Actually I think vmec makes allot of sense, she definitely has high expectations (she doesn't settle) but I totally understand what she trying to express. When the dating game playing ends, you want to be in her situation....

hey, at least she has the balls to express her honest opinion. Care to share why you are flabbergasted by her thought process?

I think it's just me. I'm a bit more independent and I guess I can find happiness in myself as opposed to having to find it from someone else. I get that it's important to need each other in relationships, but to find true interdependency is really hard.

Don't get me wrong. I don't settle either. I know what I deserve and what I want, but being able to find it within yourself is also just as rewarding.

you make allot of sense yourself;) I agree with your pt about finding happiness in yourself first. You are bang on....you can't find happiness with someone else until you are happy with yourself. Finding true interdependence is fucking hard...so when you find out, don't let it go.

please remember hindsight is always 20/20....I wouldn't have the energy to be single again....fucking way to much work and bullshit

I'm flabbergasted at your thought. I did express IMO, so let me to it. Yours is IYO.

I believe I have already found my true balence of dependance. I need him in the way I cannot make do without him. He needs me the same way. I'm clingy to him as he is to me. But since we're the same it's not noticed, nor is it a bother. I make my own money, do my own things, have my own posessions, friends etc. I'm not dependant on him if that's what you mean.

And my partner is not the one and only thing that makes me happy. I have lots that have made me happy before him, and would have lots if we broke up. But he does add happiness that can be achieved through no other way than love. Everything is a little bit better when I can share it with a lover.

I wasn't saying your opinion was wrong, I was just saying it made no sense to me. That's all.

It doesn't have to make sense to you.

Wife material:
buying me cheeseburgers when im hungry at night.

i'm glad to know people actually take my advice and apply it in real life, and it's working for them.

HAHAHA that's the best.

I'm a pretty picky guy, but all it comes down to is if my life is fun (enjoyable) with her or not, and if she seems like she will be able to be a capable mother.