Want to break up but dont want to at the same time ...

[Presto]

Originally Posted by ruthless

V. ROSSI HE NEEDS YOU!

v. Rossi probably isn't replying because he doesn't want to break his hand from backhanding the OP, repeatedly.

OP, you are in an abusive relationship. Like victims in other abusive relationships, you are putting blame on yourself, and putting your abuser on a pedestal. You hold onto a non-existent hope of the other person changing, which they never will. You are the puppet, and she pulls all your strings. I just hope you realize all this before you do something stupid, like get married. Unless you're some sick masochist, you don't need someone like that.

[itwillsubside]

Give me a break guys maybe shell change this time.......I will not be an obedient dog this time I'm slowly going to start doing more things keyword slow Im still afraid of her but I'm planning on getting more social without guilt.

Thanks for the support guys I think you guys prob think I made the wrong decision but I'm hoping to prove you wrong will keep udpdates if relationship goes haywire which culd be soom given it's school days for next 5 days
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[Presto]

Originally Posted by itwillsubside

Give me a break okami maybe shell change this time......

These are the exact words of an abuse victim...

[itwillsubside]

I'm going to be a bigger man this time around and If I do end up hurting her for whatever ridiculous reason then hopefully it's over for good. I'm going to give this relationship one last try I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

When I'm angry at her constantly harping about me choosing others over her I do end up being verbally abusive as well I end up calling her a moron an idiot a stupid bitch etc. and when she starts crying I yell at her even more because I think there is no absolutely no reason to be.

So before you go on and think my SO is all bad, I think I have a short fuse and a bad temper so I admit I end up being insensitive to her feelings so I may need tocwork on that
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[Okami]

Originally Posted by itwillsubside

I'm going to be a bigger man
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Originally Posted by itwillsubside

Im still afraid of her
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[itwillsubside]

Change is gradual of course I have some fear she's still psycho lol
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[butter_sashimi]

Originally Posted by itwillsubside

I'm going to be a bigger man this time around and If I do end up hurting her for whatever ridiculous reason then hopefully it's over for good. I'm going to give this relationship one last try I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

When I'm angry at her constantly harping about me choosing others over her I do end up being verbally abusive as well I end up calling her a moron an idiot a stupid bitch etc. and when she starts crying I yell at her even more because I think there is no absolutely no reason to be.

So before you go on and think my SO is all bad, I think I have a short fuse and a bad temper so I admit I end up being insensitive to her feelings so I may need tocwork on that
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She's still a psycho and this thread is now full of FAIL! Fuck, why are YOU dating/settling for a psycho? This thread is also full of denial too now!

Not only am I discovering that she broke up with you first, you let her ultimatum practically outweigh yours. She basically ignored your tantrum fest and just continued with her way of thinking. You hope she actually gets it now? I would like to bet she will mention how you dont love her as her reply to your ultimatum. She's the one with most leverage over you. What leverage you say? Judging with your recent array of posts, it just shows you are talking like a battered wife as someone above suggested. We can only wait and see how more you can put up with. There's a good chance she will complain again about hanging out with your friends and that will just result with another fight and she will 'call it off' again. If you cant prove that you are right one in an arguement, sometimes its better to just let it go, ie: let her break up with you and call it a day. I would think that it's ok to be angry. Hell, I'm freaking angry that you're at this stage. I regret I wasn't angry when I had my own controlling SO. Right now, she deserves a big FU whenever she mentions your lack of love.

It is also sometimes best to let victims learn their own lessons with time. You either hit rock bottom and get fed up (like me) or someone intervenes (Inaii's issue ?).

[talula]

Originally Posted by itwillsubside

Her response "I will take you back but if you hurt me one more time we are done." so I guess we are together again I didn't like how she worded it but it will do. I was dead serious about calling it quits for good and I think she knew that. Here's hoping she will actually change......
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man...u are a pussy
reading this pisses me off

u think she changed?
read what she wrote to u!!
"I will take you back..."
shes giving U an ultimatum

u dont need any of our advices...
and u deserve to get hurt.

[Fafine]

nothing has changed from your last break up...

W. L. Bateman quote - If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got.

she said shes gonna leave you if you hurt her again. well shit son apparently you hurt her everytime you don't reply her for text for more than 45 mins.

here's what you should do.
you got an iphone? is it jailbroken? if not get it jailbroken. there's an app you can dl called iblacklist.
block her cell and home number. since she's got no friends she can't use her friends phone to call you. if you dont have an iphone just change your number.

go out and have a good fucking time. cause you definitely missing out.

