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I don't think making fun of him is the greatest idea. Sure maybe your brother took it and decided to change his lifestyle, but not everyone's going to react the same.
What if his brother takes it poorly and does the opposite? Like the OP said, he probably gets it enough from other people, doesn't need to hear that shit from his own brother.
Well depends on your relationship with your brother.Also maybe you can get him a game upon his improvement!
Ya I agree with some people saying that you should leave him alone. You telling him what he should do will possibly strain your relationship with your brother and your brothers insecurity will grow even more because now he is being pressured. Let him do it at his own pace.
If he's going to be left alone there could be a great risk, he might not decide to change his lifestyle soon enough.. You know I knew this kid in my highschool, he was like 250 lbs in the beggining of grade 8, he smelled like fish and rotting stuff, and he skipped school often. He said he was diagnosed with diabetes in grade 9, which sucks obviously. I didn't know him really well but I tried to make an influence in his life. In grade 11 he came to school once or twice a week, in grade 12 I never saw him. Every other kid made fun of him, and he was bullied emotionally I guess by seeing other people point fingers and laugh. With every day that you procrastinate, the situation gets worse, and it'll be too late to realize. Posted via RS Mobile
If he isnt motivated theres really no point.. unless his friends are working out chances are hes not gonna start..thats what ive noticed. Takes one person to start working then everyone eventually falls in. Maybe you should make some good progress and he'll noticed and consider
He needs to find something he enjoys doing and wants to do, otherwise he will not stick to it and have no motivation for it.
Also, the best thing you can do, is be supportive and encouraging. If he feels like a failure and lacks motivation, anyone else pushing at him will have a negative response/outcome, than that of a positive reinforcing one.
Whether its getting back into sports or doing some other physical activity, he's gotta enjoy doing it.
I thought Mindbomber's post was more than enough motivation for him to start working out. OP maybe if u really wanna help him out and go out of ur way to do it. Do physical activities that he enjoys. Not everyone likes working out, i absolutely hate working out but i love sports.
Or u could possibly buy some dumbells and put it in his room and u he can go from there. Like someone said, some people dont wanna goto the gym cause there afraid of looking stupid, or looking really weak. Or in my case i dont goto the gym cause it feels like a chore having to go drive to the gym and such. So i had a small little gym in my house so i could workout in. You have to make it really easy and really convenient for him to even consider working out or doing something physical
how far into puberty is he? because if he grows, his body will start stretching and he will lose some weight... There will be a point where he will see this girl he's into and he'll be motivated enough to shapin up..
no matter how or waht you say, if he doesn't have the willingness to do it, it just wont happen. My cousin is in the same page, and currently he doesnt give a dam even tho he says he does lol i once was in the same boat, gained A LOT of weight in 2 years, and one day i realized i dont like the way i look. And girls dont like the way i look either lol I realized i needed to change, not only to "get" girls, but to be happy with myself. And now im going to the gym 6 times a week (not the last 2 weeks, been having a hectic life atm) for the past 10 months or so and it's going great. The rewards i'm getting from changing my lifestyle is paying off and wouldn't change it for the world. Soon he'll realize what he wants. Does he want to change and be happier, or is he gonna lie to himself and say he's happy ? Nothing you can really do
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Hmmm well don't buy junk food, no juice, pop etc etc.... and try to have as much vegetables as possible and as little meat as possible for dinner.
Don't offer him rides to school make him walk.
I remember when I was 15 I have to walk to school and is like 40mins each way lol. That kept me pretty skinny. Sigh too bad I getting pretty fat these days. But try to control your bro's eating habit. I was able to lose 10lbs or so just by eating everyday.