Friend put our friendship on the line over her bf (Serious post) **need advice**

[k2_alpha]

Three things.

1. Blee123 and Noir, there is a multi quote option. Please use it. If you post consecutive posts, it is considered inflating your post count (spam.)

2. Blee123, this section is for advice. You must have an open mind as not all answers will be to your liking.

3. I agree with the previous posters. You need to back off. It doesn't matter if you are mad or worried. She chose to cut contact with you BECAUSE HER BF is MORE important to her THAN YOU. Unless you have solid suspicions/evidence, that she is being abused, then you should respect her decision.

As a 24 year old, you should be mature enough to respect other people's decisions. She chose her path. If it crumbles beneath her, you can step in when it does. Until then, back off and stop messaging her friend for information. It is a blatant disregard for her wishes and it also causes you to appear as a creep.

[Glove]

I think this might be a possible troll...

[k2_alpha]

^quite possibly.

will continue to monitor and if it gets out of hand he is getting banned.

[Noir]

Okay if you're really legitimately looking for help and not just looking for people who will eat up your sob story, listen to this:


It doesn't matter how much you say to yourself or to others that all your interests are strictly platonic. All that matters is how your actions are interpreted by others.

Despite your repeated assurances that you have no romantic feelings for her, look how many people are convinced otherwise. Take a good look at the plethora of people present and see how your actions look from the outside-in. Now do you blame the gf and the bf for distancing themselves with you with respect to their new-found relationship?

Sometimes it doesn't matter what people say. It's really more about what people do.

Originally Posted by SumAznGuy

Why? Cause you want her back in your life so bad that you want her and her bf to break up? You sure you only want her as a friend?

All this tells me otherwise.

Originally Posted by PeanutButter

you obviously got feelings for her

Originally Posted by Glove

this guy is in serious denial

if you had no interest in her romantically,

why would you even give a shit? go find another friend, there are millions of them out there

Originally Posted by VrrM604

Only you would really know, but it does sounds like you have feelings for this friend of yours...a little more than being frriends

I think it's best to put some distance between yourself and herself right now (which I guess she is doing). If it is meant to be, it's meant to be...

Originally Posted by Araaadi

imo. Op you're being a little bitch. Not to be rude buts it's pretty obvious she wants nothing to do with you so her bf can be happy. Stop thinking about her. It seems obvious you have more than friendly feelings for her if you worry this much. I've been in a situation like this before, just drop her from your life and watch her come crawling back after they break up.
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Originally Posted by parm104

SEE what you did there! Nobody asked if she was attracted to you! You brought that issue up yourself and you BASICALLY implied that you don't want to give yourself false hope. Smart move, it's easier to move on that way.

Pretty girls with a good personality are hard to find...why do you need both for a friend??? Ideally you'd want that from a PARTNER...

You are in denial!!

[dinosaur]

At this point...I'm pretty sure we are all wasting our time with this dude.
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[blee123]

Ok after reading through all the responses here, i think i will take everyone's advices into consideration.

For now i will leave this thread as the mod here would not close it so other users can refer to this thread. Please only post if you have been in this same situation before and if you are willing to share your thoughts on it.

[Razor Ramon HG]

Looked at other threads the OP made.

Conclusion: OP is a troll, and is definitely not 24.

[blee123]

Originally Posted by Razor Ramon HG

Looked at other threads the OP made.

Conclusion: OP is a troll, and is definitely not 24.

failed you for being an idiot and once again assuming things. Please do not post on this thread if u are again to post useless stuff.

why don't u creep at all my post instead of just looking at the ones i have started.

In conclusion: you are the troll

Once again gtfo out of this thread because you have nothing to contribute unlike ppl like Noir or Mindbomber or dinosaur.

[Noir]

Originally Posted by Razor Ramon HG

Looked at other threads the OP made.

Conclusion: OP is a troll, and is definitely not 24.

If he is a troll, then my hat's of to him. He just baited Mindbomber and tru...azn to admitting they have the same problem with girls. At least in the 4 pages, they're the only ones who keep consistently "thanking" his circumstance.

[tru_blue]

Originally Posted by Noir

If he is a troll, then my hat's of to him. He just baited Mindbomber and tru...azn to admitting they have the same problem with girls. At least in the 4 pages, they're the only ones who keep consistently "thanking" his circumstance.

i thank posts that i agree on, not like i thank their every post lol
according to all your posts on this thread, you seem to keep up the fact that you are always correct by quoting and arguing against others. You may think you are the relationship specialist by thinking you are always right when others may not think so.

This thread was made by the op in seek of advice, share ideas and not be bashed on what he did wrong.

[blee123]

thanks for the replies guys,enough valuable advices were given and they are already more than enough. I am going to close this thread so no more misunderstanding erupts from it, good luck to everyone here and please let this thread fade