bad roommate

[vantrip]

Make the cat disappear, piss and poo problem solved

[stewie]

Originally Posted by vantrip

Make the cat disappear, piss and poo problem solved

lol she told him that already in the summer..

during the day when she'd be at work, hed shut all the windows and let the cats piss and shit on things and the smell would just fester in the suite. she'd get home lock his cats in his room and open all the windows...the moment she leaves the room, windows get shut and cats get free roam to piss and shit more. so she told him "from now on the cats dont get free roam in common areas...the place fucking reeks, and its disgusting, if it happens again, the cats are goin for a drive to chilliwack"

but anyways, ive got the answers ive needed, so im pretty much done with this thread, if a mod wants to lock or delete it im good with that

[parm104]

Originally Posted by Jason00S2000

Difference is, a woman in her 20s has plenty of men who would support her and not let her be in danger of being homeless

A 30s man's value to society plummets, FAST, and once a man is broke and in his 40s, his value is near 0

Come down to the poor DTES hood, most of the people people are older men, forgotten and useless to society

If you or anyone else here is concerned about this gentlemen, well then kudos to you guys. Noble sentiments for sure. But why don't you instead go and give him a place to stay or perhaps pay his debts for him?

OP's gf is not faultless here...it's absurd to put yourself in a position where you decide to live with a person you meet on Craigslist. We think twice before even buying or selling a phone to someone online, and she's gone out and lived with someone from CL. Granted, everyone's situation may be different and she might have had no choice. But I find it hard to believe that she couldn't find a 1 bedroom apartment for the cost of her share of the rent.

That being said, should we feel sympathetic for OP's gf? I think not...And on the same note, sympathetic for the guy who's screwing over OP's gf? Certainly not. You can't justify making someone else pay for your misfortunes. If his income wasn't steady and he wasn't going to behave responsibly (with your pets, property, etc.) then he shouldn't have gone into an agreement with someone else.

OP - you've asked what kind recourse you can take in this situation but have failed to mention what kind of agreement your gf got into when she moved to this place. I don't see how you can get any sound advice without divulging that information.

[stewie]

Originally Posted by parm104

OP - you've asked what kind recourse you can take in this situation but have failed to mention what kind of agreement your gf got into when she moved to this place. I don't see how you can get any sound advice without divulging that information.

im honestly not sure what agreement she got into, im not with her at the moment.

as for the course of action she'll be taking, its calling it a lost cause and moving on.

and yes, i wont go and say my gf is not to blame for getting a roommate off of craigslist, but for the area she wants to live in, its easier for her to get to work, and easier for her to be around all the places she needs to go. shes not going to get a 1br suite in poco when she could get one close to work in vancouver. none of her friends were currently looking for a place to live, or else she would be room mates with one of them in a heart beat, so she did what anyone would do, interview a dozen people, widdle it down to 3 or 4, interview them again and again until she had a solid decision...its not like she can hook up a lie detector to each person she interviews to see if they're bullshitting her about how they live and how clean they are and etc..she just had to have some trust in the person and pray to god they weren't lying.

i think it can easily be justified to blame him for her losses, he signed a 1 year contract to live there, after a week or 2 in, he lost his job, and didnt even attempt to get a new one, he spends his entire day in his room not taking care of his pets which were ruining all of her items. when a person has multiple pets, youd usually think that they can take care of them and at least clean up after them...especially when your trying to find a roommate, your not going into an interview saying "yea i dont like changing the kitty litter, the whole house is their litter box, i only do dishes once a week, i have no respect for others." i believe she did what was needed when looking for a roomie, shes not psychic, she cant tell when someone lies to them when shes never met the person before.

[CRS]

I didn't want to have to say this but let's keep on topic here.

Let's keep the inner 12 year old comments to ourselves and actually help out the OP and his gf.

[stewie]

Originally Posted by parm104

OP - you've asked what kind recourse you can take in this situation but have failed to mention what kind of agreement your gf got into when she moved to this place. I don't see how you can get any sound advice without divulging that information.

im honestly not sure what agreement she got into, im not with her at the moment.

as for the course of action she'll be taking, its calling it a lost cause and moving on.

and yes, i wont go and say my gf is not to blame for getting a roommate off of craigslist, but for the area she wants to live in, its easier for her to get to work, and easier for her to be around all the places she needs to go. shes not going to get a 1br suite in poco when she could get one close to work in vancouver. none of her friends were currently looking for a place to live, or else she would be room mates with one of them in a heart beat, so she did what anyone would do, interview a dozen people, widdle it down to 3 or 4, interview them again and again until she had a solid decision...its not like she can hook up a lie detector to each person she interviews to see if they're bullshitting her about how they live and how clean they are and etc..she just had to have some trust in the person and pray to god they weren't lying.

i think it can easily be justified to blame him for her losses, he signed a 1 year contract to live there, after a week or 2 in, he lost his job, and didnt even attempt to get a new one, he spends his entire day in his room not taking care of his pets which were ruining all of her items. when a person has multiple pets, youd usually think that they can take care of them and at least clean up after them...especially when your trying to find a roommate, your not going into an interview saying "yea i dont like changing the kitty litter, the whole house is their litter box, i only do dishes once a week, i have no respect for others." i believe she did what was needed when looking for a roomie, shes not psychic, she cant tell when someone lies to them when shes never met the person before.

Originally Posted by parm104

OP's gf is not faultless here...it's absurd to put yourself in a position where you decide to live with a person you meet on Craigslist. We think twice before even buying or selling a phone to someone online, and she's gone out and lived with someone from CL. Granted, everyone's situation may be different and she might have had no choice. But I find it hard to believe that she couldn't find a 1 bedroom apartment for the cost of her share of the rent.

yes, but also, what if you were to buy a phone from CL, meet up with the person in a public parking lot, the man steps out in black shoes, pants, shirt, with a white collar...a priest, are you going to assume that a man like him is telling the truth? or instantly going to think that its a ghetto guy just trying to sell a shitty phone that will crap out an hour after you turn it on.