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westopher 10-20-2025 09:32 AM
If you guys need resources about things like breast feeding education, postpartum physio, psych, etc. I can ask my wife about resources. If you feel like your partner needs it, you should definitely bring it up.

supafamous 10-20-2025 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted by westopher (Post 9198440)
I don’t agree with that at all. Your reactions to the disagreements and your handling of the parenting are going to be a big part of dictating whether you meet in the middle or keep drifting apart in terms of parenting.
You need to consider in the first months of parenting your partner is going through massive hormonal changes and could be dealing with postpartum depression.
If you think you’re that far off on the parenting from each other I strongly suggest you have a frank discussion about it or seek therapy before it strains the relationship beyond something that’s tolerable.
My wife was barely tolerable during those early months and the grandmas were not helping. I highly recommend using a therapist even if things aren't really bad - it's useful to have a sounding board. Perspective is hard to find during those early months - the change in life is so big and there's so little time to decompress and reflect.

supafamous 10-20-2025 12:22 PM
Just sharing this as it's presently the best part of my day.

So I drop off my 6y.o kid at school every day - we usually walk, sometimes drive and seeing her grow up has been such a blast. She doesn't need me to walk her right to the door anymore, she just gives me a peck on the cheek, cheerfully goes, "Bye Dad" and runs off to her classroom.

Traum 10-20-2025 12:33 PM
Lucky you. My kid is at the "Go away, Baba" stage most of the time now. I wasn't expecting this to happen for another 2 - 3 years. :tears:

EvoFire 10-20-2025 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Tapioca (Post 9198438)
Pro life tip - if she's disagreeing/combative with you now when you're barely into your journey as parents, she will never agree with you about parenting when the stakes are higher.
I'm gonna disagree with that.

My wife and I went through rough patches with post partum with both kids. With the first one, she was combative for about 6 months, then it slowly eased up. Of course our relationship took a hit but it recovered as we both evolved in our beliefs on how and what to do with the baby and each other.

Before we had our second one I brought up the issues we had but we went ahead anyways.

Lo and behold, much more of the same combative stance from her. I reminded her that we went through the same thing and she was at least conscious of the problems may be due to her hormones and overall lack of sleep (second baby slept extremely poorly compared to the first)

I don't remember how old 6793026's baby is, but there's a good chance it'll pass with the hormones changing and also both of your beliefs changing, and setting clear boundaries with people who affect you guys

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Originally Posted by supafamous (Post 9198488)
Just sharing this as it's presently the best part of my day.

So I drop off my 6y.o kid at school every day - we usually walk, sometimes drive and seeing her grow up has been such a blast. She doesn't need me to walk her right to the door anymore, she just gives me a peck on the cheek, cheerfully goes, "Bye Dad" and runs off to her classroom.
Same, we have had a goodbye handshake/routine since he was 3, and we still do it everyday for school and at drop offs for classes. Wife is a little miffed she's not in on it but my son also doesn't let her drop off.

We'll see how long that lasts before he's too embarrassed

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Originally Posted by Traum (Post 9198490)
Lucky you. My kid is at the "Go away, Baba" stage most of the time now. I wasn't expecting this to happen for another 2 - 3 years. :tears:
My daughter is at that stage right now, and she's not even 3. She told me the other night, "Go to work, Baba."

6793026 10-22-2025 10:16 AM
My daughter is 4 mths old.
Hormones will always change. I hate it as women use it blaming on that and every community member say it's hormonal. I'm hormonal too! LOL.

I'm all for therapy, it's part of the benefits. * my wife is a health care professional who specializes in freaking child development so i'll never ever ever win in any agrument. LOL.

I have to choose my battles. Right now it's Measles vaccine. Back 10 years ago, it's never an issue cause it's suppressed, how it's all over the place. ON + Calgary (esp a lot of Mormons area) so it's pretty crazy and top of mind for my kid to get that before we travel.

Honestly, being on an airplane, ventilation is really good / much better but again, never going to win over my wife in "safety" for the child.

westopher 10-22-2025 01:30 PM
No man, it literally is hormonal. The amount of changes a woman goes through from being pregnant, to not pregnant is a big deal.

