I'm 25, I've had some small experiences with this from time to time.
Basically, it's like this: Down2Ride is very close when she says "ppl in their 40s are more secure, they are comfortable with themselves, they dont need sex to validate them, they are ready to have fun." That's completely true, and that's why swingers are predominantly older. Young people are mostly still emotionally at odds with themselves. That's not to say that there aren't some young people who are comfortable with themselves and their sexuality and the emotions surrounding a swinging experience, I feel like I'm pretty well adjusted for it, but mostly young people just don't get it yet, and it shows in a lot of your posts.
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Originally posted by azn_babe
itz ppl's choices...=)
but ya...better do it b4 marriage...
n mayb when u have "experienced" enough, u might get a better n more serious marriage afterward, less chance of swinging...
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You're making swinging out to be cheating. It's not, and it's silly to do so.
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Originally posted by Down2Ride
u really think if ppl sleep around with different partners now, they are less likely to cheat/swing when they are older? no, they r gonna reember how fun it was, and want to do it again, and if their partner doesnt want to do it, they will most likely do it behind their backs
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Disagree. Most people who successfully swung when they were younger tend to be good communicators and honest people, and are unlikely to pick a long term partner later in life that wouldn't be as open as them sexually.
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Originally posted by 3zee
So basically...the whole point of swinging is to experience sex with different people. What is wrong with having sex for pleasure with your own partner? Is that so wrong? Its not like u gain anything from fucking another person, sex is sex, you feel the same everytime you orgasm. Personally I dont like the thought of swinger parties. Call me old fashioned, but when Im with my partner, I would only want to have sex with her, because sex is a physical expression of love, you dont just fuck everyone and anyone you want when your married. Swinger parties are just a bunch of hippies infested with STD's who have nothing else to do with thier lives. Why would you want to share your partner, the one you love with some dirty fuck? And if you want to fuck around, do it when your not married or with somebody. The whole point of playn around before you get married is soley for the fact that you are gonna be with someone for the rest of your life when you get married and you wont be able to sleep around anymore. I think swinger are couples who have lost the love for eachother, the relationship got boring, so they fuck around with other people, hardly a good way of solving things. Just my opinion.
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Well for one thing, you simply don't know anything about swinging. At all. Swingers are generally couples who are deeply and unwaveringly in love. Swinging doesn't work at all if you don't love your partner and are secure with them.
Second, you pretty clearly suck at sex. This quote is what tipped me off: "its not like u gain anything from fucking another person, sex is sex, you feel the same everytime you orgasm." Hahaha ouch.
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Originally posted by Down2Ride
thats exactly what swingers say, it spices up their love life....if u really love someone, why would u want to share them?
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Why does really loving someone have to mean possessing them? I guess this is where an older perspective comes in. I feel like you can love your partner, share them with someone else, and not have your love diminished, but a lot of people don't and those people should probably not try swinging. If you feel like life is about finding one person and staying with them forever no matter what, you're definitely not swinging material. Most swingers are just trying to live life to the fullest, experience the most they can, and build strong meaningful bonds with their partner(s), not screw around on their partner because they don't care anymore or because they have nothing better to do.
