world go round.

As for OP:
Out of curiosity, what were you going to write on the letter? Is it going to be a letter professing love (aka creepy love letter) or is it going to be a 'hi, how you doing?' letter with a rose (which makes it creepy)?

Not counting birthday cards, postcards or other types of cards and shit, who the hell still write personal letters these days?
(those ppl with English/literature major dont count)
It should be considered a hobby nowadays with the advent of emails, im, facebook, etc

kinda stepping on the toes of my "don't be a homofo and do something else" point :D

lol noob.

dont be a fucking weirdo lmao just grow some balls and call her and be casual. build some attraction / rapport if you can and then ask her out on a date

if she declines or ignores u just call her out and ask for a straight up answer if shes into u at all. tell her to be blunt

and then if she tells u to fuck off... well then take that advice =D