EvoFire 10-22-2025 01:30 PM
So wait your wife doesn't want to give the measles vaccine?

westopher 10-22-2025 02:05 PM
Yeah that’s fucked if she’s a healthcare worker and thinks that’s a reasonable idea.

Hakkaboy 10-22-2025 03:09 PM
or maybe it's the other way around?

Please see the "Exposure Source" and "Vaccination Status" near the bottom of this page. I'm not sure if ventilation on the airplane is all you need to worry about.

https://health-infobase.canada.ca/measles-rubella/

6793026 10-24-2025 10:13 AM
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Originally Posted by EvoFire (Post 9198771)
So wait your wife doesn't want to give the measles vaccine?
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Originally Posted by westopher (Post 9198781)
Yeah that’s fucked if she’s a healthcare worker and thinks that’s a reasonable idea.
nonon she's all for it, but she wont' budge until she can fly... It's not like if you don't get it and then go on a flight, that you'l die...

There ARE healthcare professional who don't get vaccines.

EvoFire 10-24-2025 10:31 AM
Oh she's pushing it out to later if possible. I can see reasoning behind that, though IIRC some vaccines are easier when the infant is younger, weaker response to it.

westopher 10-24-2025 11:30 AM
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Originally Posted by 6793026 (Post 9199033)
nonon she's all for it, but she wont' budge until she can fly... It's not like if you don't get it and then go on a flight, that you'l die...

There ARE healthcare professional who don't get vaccines.
I absolutely know there are healthcare professionals that don’t get vaccinated. There’s also musicians that don’t listen to music. There’s chefs who don’t taste their food.
They really aren’t as good at what they do as those that do it except in extremely rare circumstances.

tiger_handheld 10-24-2025 05:04 PM
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Originally Posted by EvoFire (Post 9198499)
I'm gonna disagree with that.

My wife and I went through rough patches with post partum with both kids. With the first one, she was combative for about 6 months, then it slowly eased up. Of course our relationship took a hit but it recovered as we both evolved in our beliefs on how and what to do with the baby and each other.

Before we had our second one I brought up the issues we had but we went ahead anyways.

Lo and behold, much more of the same combative stance from her. I reminded her that we went through the same thing and she was at least conscious of the problems may be due to her hormones and overall lack of sleep (second baby slept extremely poorly compared to the first)

I don't remember how old 6793026's baby is, but there's a good chance it'll pass with the hormones changing and also both of your beliefs changing, and setting clear boundaries with people who affect you guys



Same, we have had a goodbye handshake/routine since he was 3, and we still do it everyday for school and at drop offs for classes. Wife is a little miffed she's not in on it but my son also doesn't let her drop off.

We'll see how long that lasts before he's too embarrassed



My daughter is at that stage right now, and she's not even 3. She told me the other night, "Go to work, Baba."
at what child age did the wife get back to the personality when you first banged her? just trying to get a sense here. first kid.

underscore 10-24-2025 09:37 PM
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Originally Posted by 6793026 (Post 9199033)
nonon she's all for it, but she wont' budge until she can fly... It's not like if you don't get it and then go on a flight, that you'l die...

There ARE healthcare professional who don't get vaccines.
So she doesn't want to go on a flight until your child has their first measles vaccination?

westopher 10-24-2025 09:53 PM
If that’s the case, it’s a wee bit paranoid, but not something to really get miffed about. Like I could wait to get on a plane for a few months if that was something that was really important to my partner.

EvoFire 10-26-2025 11:08 PM
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld (Post 9199101)
at what child age did the wife get back to the personality when you first banged her? just trying to get a sense here. first kid.
It won't be the same :badpokerface:

I'd say right around 6 months was when she turned the page and there was a big "up". Things continued to improve from there, but then 6 months was also right when Covid lock down happened and I'd say my demeanor changed from stress at work so I can't really give you an accurate map of things.

With the second one it's different. Our relationship definitely hasn't been the same after each kid. We just have a lot less time to ourselves.

6793026 10-27-2025 09:03 AM
^ I can't wiat for wife to 'turn the page'

I have to say my wife did do one thing right - networking with other moms.

I get some free time, but i get some more insightful adult conversation when she comes back and finds out what she discovers.

Getting tired of the boring baby talks /gibberish so i do crave the adults 1 on 1 talk.


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