What not to look for in wife / keeper material
 

I read this and I tend to agree with a lot of the points here. What are your thoughts on this subject?

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I mean that 19 year old part is just silly.... other than that gospel or bs? Sound off below. :suspicious:

Disagree with the change. Everything in life and the things around you shape who you are as an individual. Small compromises are good, as stated in the article, though drastic change is bad. They make themselves sound narrow minded with a "take it or leave it" mindset.

Many of them are pretty obvious, such as the materialistic one. The rest can really be to each their own.
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Wow that 19 year old one is complete bullshit. I'm 24 and my SO is in her 30's. i have dated ppl my age and younger and it's nothing but immature girls not willing to grow up and get out if some stupid high school 90210 jersey shore mindset
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I don't see the "change" point as being about compromise. It is about having an identity.

Cooking your fav food?! :rukidding: She ain't your servant.

19 years old!? :rukidding: Wanna know the reason for this? Anyone over 19 will be able to smell your bullshit and not care whether or not she fit your your "list"

I agree as I mentioned above. But when you're with a girl that doesn't change one bit at all, doesn't tell you her problems, sighs things off and acts uncomfortably around you..simply to say "that's the way I am. If you don't like it then leave". That's when you see a narrow minded individual who doesn't compromise for any sake of the relationship at all. There is a fine like between identity and being plain stubborn and narrow minded. Not many are like this, but there are those out there >_>
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Sorry, I totally read that "change" point wrong. Me mornin' eyes have failed me.

Compromise is imperative for a successful relationship. The best relationships are those where you change and grow together.

But "change" as in making you 180 degrees from who you are just to suit their ideal would be where the line is drawn is it not?

Read the OP the 19 year old one crossed out the rest sounds sound? I do think being able to cook / make / buy at least 1 of your favorite dish is very important. Food feeds the soul as well...

So let's deconstruct this, or as you put it, sound off:

I'd like to point out that being able to "cook/make/buy" food for you (or anyone else) is genderless.

Some of the most successful chefs out there are men.

Be that as it may, it is a wonderful perk to have your significant other take care of your nutritious needs.

Beyond this, change is personal. If someone wishes for you to change, their intentions need to be examined (suiting their ideals doesn't really cut it--unless their ideals match up with your personal aspirations--which I've found to be rarely the case).

If and when you feel that you wish to change too, then that's great. Not only is change personal, but the will to change is in introspection. If you feel that someone is making you change, as opposed to yourself, then you have your answer: you're not going to change.

yup no kidding esp the part about the 90210 jersey shore shit. i even know a girl who's turning 30, still the same shit, believe it or not some never get out of that immature crap. I tell you one thing, no matter how good looking, how good the sex is, how smart, how much money they have, ... if she's a mean bitch that just cancels all that. Cuz once you marry a mean bitch, she'll get meaner and meaner as the years go by and the looks get old, the sex gets predictable, the money is wasted (because she's mean) and while she gets smarter over the years, the smarts makes her meaner.

Let me tell ya, if she's mean, that means her heart is garbage, and if a female doesn't have a good heart, she belongs in the trash.

"Behind every 10/10,

There is a man whom is tired of her bullshit"

^LOOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!

Put it this way, every man and every woman have different ideals on what their "keeper" should be. There is no formula, specific criteria, whatever it may be that labels someone that perfect wife or husband. What works for you, might not work for someone else. And what works for someone else, might not work for you. I'd guess 99% of men would hate to be with a greedy, backstabbing, hawt bitch....but there's always that 1% that adore it. It's all about that person on what they want and don't want.

To each their own.

I think when people are younger, they tend to think more..."oh this person needs to have this, this, and this. Or do this, this, and this." But ultimately at the end of the day it's about the connection those 2 people have regardless of if their personality sucks or what not. ..Just my 2cents.

Would you guys date a girl who majority of her friends are guys ? Or she has close guy friends than girls ?
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Sure, why not. Just because a woman has a male friend doesn't mean she's sucking his dick.

So obvious, yet so many people have trouble with that point.
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lol, so true.

and i see all these girls posting articles about there being no more gentlemen... they don't realise, gentlemen don't exist without ladies, and the role of the lady is as clear laid out as the role of a gentleman is. play your fucking role, and the other side will play theirs. break your role, and the other side will break theirs.

Most of my girlfriend's friends are guys. This used to annoy the shit out of me, mainly because most of them have asked her out before, a lot of them still like her, and they still hang out/talk regularly. But you just learn to get over it, and remember that you're the one she chose to be with.

Qft.
Have you met some of the women out there? Drama causing, superficial, only cares about what her boyf can buy her, etc. That being said, since moving here I've found a few chill women thankfully and not saying all women are like this. Most men are just so much easier to relate to and cause less headaches

A red flag for me are women who don't have female friends.

It says:
1. Not diplomatic (can't handle differing view points/criticisms)
2. Poor judge of character if she thinks all women are drama setters
3. Insecure
4. Princess mentality

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lol

Describes my ex-wife. :suspicious:

I am going to make the assumption your gf is attractive.......hawt girls don't have guy friends! They have guys hanging out because the dudes think they have .01% chance to sleep with her!

If a girl doesn't have good gfs, she's got issues. If a guy had only girls as friend, what would you think?

I think that's stupid.

my gf has only a few gf's and more guy friends. its not they want to sleep with her, its that they're easier for her to get along with because theres less drama. she likes to go out camping, go quading, chug back some beers, bring out the guns into the bush and 4x4 etc etc. shes a hot tom boy...but I guess that's what you get when you live out in the boonies in the back ends of maple ridge lol.

(its actually quite nice. shes all girly, does her nails, hair, make up everyday. but she loves to get down and dirty and hates clubs. so I get the best of both worlds...cheap weekends by buying a case of beer and hanging with some friends around an outdoor fire pit, and have a girl whos dressed up standing beside me :D)


ps - the thing I run from is when a girl gets grumpy or has a tantrum and just shuts herself out for days on end or plays the whole "I don't want to see you for a week...or until I call you".
we're grown ups, not 13 year olds in their first relationship. if you cant act like a big girl and deal with your problems head on, then you'll probably have even bigger problems down the line when bigger things come up.