Go to friendship counseling.

Totally, like most people I have really good friends who have a lot of the same interests and some totally opposite ones. When it comes to the same interests we hang out when it comes to doing things the other doesn't like we don't bother inviting each other because we know it's awkward and not fun for either party. There are no hurt feelings or anything it's just a mutual understanding.

I think it's the fact that you don't let him know that sometimes you are considerate towards him and still stuck around when it wasn't your crowd that caused him to think you are being a jerk to him. If he thought about how you were considerate for him before, maybe he will be considerate to you next time. But again, some people have lower EQ than others.

you can't please everybody, and he's gotta not be sucha downer.

both are in the wrong..but moreso with you, cause if you invite him out, you gotta give him attention..and just because he's not having a good time, doesnt mean you shouldn't either..he should've just peaced it without you having to tell him so.. just talk it out with him. miscommunication leads to misunderstanding.

every week me and my buddy go clubbin, but this one friday, he was invited to a bachelor party and he asked if he could bring me. naturally they said it was a closed party. so he said wtv, lets go clubbing then.

i thought "fuck man, we can go clubbing anyother time..but you need to go see some titties..just drop me off at home."

point in case: never ever drag your buddies down. you shouldn't even invite him out if you know he's not gonna have a good time.

Your friend's a downer with his own agenda, still a baby boy.

But on a side note, none of my friends have ever told me to skytrain/cab home before, EVER!

^did you ever feel leftout and wanted to go home early?

That's true. I think asking him, "do you mind taking the skytrain home" is worse then making him stick around till you're ready to leave. If he leave on his own, that's his problem.

I think he has something to be pissed about for you ditching him. But you already know he gets in these kinds of funks so just apologize to him for the skytrain part and never invite him out to any other events you may think he might not enjoy.

i thought you were his girlfriend for a second..

lol, not one of his guy buddies.

maybe you should have a talk with him and see what he really wants? :S
maybe somethn's going on lately that's bothering him?

close this thread already, getting frivolous

they are called rounds. not partials. and when you are cut out of the first round right off the bat, you're full of shit if you think that person wouldn't feel excluded.

why do folks feel the need to order rounds if they are gonna complain about an extra drink?

hes a loser...

Holy shit, sounds like we need to call in Dr. Phil.

But my buddies would be pretty pissed if I invited them out, and then my other buddies excluded them on the FIRST ROUND, especially if they were singled out.

totally agree with this

OP - yeh ur an asshole for complaining about how ur buddy sounded pissed at u...it doesn't even matter if the barternder was a closer friend

think of it this way...imagine urself in his shoes, u get invited by ur friend to a place where u don't really know anybody, get left out for shots, ur buddy then ignores u and focuses more on his other friends...wouldn't that make u feel unwanted too?

anyways, just be straight up with him and tell him that he needs to loosen up a bit, ur both guys so i'm sure that wont be too hard to bring up...u should also look out for him more when shit happens, like u should have done something when he got left out for drinks

What do you want me to tell my friend that bought the shots?

"Thanx for the drink but you should give my buddy a drink too even though you have already given him hundreds of dollars worth of drinks in the past even though he has never bothered to buy you a drink and now actually stands there and waits till you give him something?"

Or am I supposed to buy him a drink even though I'm not working right now and have to feed myself, pay rent and make payments while he lives at home for free? The thing is I'm always buying him drinks when we go out. I dont expect him to match me but it would be nice if every so often he would return the favor.
Another example was a couple weeks ago we went to teh casino for my buddies bday. Everyone loses there money but my one buddy. He put a quarter in the slot machine and ended up winning like $125. We are by the bar and my buddy buys himself a drink. The guy who's bday it was goes up and is about to buy himself a drink. I turned to my buddy and said "(friends name) has some extra cash... he can buy your drink.. its your bday". He sorta turned to me and gave me a dirty look cuz I was suggesting that he spend $5 buying a friend a bday drink.

Also I didnt tell my buddy to go home. Just after like the third time him asking me when we were leaving I was getting annoyed and I just said that I was having a good time and wasnt sure when I would be going home. Then I just said that since he lived so close to the skytrain he could just take that home if he really wanted to go home then.

That was midnight when that happened. Skytrain stops running at 1:15..

What would piss you off more..

1) Someone telling you "I'm not sure when I'm leaving" and then not getting home till almost 6 am.

or

2) Being told "Im not sure when I'm leaving but if you really want to go home you can still catch the skytrain"

Personally I would be more pissed with option 1 since after 1 he would have been stuck there for 5 more hours. I wasnt an asshole about it.