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also i totally forgot to.mention that her family might be around to meet me aka im meeting EVERYONE, which is my BIGGEST PROBLEM (which i just found out about)
its actually more of him trying.to help me out as im horrible at this
I really shouldn't, but I just can't help myself.
First date and you're meeting her whole family...
I can't even imagine how things are gonna go on date night.
Dude, just relax and and treat it as another other casual dinner meet up. But please report back.
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Originally Posted by ae101
thanks guys, problem is im terrible on dates & situations like this
also i totally forgot to.mention that her family might be around to meet me aka im meeting EVERYONE, which is my BIGGEST PROBLEM (which i just found out about)
its actually more of him trying.to help me out as im horrible at this
That's messed up. There might be a reason why she can't get a boyfriend in Canada. Those would-be boyfriends aren't dating a girl, they're dating a family from the start.
Normal thing: Go out with a girl, and if she likes you enough, she'll introduce you to her family and vice versa.
Not normal: Having her family around while you don't even know what this girl looks like or who she is at all and then have her family on a panel to judge you. All while you're trying to figure out who who this girl is and what the fuck is going on all around.
Just looking at this objectively. That's not how things work normally in Canada. Even Indian arranged marriages will be less awkward.
With friends that set you up like this, who needs enemies?
thanks guys, problem is im terrible on dates & situations like this
also i totally forgot to.mention that her family might be around to meet me aka im meeting EVERYONE, which is my BIGGEST PROBLEM (which i just found out about)
its actually more of him trying.to help me out as im horrible at this
As long as it doesn't end up like this, you'll be ok. Seriously though, just relax and try not to stress out about it.
You're the one going out of your way to do a favour. Set your own terms for the meeting. Meet up at a cafe or something. Like other have said: keep it casual. Tell 'em flat out that it's weird to meet the family, especially on a blind date!
If her family is going to be there and it's against your nature/filial piety to resist, then you might as well go in with guns blazing and just give them straight answers to their questions. This will cut out the BS and if you meet expectations, it's pretty much a license to have sex with her on the second date in their basement.
thanks guys, problem is im terrible on dates & situations like this
also i totally forgot to.mention that her family might be around to meet me aka im meeting EVERYONE, which is my BIGGEST PROBLEM (which i just found out about)
its actually more of him trying.to help me out as im horrible at this
No, your problem is you don't have confidence. "I am terrible at this, terrible at that", you can do well if you just put your mind to it. Unless you have brain damage from inducing drugs or dropped on your head as a baby, I don't see how terrible you can be.
As far as the family shit, if that's what she expects you to do, to meet her family on the first or second date... go tell her to fuck herself. What kind of bitch puts a guy through that much pressure on the first date, not to mention the first year.
Whichever one of these bothers you the most, go deal with it head on like a man. Being scared or being forced into isn't going to help you at all. If it's a yes, then do it. If it's a no, tell her and move on.
Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk..
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt
I don't understand get the whole pressure issue. OP originally said he was going through with this because he was 'helping out' the friend. Sure, it may be awkward with the family there, but it is not like he is even in a relationship with the girl -- there really isn't anything on the line.
Unless OP actually has high hopes for this blind date, which would be a fairly important detail to neglect, I do not see why there can be so much stress.
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Originally posted by 97ITR He would step out of his freshly downtown autospa detailed 996 C4s, check out his own reflection in the driverside window out of habit, take off his brand new limited edition D&G aviator sunglasses so the mf can see the fury in his eyes, sashay over to the other guy and then threaten to insert his black leather Savatore Ferragamo loafers into the guys rear-end.
I don't understand get the whole pressure issue. OP originally said he was going through with this because he was 'helping out' the friend. Sure, it may be awkward with the family there, but it is not like he is even in a relationship with the girl -- there really isn't anything on the line.
Unless OP actually has high hopes for this blind date, which would be a fairly important detail to neglect, I do not see why there can be so much stress.
Assuming the OP wants the blind date to work out, he'd have to impress the family also.
Unless you expect him to just go there and DGAF about anything and just blab out anything, then there is no pressure whatsoever. But then what is the point of even trying in the first place?
These are the events in your life that will give you more character.
if it works out, ok great u found yourself a wife.
if it doesn't. lol, this is the kinda story you can tell your friends and not be boring and awkward.