[impulseX]

Originally Posted by itwillsubside

I'm going to be a bigger man this time around and If I do end up hurting her for whatever ridiculous reason then hopefully it's over for good. I'm going to give this relationship one last try I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

When I'm angry at her constantly harping about me choosing others over her I do end up being verbally abusive as well I end up calling her a moron an idiot a stupid bitch etc. and when she starts crying I yell at her even more because I think there is no absolutely no reason to be.

So before you go on and think my SO is all bad, I think I have a short fuse and a bad temper so I admit I end up being insensitive to her feelings so I may need tocwork on that
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Damn dude.... you just told everyone trying to help you that you have no fucking balls.
Hopefully? really? you JUST said.... ah fuck it nevermind. Not gonna bother

[itwillsubside]

Okay everyone calm down.

I am not in denial, I WEL AWARE what she's doing to me, and now I know for a fact that what she's doing is wrong. I appreciate everyone trying to help me and I know not to be bitched around by her anymore.

Yes, her last comment implicated that I was the one who "hurt" her, but even then, I really think I should give her this FINAL chance. She really has no clue why her actions are wrong, and HOPEFULLY if she does understand they are now, that it won't happen again. If you guys are right and she hasn't changed a bit, then yes I will call it off for good after our "next fight". I know this is a cycle, it's been happening over and over and certainly repeats itself, BUT for those who have been in this kind of relationship, I think you know how hard it is to break free even when your SO constantly hurts you, gives you hell, bitches, whines, even when you know it's wrong. I am a pussy, I admit that. I DID (past tense) not have the balls to actually call it off, which is why the cycle has been repeating, but I do now, this is the final chance I'm giving her and if it happens again, then iBLACKLIST here I come.

The last few fights we had, we would ignore each other the whole day, and at the end of the day I would give in and text her and just try to patch things up. I will not be doing that no more, I'm not going to give a fuck if we get into another fight (unless it was really my fault) then it's OVER and I'm not going to try to fix it anymore.

I thank everyone who gave me advice and their own experience and insight. I will update you guys if you are still interested.

I understand the frustration of my decision, but everyone deserves a second chance. If it happens again, I won't be too generous.

[itwillsubside]

Originally Posted by Fafine

nothing has changed from your last break up...

W. L. Bateman quote - If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got.

she said shes gonna leave you if you hurt her again. well shit son apparently you hurt her everytime you don't reply her for text for more than 45 mins.

here's what you should do.
you got an iphone? is it jailbroken? if not get it jailbroken. there's an app you can dl called iblacklist.
block her cell and home number. since she's got no friends she can't use her friends phone to call you. if you dont have an iphone just change your number.

go out and have a good fucking time. cause you definitely missing out.

Thanks I will keep that APP in my mind, I've been trying to find one like that

[v.Rossi]

Out of curiosity, how's your relationship between you and your mother?

[vtec4thgen]

The Offspring wrote a song about this type of thing, its called Self-Esteem. When my girl goes out, I dont worry or stress at all, cuz I know if she does do something shes obviously not the one for me. And vice-versa, and nothings ever happened. If shes stressed when ur not around, either you're a really good-looking dude or she has trust/insecurity issues. My advice is to split unless the both of u really really want to work hard at it.

[gdoh]

you need to find some common ground with her grow a pair and tell her what you want a relationship should be fair and at the moment it sounds like she has your nuts in a vice grip

if you want to go to parties and what not have you ever thought of involving her??if you have projects and she get jealous the its too fucking bad its school what are you going to not do your projects just because shes jealous... dont seem fair to me

[Jsunu]

I can't add anything else other than get out if you can man.

It is not fair to you that your actions are limited yet she has all the control in terms of what you can or cannot do.

[PUPPY]

OP.. you are beyond help from revscene members

[guddagudd]

I believe, in all honesty, this is a troll thread...

[Fafine]

[Okami]

http://www.revscene.net/forums/whos-...i-t634821.html

LOL.. "girl" in this post has more fucking balls than you.. you need to learn from this person.. do exactly what she did to this poor OP XD

[Gesus]

well i have experienced this. we broke up and got back together after 4 days because you will find out what your missing in your life when your single.

[AzNightmare]

A buddy of mine told me something really bluntly.

Who likes who more in a relationship?
If she likes you more, don't be afraid to push things over the edge.
Do as you please, and see if she'll compromise.

If you're the one obsessed with her... welll.. nm

Maybe she had the same advice, and she's pushing everything over the edge on you.

[m4k4v4li]

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[ruthless]

Did it subside? Let me Know...

[Gridlock]

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