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Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...
Long story short, pissed off girl by walking out on her because she ignored me. We were talking about a touchy subject and I asked her "what do you mean to me" she took it the wrong way and ignored me so I walked out on her slamming the door. I tried talking to her and she warned me a bunch of times before not to walk out on her like everybody else in her life did. Posted via RS Mobile
What opinion do you want or is this more of a discussion?
My opinion and it's a fact that nice guys finish last, you are the living walking proof of it. Leave the touchy heavy stuff behind, your question is just sappy. Do I expect a man to be asking a question like that? No. On top of that, it was a horrible reaction on your part. Show some class not show how much of a macho boy you are and slam a door. Never let them know they got to you.
Solution: Wait a couple days. About 2 days, don't wait longer because she might have forgiven you and moved on then you're only reminding her about it again. Ask if the door suffered any fractured bones. Something funny, then apologize but be vague about it. Don't apologize to her specifically or about you're behavior because you put yourself down by doing so, just ask that funny question then say sorry. Then charm the shit out of her by making her laugh and listening to her answers for the next while. Don't bring up this incident ever again, apologize just once. Don't overuse it. After leave communication to a minimum for 3 - 4 weeks to give her space.
Remember if she's already out with you, save the heavy stuff until years down the road. Let the female initiate that stuff, therefore you know exactly where things are going. Keep them guessing, I keep telling you guys this and here she has you guessing! Only her interest level matters, and if it doesn't raise her IL then don't fucking say it. Posted via RS Mobile
I tried talking to her and she warned me a bunch of times before not to walk out on her I tried talking to her and she warned me a bunch of times before not to walk out on her like everybody else in her life did.
drama queen much?
She was ignoring you for a question she took the wrong way. You already apologized for your part; so don't let her feel like you should be dragged on coals for it because she's partly to blame as well. The Silent treatment is uber childish.
regardless of whatever it was, it is disrespectful to walk away on someone. that's just stupid on your part. I'll refrain from bashing cuase I haven't read the whole story yet.
Long story short, pissed off girl by walking out on her because she ignored me. We were talking about a touchy subject and I asked her "what do you mean to me" she took it the wrong way and ignored me so I walked out on her slamming the door. I tried talking to her and she warned me a bunch of times before not to walk out on her like everybody else in her life did. Posted via RS Mobile
based on this, i'd say both of you were immature. Her more than you though. at least you attempted to talk to her about whatever the issue was.
We have been have problems for 3 weeks now, and when we finally got to see each other all this shit blows up. We were laying in bed talking about my trip out of the country, she told me that we will talk everyday and then I asked her why? What are you to me? Meaning that I don't expect much from her and she doesn't have too talk to me everyday when I'm gone. She took it hard and then ignored me, so I got fed up and walked out on her. After my little drive around the block I come home and she told me its not going to work out anymore because she has warned me before not to walk out, since everyone has walked out on her. Posted via RS Mobile
You asked the wrong question, it should've been "what am I to you".
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Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
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OP, you fucked up when you said 'why, what are you to me?'.
From a girl's POV, that's sort of a slap in the face. I realize that you meant it in a different way, but you totally worded it wrongly. No wonder why she was pissed off.
A lot of these posters don't even know what they're talking about.
trying to hold your pride and ignoring her till she messages you isn't gonna help you at all.
I'm not saying she's right. If she doesn't want people to walk out on her, maybe she should stop giving the cold shoulder. What does she expect you to do? Sit there until she's ready to talk? That could take days or even weeks! (Believe me, I'm a girl, I would know)
if you wanna fix things up, you need to apologize for losing your temper and being insensitive towards her feelings. if I were your gf, that would have translated to 'you aint shit I don't wanna talk to you everyday'
At the same time, don't apologize a million times, once is enough. And I wouldn't let her get away with thinking that she's completely right either. Posted via RS Mobile
V.Rossi, with your solution, you're not solving the real issue.
