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i went to Centennial school and i knew people who went to CABE, don't paint everyone with the same brush.
I went to alternate schools, nearly every kid I met was 10 times more fucked up than I was. Even though I was neglected, I at least was big enough that my dad would never hit me after I turned about 13. To this day I still sometimes think of how much fun it would be to beat the shit out of my dad for all the times he scared me as a kid.
There will always be bullying, in every aspect of life be it family, school, work, etc. You can do your part by not being part of it, and not adding to the damn problem
I'm willing to bet many bullies were never trusted or given power or autonomy at home, and instead decide to take it when in public
You may be right. Bullies feel insecure and weak, to "prove" to themselves they are neither, they take it out on others.
Strong people make others feel great around them, they give compliments and light up the room. Weak bullies make other feel bad to make themselves feel "strong".
This story is just so sad...
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I was bullied to a mild degree in elementary and high school too because I was a bit smarter than the rest. I still carry a bit of a chip in my shoulder to this day as a result. There is no doubt that what I went through in my childhood at school has made me the person I am today. On the other hand, I'm not so sure if it can ever be stopped. It's a dog eat dog world out there and every child needs to learn how to stand up for themselves in the battle that is life. I'm not advocating physical violence, but we shouldn't ask our kids to turn to their parents every time something happens. Children should learn how to defend themselves in a way that is non-violent, but assertive and ultimately, respected by friends and foes alike. Posted via RS Mobile
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I was also bullied through out elementary and high school, it sucks, but you have to stay positive eh. Once you loose that, nothing good will come out of it.
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It almost always starts at home from a fucked up parent
Today's parents also drug up their kids so fucking fast, and prescription drugs are a whole other world of abuse
Difference between you and me? You think you're proud of making people feel miserable and can easily justify it however many years later. You still think you did the world a favour? you're a joke. Keep placing the blame on everyone else.
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In light of this tragic event, I think it would be fitting for Revscene to remove this from the smilies: :noob:
I always thought that thread was a cyber bullying thread, and this event just makes me think of it again. He may have acted like a douchebag, and acted out against Revscene, but what does it say about us to mock him and bully him the way we did?
Bradford is no longer on RS and neither should his picture.
Difference between you and me? You think you're proud of making people feel miserable and can easily justify it however many years later. You still think you did the world a favour? you're a joke. Keep placing the blame on everyone else.
I have no regrets, I am who I am, the bridges on fire behind me lit my path ahead
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I had a very close relative commit suicide at 16 because of bullying. There were signs, but no one ever thought they were serious enough to commit suicide.
i watched this yesterday too. it really hit a soft spot for me. going through being bullied in high school. telling your parents never did and can do much. what are your parents to do go to the councellor? My councellor was a lazy ass who was buddy buddy with the popular group. Parents can blame but in the world of high school theres not much you can do. Sounds like she just needed friends who could protect her or someone.
Its a sad story that a beautiful life was lost but at the same time. I also wonder too about the other side of the story. Girls flashing on webcam is a questionable deed. one must always know there is no such thing as privacy on the internet. the stalker who blackmailed her definitely needs help and to serve some serious time. who has the time to go out of their way to make someones life so difficult. same with the girls that beat her they need to do some time.
it was just a really bad combination of everything imo
Parents were divorced (assuming that's what she meant by 'staying at my moms')
Online bully pressuring her for sexual favors
Guy takes her virginity for fun
Gets beat up by the guy (indirectly) who took her virginity, at the same time it was probably announced to the entire school what went down between the 2 of them
On antidepressants and anxiolytics which has shown a link in increased suicidal tendencies in youth.
Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk..
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That's really just a small sample of what bullying is about. An even bigger one is the flaw of "social heirarchy."
People are just naturally on top, and some people are just naturally grouped at the bottom. The problem is people on top think because they're higher on the social totem pole means they can step on anyone that's below them. This starts in highschool but is still somewhat existent throughout adulthood.
So no. In response to your post, bullies aren't always the insecure, un-loved, unhappy little teenagers that just happen to take it out on the world instead. I think more often than not, bullies are people who have a lot more going on for themselves than their peers and therefore feel superior amongst others.
At least that's my opinion anyways of the douchebags I've met growing up in Vancouver.
I think that those who are at the top of "social hierarchy" know it and are usually confident. Confident people do not bully others, and why would they? By contrast, someone who has self esteem issues may see bullying as an antidote, a way to come out feeling stronger in comparison to someone else. Bullies pick on weak, if they were confident they would pick on someone their own strength.
I was bullied in one of the schools I attended by those who were simply physically stronger, they weren't secure because I had better grades. Kicking me once in a while was their way to see they were "better" than someone with higher grades. To me, that showed insecurity. And if you fast forward to 15 years later, those guys are no where near the top of the "social hierarchy", they are not leaders... they are disgruntled employees taking out their frustrations on co-workers.
Maybe I am wrong, I am not a psychologist... the above conclusions are just my observations and opinion.
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There's so many different cases and exceptions, so there's no "formula" on why people bully.
It exists, but there are many different reasons why it happens.
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did u even watch the video? it says all of this pretty much in it
