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05-04-2010, 06:04 PM
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#1 | Wunder? Wonder?? Wander???
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Just wondering since I recently just broke up because I found out I was being cheated and actually was the third person.
I felt terrible and need some suggestions and guidance. My ex really regret doing this and there's nothing much I can really do. I still have feelings for her but I don't think I'll go out again with her unless I can sense that she changed for good. It won't be anytime soon though.
As for now, what can I do to make myself feel better? I know this isn't my fault but I never knew something like this would happen to me. I can't understand how someone you trust so much would cheat on you. Is it something that's really common nowadays? I don't talk to her anymore since she's back with her boyfriend now (but she still have feelings for me) but I don't think it matters now.
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05-04-2010, 06:11 PM
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#2 | Revscene.net has a homepage?!
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Twanger thread is your friend.
on a more serious note:
Do things you enjoy, like your hobbies and whatnot. Get your mind off of it.
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05-04-2010, 06:17 PM
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#3 | I'll be good I promise.
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05-04-2010, 07:02 PM
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#4 | MiX iT Up!
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chill with the bro's .
__________________ Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk.. "Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt |
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05-04-2010, 09:00 PM
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#5 | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by Meister1982 Just wondering since I recently just broke up because I found out I was being cheated and actually was the third person.
I felt terrible and need some suggestions and guidance. My ex really regret doing this and there's nothing much I can really do. I still have feelings for her but I don't think I'll go out again with her unless I can sense that she changed for good. It won't be anytime soon though. | FYI, there's nothing wrong with feeling this way. Just because she may be a terrible girlfriend doesn't always mean that the person is terrible person either. Other than her relationship qualities, there may be other things that may make her a great person and it's possible that those are the things that you still like about her.
BTW, there are cheaters that can change. You just have to trust me on this one. |
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05-04-2010, 09:18 PM
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#6 | NOOB, Not Quite a Regular!
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My friend told me to buy something very expensive so I got a set of volks for my car, it actually made me forget about the pain she cost me. But that was a short term fix.
What help me was to do something I have always wanted to do, traveling. So far I have visited 10 destinations and loving it. Traveling did help me, made friends around the world, I kept contact with them and took majority of my free time. Now I am over her and met someone new.
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05-04-2010, 10:04 PM
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#7 | I don't get it
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sounds too expensive Quote:
Originally Posted by barcode My friend told me to buy something very expensive so I got a set of volks for my car, it actually made me forget about the pain she cost me. But that was a short term fix.
What help me was to do something I have always wanted to do, traveling. So far I have visited 10 destinations and loving it. Traveling did help me, made friends around the world, I kept contact with them and took majority of my free time. Now I am over her and met someone new. |
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05-04-2010, 10:25 PM
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#8 | HELP ME PLS!!!
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Originally Posted by Meister1982 I was being cheated and actually was the third person.
she's back with her boyfriend now | so you were the cheater in the first place?
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05-05-2010, 07:49 AM
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#9 | Banned (BBM)
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Originally Posted by barcode My friend told me to buy something very expensive so I got a set of volks for my car, it actually made me forget about the pain she cost me. But that was a short term fix.
What help me was to do something I have always wanted to do, traveling. So far I have visited 10 destinations and loving it. Traveling did help me, made friends around the world, I kept contact with them and took majority of my free time. Now I am over her and met someone new. | nice choice, i dig that |
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05-05-2010, 08:01 AM
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#10 | Da Vinci's real masterpiece: The Mona Diesel
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Originally Posted by sexyaccord so you were the cheater in the first place? | Well in a way but I assume the guy didn't know. So on top of the fact that she cheated, he was also not the main guy in her relationship triangle.
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05-05-2010, 08:05 AM
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#11 | MiX iT Up!
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Originally Posted by n3w8ie-aler sounds too expensive | its not expensive n3w8ie.
__________________ Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk.. "Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt |
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05-05-2010, 08:16 AM
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#12 | RS.net, helping ugly ppl have sex since 2001
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Go to Vegas.
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05-05-2010, 08:25 AM
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#13 | Banned (ABWS)
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shouldnt have gotten so attached but it wasn't your fault
cut off contact then find a fresh piece of meat
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05-05-2010, 09:46 AM
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#14 | Banned (ABWS)
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It's her loss. her cheating ways will catch up with her and eventually when she becomes a well-known hoochie, no one will want her because everyone on the block will find out. i'm sure her friends already know and word spreads faster than her legs.
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05-05-2010, 11:39 AM
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#15 | RS Lurker, I don't post!
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hang out with the bros and hook up with as much as possible. The hotter the better.
In time you will heal. That is unless you stay in contact with her then you will just drag out the pain even longer.
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05-05-2010, 12:58 PM
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#16 | I keep RS good
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next time, try a different type of girl. you keep doin the same thing, you're gonna keep getting the same results right?
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05-05-2010, 10:16 PM
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#17 | HELP ME PLS!!!
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i cut myself. lots.
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05-05-2010, 10:21 PM
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#18 | WOAH! i think Vtec just kicked in!
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Three times? Ouch, bro, I mean once is unacceptable but three fuckin' times?
I dunno, the very moment someone loses your trust it's almost impossible to recover. You gave her two chances already and there's no point in giving any more once she's proven herself disloyal.
I find music really helps, especially if u play an instrument.  Actually, even singing helps, lol. Just avoid breakup songs.
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05-06-2010, 07:38 PM
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#19 | Proud to be called a RS Regular!
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remember it's not your fault and do things that make you happy.
most of all, don't rush into another relationship until you feel you have fully healed from this. if you haven't, then it'll spill into your new relationship and kill it with jealousy and insecurity.
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05-07-2010, 07:40 AM
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#20 | I am Hook'd on RS
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Originally Posted by barcode My friend told me to buy something very expensive so I got a set of volks for my car, it actually made me forget about the pain she cost me. But that was a short term fix.
What help me was to do something I have always wanted to do, traveling. So far I have visited 10 destinations and loving it. Traveling did help me, made friends around the world, I kept contact with them and took majority of my free time. Now I am over her and met someone new. | exactly, when i broke up with my gf i went n bought a breitling it made me feel pretty good |
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05-07-2010, 06:13 PM
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#21 | Need my Daily Fix of RS
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^ you sir, have good taste in timepieces.
To the OP, F that biatch... go find some new tail to hit on. Sure you may have feelings for her, but she's got issues down to the core. Don't waste your time on it... she's not worth the effort.
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05-07-2010, 07:03 PM
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#22 | I don't get it
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thats shitty...she doesn't deserve you. only time is going to make you feel better.
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05-11-2010, 08:19 PM
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#23 | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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do things that are productive to keep yourself preoccupied
hit the gym, work extra hours, call up your bootycalls... show her what a mistake it was
my buddy got cheated on and he found a new gf, went back to school and moved on and his ex is going nuts and can't get her head around how hes past that
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05-12-2010, 12:30 PM
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#24 | Wunder? Wonder?? Wander???
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thanks guys. I'm already at 80% of my recovery. Used to check on her 80 times a day. Now I'm down to 2. Eventually everything should be good.
I have to say spending money does help to a certain extent. I didn't buy toys, but instead I spent it going to the gym, chilling with LOTS of friends etc.
Never thought something like this would actually happen on me. I was too naive. Fucking scary if you think back that she lied so much about everything.
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05-12-2010, 03:39 PM
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#25 | My dinner reheated before my turbo spooled
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maybe a late reply, but just go out and do ANYTHING, it will get your mind off of it.
friends are friends for a reason
and also, once a cheater always a cheater
do not get back with her ever
plenty of fish in the sea
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