IT'S ADVENTURE TIME GO DO IT.
My story about meeting up with a girl online
She turned out to be wayyyy bigger then her picture . And I actually faked that my mom went to the hospital in order to get out of that date.
Its the best story I tell my friend . They all love it.
We laugh. Its all good.
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The reason for Speak it Out is to actually set PK-EK up with someone, whether that be someone from this thread or outside of RS.
My story about meeting up with a girl online
She turned out to be wayyyy bigger then her picture . And I actually faked that my mom went to the hospital in order to get out of that date.
Its the best story I tell my friend . They all love it.
We laugh. Its all good.
So what you are saying is that you are a shallow piece of shit.
Spoiler!
I did the same thing back in my single days
I went to the washroom and texted my buddy to call me and pretend his car ran out of gas and he needed a ride to the gas station. The "fake-call" was born that day, and me and my buddies used it many times to get out of tailspinning dates
My story about meeting up with a girl online
She turned out to be wayyyy bigger then her picture . And I actually faked that my mom went to the hospital in order to get out of that date.
Its the best story I tell my friend . They all love it.
We laugh. Its all good.
Damn I actually got my mom to call me exactly at 8 to tell me that I have a curfew to get out of this one awkward ass dinner. deffs shits and giggles stories among my girlfriends.
Anyways OP I think others said it enough times but stop telling yourself you're not confident. You're not confident because you keep convincing yourself you are.
as for meeting her family, fuck that shit if you don't feel comfortable doing that part. Just respectfully decline saying that's not canadian custom if she wants canadian bf so badly
thanks for the help guys, im not looking to get married (but she is & her clock is ticking fast, as i was told), which is why she came all this way back hoping to find one
& im not gonna be posting her pic, cuz if shes from vancouver then i have clearly broken the golden rule of NO LOCALS, unless shes a pain in the ass
I went up to a cute chick and asked her if she'd let me take a photo of her for $30 she slapped me, she said to me that "I AIN'T A WHORE!"
But other than that I have seen every car on display in DTP just by cruising about in Richmond, thank you very much for collecting them together and get someone to sing a cover for "fuck you".
OH FUCK YOU OH OH OOOOH~
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Originally Posted by Neva
wtf man? what the hell kind of women do you go for? spca is for animals not dates...
thanks for the help guys, im not looking to get married (but she is & her clock is ticking fast, as i was told), which is why she came all this way back hoping to find one
& im not gonna be posting her pic, cuz if shes from vancouver then i have clearly broken the golden rule of NO LOCALS, unless shes a pain in the ass
She is 25 and her clock is ticking fast? Tons of people are 35+ and they still aren't married / have kids yet, even though they still plan to do so.
And, if she is "coming back" to Vancouver (presumably from China?), the obviously she is not local, and no golden rules are broken. Also, you don't have to post her pic either -- it doesn't hurt if you just PM it to those of us here in this thread.
there's too much western attitude in here with "fuck them if they want you to meet their family" and her clock is ticking too fast at 25.
lol, the women here that are 35+ and arent married with no kids are already gg. they just wont admit it yet. and progressive libertarian idealistic bullshit masks that delusion even more.
in china they know whatsup. she's 25, she's approaching expiry super fast. it's one of those, if they hit it off, it's married and kids right away. Those things are priority over anything else to them. Over happiness. yes. even that. adding to the collective, the family, is above the individual.
just go. just GOOOOO. and report back. it'll be funny. maybe not at the time (but it will be here, afterwards. lol).
thanks for the help guys, im not looking to get married (but she is & her clock is ticking fast, as i was told), which is why she came all this way back hoping to find one
& im not gonna be posting her pic, cuz if shes from vancouver then i have clearly broken the golden rule of NO LOCALS, unless shes a pain in the ass
did the dinner happen yet?
i would have said no the moment i found out the family is meeting you on the first date. i don't know how you would even have a remote chance of saying yes to that lol
I went up to a cute chick and asked her if she'd let me take a photo of her for $30 she slapped me, she said to me that "I AIN'T A WHORE!"
But other than that I have seen every car on display in DTP just by cruising about in Richmond, thank you very much for collecting them together and get someone to sing a cover for "fuck you".
OH FUCK YOU OH OH OOOOH~
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Originally Posted by Neva
wtf man? what the hell kind of women do you go for? spca is for animals not dates...
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