I really shouldn't, but I just can't help myself.

First date and you're meeting her whole family... :lawl:

I can't even imagine how things are gonna go on date night.

Dude, just relax and and treat it as another other casual dinner meet up. But please report back.

That's messed up. There might be a reason why she can't get a boyfriend in Canada. Those would-be boyfriends aren't dating a girl, they're dating a family from the start.

Normal thing: Go out with a girl, and if she likes you enough, she'll introduce you to her family and vice versa.

Not normal: Having her family around while you don't even know what this girl looks like or who she is at all and then have her family on a panel to judge you. All while you're trying to figure out who who this girl is and what the fuck is going on all around.

Just looking at this objectively. That's not how things work normally in Canada. Even Indian arranged marriages will be less awkward.

With friends that set you up like this, who needs enemies?

As long as it doesn't end up like this, you'll be ok. Seriously though, just relax and try not to stress out about it.

Meeting her family is bullshit.

You're the one going out of your way to do a favour. Set your own terms for the meeting. Meet up at a cafe or something. Like other have said: keep it casual. Tell 'em flat out that it's weird to meet the family, especially on a blind date!

If her family is going to be there and it's against your nature/filial piety to resist, then you might as well go in with guns blazing and just give them straight answers to their questions. This will cut out the BS and if you meet expectations, it's pretty much a license to have sex with her on the second date in their basement.

You should totally mess with them and bring a lawyer (or a friend pretending to be one).

Agreed, Op should bring a panel of RS crew in suits. Sit with 5 on each side and question the chick and deal with the family.

I think we got ten people in this thread, right? It's only fair.

Go for the puss then gtfo

No, your problem is you don't have confidence. "I am terrible at this, terrible at that", you can do well if you just put your mind to it. Unless you have brain damage from inducing drugs or dropped on your head as a baby, I don't see how terrible you can be.

As far as the family shit, if that's what she expects you to do, to meet her family on the first or second date... go tell her to fuck herself. What kind of bitch puts a guy through that much pressure on the first date, not to mention the first year.

Whichever one of these bothers you the most, go deal with it head on like a man. Being scared or being forced into isn't going to help you at all. If it's a yes, then do it. If it's a no, tell her and move on.

OP needs help from "Jan" :troll:

I don't understand get the whole pressure issue. OP originally said he was going through with this because he was 'helping out' the friend. Sure, it may be awkward with the family there, but it is not like he is even in a relationship with the girl -- there really isn't anything on the line.

Unless OP actually has high hopes for this blind date, which would be a fairly important detail to neglect, I do not see why there can be so much stress.

Assuming the OP wants the blind date to work out, he'd have to impress the family also.

Unless you expect him to just go there and DGAF about anything and just blab out anything, then there is no pressure whatsoever. But then what is the point of even trying in the first place?

These are the events in your life that will give you more character.

if it works out, ok great u found yourself a wife.

if it doesn't. lol, this is the kinda story you can tell your friends and not be boring and awkward.

IT'S ADVENTURE TIME GO DO IT.

OP please come back with pix

My story about meeting up with a girl online
She turned out to be wayyyy bigger then her picture . And I actually faked that my mom went to the hospital in order to get out of that date.
Its the best story I tell my friend . They all love it.
We laugh. Its all good.

So what you are saying is that you are a shallow piece of shit.

Damn I actually got my mom to call me exactly at 8 to tell me that I have a curfew to get out of this one awkward ass dinner. deffs shits and giggles stories among my girlfriends.

Anyways OP I think others said it enough times but stop telling yourself you're not confident. You're not confident because you keep convincing yourself you are.
as for meeting her family, fuck that shit if you don't feel comfortable doing that part. Just respectfully decline saying that's not canadian custom if she wants canadian bf so badly

thanks for the help guys, im not looking to get married (but she is & her clock is ticking fast, as i was told), which is why she came all this way back hoping to find one

& im not gonna be posting her pic, cuz if shes from vancouver then i have clearly broken the golden rule of NO LOCALS, unless shes a pain in the ass :troll:

She is 25 and her clock is ticking fast? Tons of people are 35+ and they still aren't married / have kids yet, even though they still plan to do so. FailFish

And, if she is "coming back" to Vancouver (presumably from China?), the obviously she is not local, and no golden rules are broken. Also, you don't have to post her pic either -- it doesn't hurt if you just PM it to those of us here in this thread. :troll:

there's too much western attitude in here with "fuck them if they want you to meet their family" and her clock is ticking too fast at 25.

lol, the women here that are 35+ and arent married with no kids are already gg. they just wont admit it yet. and progressive libertarian idealistic bullshit masks that delusion even more.

in china they know whatsup. she's 25, she's approaching expiry super fast. it's one of those, if they hit it off, it's married and kids right away. Those things are priority over anything else to them. Over happiness. yes. even that. adding to the collective, the family, is above the individual.

just go. just GOOOOO. and report back. it'll be funny. maybe not at the time (but it will be here, afterwards. lol).

you'll have a good story.

did the dinner happen yet?

i would have said no the moment i found out the family is meeting you on the first date. i don't know how you would even have a remote chance of saying yes to that lol

Can this be a new reality series?

Man Vs. Blind Date and Family

when is this supposed to be?

this forum needs more shit... speak it out thread is pathetic.

in all seriousness, op let me take ur spot if u can't man up to do it, i'm hella bored nowadays and could use a refresher

pm me the details and i'll take one for the team and report here afterwards haha

i wish i had friends who'd hook me up too

i dont know when its happening & when it starts, im still awaiting for the details

BTW, my friends 40 something years old