Engagement gift
 

Is it customary to get someone an engagement gift?

I just found out yesterday that a close family member got engaged with a good family friend.

Don't really know the etiquette, as I don't know many people who get married, especially those that are close to me.

not usually. Usually the gifts are reserved for engagement parties, bridal showers, actual wedding, etc...

no....at least i hope not. i've never given one.

b/w wedding gift, bridal shower, stag, and staggette....the couple gets enough shit. im not giving any more...

they get ONE gift.

^^^

And that's the wedding gift.

My wife's cousin just got engaged recently, and, of course, there's a party to attend. Apparently, there's a registry? Yeah... fuck that shit. We'll give them our presence, and well wishes. There's still a bridal shower, where more gifts are expected, and then the wedding day. For the shower, I figure we'll get her a 12-inch black dildo, and hopefully not get invited to any more of those things.

Asian families just give red pockets usually 50 bux per person that attends wedding banquet.

I have never given an engagement gift nor received one. I think the consensus is, women have received the best gift, the gift of a man who will put up with her for 50 years then die happy knowing it won't continue. If anything, men should be getting the ring.
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For your wedding gift you may want to find out what calibre wedding they are throwing.

The last wedding that I went to was open bar with a huge buffet, photo booth and all the bells and whistles on new years eve.

Personally, I would want to at least try to cover my own costs.

BBC!