divorce and chinese culture
 

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3 months and thinking about marriage within a year?

dude.

no.

Let me buy you a beer instead.

we're falling in love pretty fast lol. though there's no rush for me really im 27 she's 26

what comes fast goes down even faster........

Mega troll

Come on man...

so you're dating for 3 months, thinking about marriage and worrying about divorce and prenuptuals?

did I sum that up quite right? keep reading this over and over again please.

You like turtles, do ya?

prenup dude.

no matter what


why are people afraid of raising it?

i would assume it's the DEFAULT OPTION. you you talk about it to REMOVE it.

that's how i view it.

all marriages are by default with prenup.

Is the divorce rate higher among Chinese couples?

If you're already thinking about divorce and pren-up after 3 months of dating, I suggest that you re-think about marriage.

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just reading the thread i can't take it seriously...3 months thinking of marriage but thinking of divorce options too...:lawl: i will not be trolled

It took me three months to decide what winter jacket to buy.

asians...

Three months? Come back and talk to us again in a few years :fuckthatshit:

By then it was almost summer lol

people in van wear bombers year round winter wear and summer hahaha

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here are a few things that you should ask BEFORE you get married.

1) DO you have a check list for house work?
When you work, you have a list of shit you have to do.
when you are a student, you have a list of shit you have ot study for
same for relationsihp.

when i am dating, i literally say to my gf, this is what I do, this is my division of labour, what the fuck are you going to do. You can't expect me to do everything, and it goes both ways. I have a list down pat that we both share. If you gf think you're stupid, please kick her the fuck out.

2) i have an apartment, you want to get married, fine. you move in, you pay half of hte down payment and you pay 1/2 mortgage. we are 1/2, you pay for your 1/2. or you write a pre-nup.

you ain't living rent free nor do i expect me to if i moved in.

If you can't simply work these two common finances issues, don't get married.

agree with #1. although i dont know if i would use a "list" per say.

see a few issues with #2
- where is the married relationship? When you get married, you become "one". your money becomes hers , and her money becomes yours. if s/he has shitty financial planning, you work on it during the dating phase not after you move in together/get married.

- "pay half the downpayment"? You expect her to reimburse you for a cost you incurred? Why? If she doesn't like the place does she still have to pay 15k (assume 30k dp). I'm sure she'll contribute toward shared costs.


there seems to be a common theme that 'pre-nup' is default document in being married? is this new for 2012? sorry i missed the memo and want to know.

You are right, not really a check list, but you should be comfortable to really set the a few rules on what you need to do. I know a couple who does ALL the mofo cleaning at the house and she ain't happy; get these things out of the way and lay down some ground rules on division of labour (this goes to boys and girls).

I have seen a lot of older couples who the girl or the guy reimburse the down payment; one side moves in together and he/she pays them back + mortgage. to be honest, i have yet to meet a couple who got married and say "why don't you sell your place and we can both buy some place new" i rarely see this but I do believe it could be normal.