It annoys the hell out of me when guys don't do anything about the underlying issue. Its basically brushing her off. If you want to make things right, charming the shit out of her won't make her forget about what he said. Posted via RS Mobile
We have been have problems for 3 weeks now, and when we finally got to see each other all this shit blows up. We were laying in bed talking about my trip out of the country, she told me that we will talk everyday and then I asked her why? What are you to me? Meaning that I don't expect much from her and she doesn't have too talk to me everyday when I'm gone. She took it hard and then ignored me, so I got fed up and walked out on her. After my little drive around the block I come home and she told me its not going to work out anymore because she has warned me before not to walk out, since everyone has walked out on her. Posted via RS Mobile
That really doesn't paint her in a good light IMO based on those words.
She should be asking herself "why is everyone walking out on her?" instead of demanding from people to "stop walking out on her." Whether it's a personality issue? ego issue? being batshit crazy issue? you're the only one best to know.
The more important question really is "what is she really to you"? I mean you don't really care if you guys stay in close contact while you're out of town, so how invested are you into the friendship/relationship?
Like what's it worth for you to fix it? What if she drags you over coals for it; Make you earn her like you're courting her for a relationship? I think when you answer that question to yourself, you'll know what you can and are willing to do vs. what you won't do.
But what v.Rossi was getting at is that these touchy subjects are left for later down the road cuz they're not even dating(if im correct OP?). As much as I would feel comfortable talking to a girl about my/her problems, there are still somethings that I would keep to myself.
In my opinion I think you did fuck up walking out on her. Its just disrespectful to do that regardless of the situation...
Make it up to her by sweet talking a bit so that she recognizes that you feel bad for walking out on her but NOT too much to the point where it makes her feel she has you in the grasp of her palm!
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There's a lot more that built up to this situation, I'm just frustrated because I've been trying for MONTHS and I haven't given up yet. She told me that she's confused about us but at the same time she wants to be with me, I just can't shake the feeling that I'm on her "hook" just a little frustrated with everything and now I have to leave. Not gonna lie I'm afraid lol Posted via RS Mobile
V.Rossi, with your solution, you're not solving the real issue.
It annoys the hell out of me when guys don't do anything about the underlying issue. Its basically brushing her off. If you want to make things right, charming the shit out of her won't make her forget about what he said. Posted via RS Mobile
What more does she want then an apology? 10 free dinners? No.
The real issue is op likes to yap about insecure things, solution is don't. But obviously apologize once for his action because that's really all he can and should do. Brushing the issue aside? Why he is even having issues when he's trying to date her already makes no sense, wrong direction. I know the girl won't forget about it but he can change his needy/insecure self and do something about it, by going the right direction. But regardless, op is saying he's been trying for months I already think that's a waste of his and her time. I don't think the relationship is going to happen, there's already problems and they aren't even exclusive. Posted via RS Mobile
There's a lot more that built up to this situation, I'm just frustrated because I've been trying for MONTHS and I haven't given up yet. She told me that she's confused about us but at the same time she wants to be with me, I just can't shake the feeling that I'm on her "hook" just a little frustrated with everything and now I have to leave. Not gonna lie I'm afraid lol Posted via RS Mobile
She said she's confused. That's woman talk for I'm not really interested but I'll keep you here still until something better comes along. No woman is ever confused not since Eve and the apple. Posted via RS Mobile
I'm a guy and I don't condone other guys walking away in a hissy fit. Actually, I only storm off as a tactical way to shut her up, and if I KNOW she will run after me.
Never storm off if she is mad and hurt because of your actions. Posted via RS Mobile
dont' worry man, just let her go. ignore her and she'll come back at you. You can beg and shit but really? do you want to be the 22 yr old that begs for a girl back cause she said "i warned you to not walk out on me".
as long as you aint' lying and you are putting in 100%, then fuck it. peace out and move on, she'll come crawling back.
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