He needs to step up, you need to step up.
Sorry for being so blunt. But it's you that's dating him, not your parents.
I'm Chinese, and I'm dating a Vietnamese girl. Parents hated it. They thought she was the stereotype clubber/no post secondary education type. Everytime she was over, she would say hi to my parents, and my parents just ignore her. We put it off for a while, and then it really started to get in the way of our relationship.
One day I just went up to my mom and told her to show some respect. My girlfriend hasn't done anything but try and make you guys like her. (She helps with the dishes, setting the tables, etc.) If you don't like her, fine. But you can at least show some decency towards someone important to me.
Then slowly but surely, that silence from my mom to my girlfriend turned into a nod, then a smile, then a "hi."
Still not great, but at least she's acknowledged now.
If you never step up, your parents will never take you two seriously. That goes for him too. As a guy, he has to show that he's for real and man up. I know it's cheesy, but keep in mind some of our parents are still old-school and living in the past. They're just protective of their kid.
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