I like to add is the OP JOE_45?
If it is grats on finally getting a gf!

sounds like after all those years of learning how to treat a girl, you didn't learn how to pick the right type of girl.

RS really needs a minimum age requirement of atleas 21 to post in the relationship forum,

this is retarded

minimum age = 21
minimum # of exes = 1

This is coming from my experience: The advantage of men is usually they have trust. I also have my first girlfriend at the age of 21. There are a couple times where my girlfriend has done things to lose my trust in her, but there is also what results of it, which makes the difference. We worked things out and hopefully it will be for the better. I don't trust her at all most of the times but showing it expressively and being concerned is a huge difference

If shes out with guys, then knowing who they are and asking nicely in an understanding manner is most beneficial. Then you would know but don't keep it on your mind all day long because it will distract you. Basically sometimes, especially younger, the girl should be the one that is more insecure because that allows the guy to know the game is still on and we as guys are winning. Of course, as you progress then the trust levels out or when you're older its a different matter. My suggestion is don't worry about it too much, what needs to happen must happen. If it's for the worse then just learn from this experience and get to know someone before getting into a relationship.

Relationships takes committment and the acceptance of what your significant other is for what they are, not what you want them to be.

In the OP's case, I think he really needs to decide whether or not he can handle a LTR with a girl thats always partying/drinking.

That's not to say she'll fuck up, but the temptation will always be there for her, especially if they're both 18/19. Their "nightlives" are just beginning, and alot of people dont grow out of it until their mid twenties.

Personally, I would never want a committed relationship with a girl thats always out partying. My brother had a gf like that,
I believe she was around the OP's age and it was constant arguing with them. The weird thing was, it was her that was always out partying, but if my bro did it, she was CONSTANTLY accusing him of having a hidden agenda. I was like :rukidding:

I'm ok with helping the young peeps out. I remember being young, and stupid and given that I personally didn't exactly have the best role models in my parents in what an actual relationship would look like that didn't feature things flying across the room, I would have appreciated getting some straight advice.

In high school, early uni, your friends can't help because they are just as young, and just as dumb to this shit as you are.

I don't know, maybe I can keep someone from spending 6 years in a crap relationship like I did and it makes me feel a little better saving a guy from wasting some pretty important years.

In short, lighten up guys.

^ thanks dad :okay:

You cannot stop her from cheating by being overprotective. What you can do is draw a line in the sand and tell both her and yourself that if she chooses to risk your relationship in that way, it’s over. But asking her “who are you going out with?” trying to keep her from hanging out with slutty friends, or butchering her with interrogative questions will never, ever prevent her from cheating.

If a girl WANTS to cheat on you, she will find a way to cheat on you. You can try and maintain a healthy relationship, you can keep her interest level high, you can build a strong sense of trust, but you CANNOT impede on her freedom in a way that will proactively stop her from cheating.

There’s always a risk she’ll cheat. Yes, if she sees you as the undisputed Alpha heavy weight champion, there’s little chance of real emotional cheating. But could she get drunk at a party, suffer from a split second of secksual attraction, and end up hooking up with a guy?

Could her subconsciously driven crack-headed need for drama, that impulsive desire for that oh-so-wondrous chemical rush, make her do something she’ll regret later? Yes.

So what’s the answer? Nothing. There is no solution to these, there is only the hope of coming to peace with them. You’re in a relationship and your girlfriend suddenly brings up some shit that happened a long time ago? Don’t freak out. She says some completely illogical shit that makes less sense than a single penny? It’s ok. Embrace it. Let go. As time goes on, you find yourself getting more over protective because you’re afraid she might throw everything away? Let go. It’s not going to help.

Life is a risk, love is a risk. There is no security. As long as you struggle for it, you will remain struggling for it. The moment you STOP seeking utopia is the moment you arrive in it.

The following is a reply from the anonymous member

alright thanks everyone for your thoughts on my situation!
i talked to her about trust and everything and she said that even though she may be with all those guys if she did like them she'd be with her, but no she just said that no one ever treated her was well as i have.
now i feel on top of the world and i feel alpha as fuck :awwyeah::fuckyea:
and i cleared the whole worry of if cheating and she acknowledged and understood
all this wouldn't work out if it were for you guys!
thanks so much!

not sherriff srs
if so, good for u brah

can we have a rule where we dont talk as if we're all miscers? drives me nuts! lol

Like we all state our name and age before we post?:suspicious:

Sorry to burst your bubble. No one has treated me as well as you have is heading towards friends zone lol.

TBH you can't plan a long term relationship.

I met my gf when I was 13 and we have been together ever since. Now I am 22.

Strong username to title to post content to age ratio