in a pile with a rubber band.
if you make a connection with people, you will subconsciously remember when you need upholstery fixed that you have a card from someone who does that or jean hemming place that does good work.
Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Take the effort and take the risk..
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt