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03-12-2015, 01:58 AM
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#1 | | I *heart* Revscene.net very Muchie
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| chinese style blind date
so a friend ask me to go on one of those chinese style blind dates (aka sheung tai in canto), im not too keen on it but im just helping a friend out
i have not seen a pic of this girl nor do i even know her name, all i know is shes 25 (chinese), an account in canada, she couldnt find a bf in canada & i think shes getting a lot of pressure from her parents for marriage
i have never been to any of this stuff before & have no idea what i should actually do
im not a fan of awkward moment, i also talk too much & have been told that im boring & lame
im not looking to get married anytime soon (or ever), but im afraid she might be looking for that & i have never really rejected anyone before (im always the one getting rejected)
im kinda of lost in the woods i think & not too sure what i should do
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Originally Posted by hk20000  I went up to a cute chick and asked her if she'd let me take a photo of her for $30 she slapped me, she said to me that "I AIN'T A WHORE!"
But other than that I have seen every car on display in DTP just by cruising about in Richmond, thank you very much for collecting them together and get someone to sing a cover for "fuck you".
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03-12-2015, 02:06 AM
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03-12-2015, 06:32 AM
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I wouldn't be too worried, it'll be much like talking to a wall
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03-12-2015, 07:26 AM
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just go a meet as a friend
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03-12-2015, 07:39 AM
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just do man . it will be fun.
you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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03-12-2015, 08:06 AM
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Is it like speeding dating?
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03-12-2015, 08:49 AM
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im chinese and i never heard of this, first question is first.. does she have deep pockets?
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Can someone tell good or unusual dating spots? Or what was your the most unusual date? THanks for sharing!
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03-12-2015, 09:26 AM
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#8 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Subscribed. 
On a more serious note, assuming that the girl is from Mainland China, there is a very good chance that her motivations to do this are exactly as you describe -- she is taking a lot of heat from her parents to get married. A lot of the more traditional thinking Chinese parents still expect their daughters to get married in their early 20's. When it still hasn't happened by 24 or 25, they start laying on the pressure. Inevitably, some of these people cave and get married just for the sake of getting married to appease their parents. 
In some cases, if the girl has a very Mainland Chinese style mindset, she will also be quite direct and start asking questions about your job, wealth, earnings, and how you want to get married.
To me, this kind of mindset is just absolutely mind boggling...
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03-12-2015, 10:21 AM
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#9 | | うに
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I wish my friends did stuff like this for me.
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03-12-2015, 11:35 AM
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#10 | | 14 dolla balla aint got nothing on me!
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Are you just worried that you will have to end up paying for dinner and not getting into her pants?  j/k
Is this going to happen over a meal or coffee? Like you said you are helping your frd out, just go and make a new frd
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03-12-2015, 11:43 AM
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Go into this with some optimism. If you go in with a premeditated mindset to make this a failure, then it's bound to fail.
Take it as a chance to meet someone new and potentially be someone you interact with socially.
I had a blind date where it wasn't quite successful, but she has her network of friends who I became friends with after.
If you're finding the date becoming awkward, it only makes it worse when you focus on it being awkward. Just enjoy what you set out to do that night. If you just plan to have dinner, enjoy you food and pay some attention to her once in a while and entice her to partake in your enjoyment.
At the very least, it builds game. You know which dudes have the most game? The ones that are outgoing, confident and generally don't give a fuck as long as they are happy. Just don't take it too far to become a douche bag.
If you don't take this chance, it's a chance lost at something that could be great and if you keep letting these opportunities slip, you'll grow old one day regretting why you didn't take such chances.
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03-12-2015, 11:44 AM
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OP, let PK take your spot.
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03-12-2015, 01:40 PM
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Lol... Are you still in your teens? What is the biggest challenge to date that you have taken? Man the fuck up and go see this chick. The worst that can happen is you two depart at the end of the night and never see each other again.
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03-12-2015, 02:46 PM
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#14 | | das not it mane
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Do it. And remember to report back here with details and pics of girl.
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03-12-2015, 03:27 PM
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First of all you need some confidence... Just go in not giving a fuck, you are helping a friend out which is the most important thing here. Fuck everyone who said you are boring and lame because you are who you are and you don't need people in your life that are telling you that.
Like other's have said go in expecting nothing and have fun with it, talking a lot is better then not saying shit in a awkward silence. Just have fun report back and let us know how it goes!!
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03-12-2015, 05:15 PM
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You agreed so you can help your friend out by going to this date. It feels like you dont want to go. If you dont want to go, just say "no" rather than wasting everybody's time. Physically being present but your mind is elsewehere (or hoping this to not progress) is very half-assed. Be a man and make up your mind to either not go or go with thoughts of a potential relationship
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03-12-2015, 08:06 PM
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03-12-2015, 09:04 PM
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why are you guys even helping him out lol. he said in his first post, he's only doing this to help a friend out.
grow some balls man. if you don't like her, just tell her it won't work out and move on. if you do like her, see where it goes. if marriage is too soon for you, then tell her no.
if she's pressured to just marry someone, you will find out sooner than later, which helps you.
whats so hard?
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03-12-2015, 10:18 PM
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Roofie her and profit
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03-13-2015, 06:14 AM
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in for post date reports
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Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk..
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03-13-2015, 08:37 AM
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03-13-2015, 10:48 AM
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Don't talk about yourself much; just ask her a few questions and let her talk about herself. Most women love to talk about themselves. With any luck, she'll think you're a gentleman and ask you on a second date. And at the very least, dress like you care about yourself.
Even if she's looking for marriage and you're not, you could easily have some fun if you play your cards right.
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03-13-2015, 11:27 AM
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thanks guys, problem is im terrible on dates & situations like this
also i totally forgot to.mention that her family might be around to meet me aka im meeting EVERYONE, which is my BIGGEST PROBLEM (which i just found out about)
its actually more of him trying.to help me out as im horrible at this
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Originally Posted by hk20000 I went up to a cute chick and asked her if she'd let me take a photo of her for $30 she slapped me, she said to me that "I AIN'T A WHORE!"
But other than that I have seen every car on display in DTP just by cruising about in Richmond, thank you very much for collecting them together and get someone to sing a cover for "fuck you".
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Originally Posted by Neva wtf man? what the hell kind of women do you go for? spca is for animals not dates... | | |
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03-13-2015, 11:34 AM
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03-13-2015, 12:06 PM
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#25 | | reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum.
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Originally Posted by ae101 thanks guys, problem is im terrible on dates & situations like this
also i totally forgot to.mention that her family might be around to meet me aka im meeting EVERYONE, which is my BIGGEST PROBLEM (which i just found out about)
its actually more of him trying.to help me out as im horrible at this | LOL that's not really a date then. That's like her family judging to see if you two will marry.
Same thing happen to me. Went to meet gf in China. And of a sudden she said her parents wanted to invite me for lunch@@.
My advice is go in and relax. Be ready for some serious questions but don't give too specific answers (IE how much you make, when do you plan on getting marry, do you have a house...) Try to avoid giving straight answers but don't avoid it.
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