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08-05-2011, 08:06 PM
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| "Sorry doesn't do anything"
What are some good ideas for apologizing to your SO when "sorry doesn't do anything."
"It's just a word that you can say to anyone." 
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08-05-2011, 08:29 PM
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#2 | | MiX iT Up!
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do something nice. spend some time with her.
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08-05-2011, 09:19 PM
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#3 | | Work hard, Play Hard - Wiz
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If you've been in a long relationship and the word "sorry" comes in the a lot. its gonna be out played. Just gotta do something nice. take her out. give flowers or something. or just have sex. lol
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08-05-2011, 09:31 PM
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sometimes a nice gesture means a lot more than spoken words. But if she's talking about a LV bag, tell her you're sorry for sticking your foot up her ass
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08-05-2011, 10:14 PM
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#5 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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To fix it, you need to think about why it's lost its meaning; And in my experience, it loses meaning because whatever you did, you're just going to do it again anyways.
Unless she's a materialistic person, throwing money at the problem by (doing something nice, getting something nice) is just a band aid solution which can get quite expensive in the longrun if you actually have no plans on fixing yourself first.
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08-08-2011, 11:37 AM
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sort of need to know what happened? did u cheat on her, did you PIITB accidentially.... i mean if you had a white lie, sureee, you can say sorry, but if you cheated, you can just walk away with a simple sorry.
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08-08-2011, 11:51 AM
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Alright.
Again with the 5 Love Languages. Read this book.
Saying "I'm sorry" is only meaningful to people who are words of affirmation types (primarily vocal communicators).
For acts of service types the best apology is doing things for them. For people who need gifts that's the best way to say sorry, for quality time people that's what they need and so on.
Get this book. Read this book. The Heart Of The Five Love Languages By Gary Chapman - eBook - Kobo
Note: This book is made for married couples. Ignore all that. The important part IMO is explaining the way different modes of communication need to be treated and where you have problems when you can't identify the language of your partner.
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08-08-2011, 01:16 PM
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when my ex said that too me I said fuck off then.
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08-08-2011, 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted by MajinHurricane  when my ex said that too me I said fuck off then. | This is probably why she's your ex 
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08-09-2011, 12:34 AM
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Actions speak louder than words, probably the most common clique .
Do something to prove that you are sorry, anyone could say they are sorry but how would they know you genuinely mean it?
Surprise her with a dinner?
I don't know.
You have to figure it out what you have done wrong and show her/him that you are wrong.
Some things can't be fixed, whatever happens , happens.
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08-09-2011, 12:53 AM
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#11 | | I don't get it
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it depends on the severity of the situation. if it's something really serious then maybe you should actually talk to her. i mean, do you just say "sorry" and that's it? when my bf apologizes to me, he is dead serious when he says it and genuinely means it. he also acknowledges what it was that he did that made me upset. no tv, no music, nothing. just two people having a serious conversation. then you can do something nice together and just spend time with her.
like what Noir wrote, buying gifts aren't going to fix the problem.
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08-09-2011, 02:08 AM
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Originally Posted by !Yaminashi This is probably why she's your ex | i regret nothing
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08-09-2011, 10:47 PM
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There are 5 different ways of apologies and each person accepts apologies differently. It's called the 5 language of apologies or something. Here take the test, you can read up on it on the website and in and around the web. Apology | The 5 Love LanguagesŪ
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08-10-2011, 10:02 AM
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In my experience, once we get to the "Sorry isn't good enough" stage, there's very very very little that can be done to salvage a relationship. It has essentially degraded to where she will not listen to what you say, nor does she want to. This needs either a huge shift in your entire attitudes to change her opinions of what's going on in your life, or the end of the relationship.
If you plan on doing the full-on change, realize that this is a permanent change that you can never un-do for the rest of the relationship. If you change "back" to who you are now, then she will take it as a sign that you were just doing it to stop her from breaking up and it will make things that much worse.
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08-10-2011, 10:21 AM
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#15 | | Rider
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actions speak louder than words, show her your sorry instead of just saying it =]
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08-15-2011, 07:45 PM
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Buying things for her doesn't always have to be expensive, you could even make something. It's the thought that counts more than the actual gift sometimes, as long as it's something she likes and doesn't look like you shit it out of your ass
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08-15-2011, 08:53 PM
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In an apology, you have to include why you were in the wrong, how it upsets her, and how you will improve from it.
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08-16-2011, 10:36 AM
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Some people just say it and continuously say it over and over again thinking it works.
If you apologize, then don't do it again so casually, and sincerely mean it.
And if it's really bad, do something to make up for it, it doens't have to be expensive, just thoughtful. The worst thing is pricey, thoughtless gifts, unless you're dealing with a materialistic person.
But it depends on how bad it is already, if it's like what Graeme S said, then you've probably already overused your sorries and it means jack right now.
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08-16-2011, 05:31 PM
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08-16-2011, 08:13 PM
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simple,
just hug her until she forgives you.
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08-16-2011, 11:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Dinan3 In an apology, you have to include why you were in the wrong, how it upsets her, and how you will improve from it. | Yes, that helps prove to her and yourself that you're putting some meaning behind it. Also helps to prevent the situation from happening again. In all seriousness, who wants to hurt their loved ones, right?
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