[Paranoiak]

(short version at bottom)

I'm a guy, 19, first year in college. Comparing with what others are doing with their lives, I find my life to be so boring. When people ask me "What's New?" I have nothing to reply to them. I go to school, I go home, do my homework and in my freetime I watch movies or tv shows online. On weekends I hangout with my friends, but we basically do the same thing every time (workout for an hour, watch a movie/play videogames, eat out for dinner, go home). I keep having this restless feeling that I need to do more exciting things while I'm still young and not overwhelmed by responsibilities.
At school I've been very friendly and met a lot of new people - however, only like one or two that I've gotten close with that I can actually talk to outside of school (I've met a lot of people but I only see them like once a week in class, so it's difficult to get closer). Like, I wouldn't mind hanging out with them, but it would be awkward and more uncomfortable than enjoyable for both of us.
I've joined school clubs, but I realized they don't really do things I"m interested in eg. play mahjong, online game competitions. They have a dance every semester, but I always get sick around that time for some reason. I don't know anyone in the clubs so I'm less inclined to go.
The people I hang out with at the moment aren't interested in doing the things I want to try (like clubbing ect.).
I'm also low on cash. I haven't worked in almost a year. I'm trying to find a job but I haven't been very successful, even when I'm applying everywhere and willing to do night shifts and doing stuff like dishwashing ect.
I live with my mother, and she doesn't like me going out. She doesn't like the idea of me spending money, and by my appearance, I look like a "bad kid" so she thinks that whenever I go out I'm doing drugs and drinking ect. (even though the last party I went to was like 8 months ago). I'm 19 and I told her I should be able to do what I want (come home late ect.) but she says as long as I'm living with her I need to live by her rules, and I need her for financial support so I don't want to argue too much about that.
Just wondering if anyone has been, or is in my current situation and if they have any ideas how to kickstart my life.

SHORT VERSION:
I'm a college freshman. I have a boring life, where I just go to school, go home, and do the same thing every weekend. Things holding me back from experiencing new things is money, parents, my friends not wanting to try new things and not being able to make new ones.

[Excelsis]

Do you have a passion for anything?

And if your mom is like that then it'd be better for you to move out and grow up, but i guess you should do that when you find a job first

[Paranoiak]

i draw as a hobby. I"ve joined art clubs before, but i find most of the people there don't like to go out much.

[MeowMeow]

If youre 19 and your mom is still concerned about you being a "bad kid" just move out like alpha said or make her happy and prove to her youre more responsible.

my mom was like that too back when i was in high school. I went through blonde hair, heavy make up, alcohol & drugs phase. She used to be anal about everything and didnt let me out after 9 because she thought i was doing stupid shit (especially after seeing one of my friends with heatscore sleev tattoo). I wanted to prove to her i was more responsible than that so i studied, got into ubc, and made her happy. Now she doesnt give a fuck whether i go out at 3pm or 3am. I told her she can call me any time to check whether im really with my friends or not and she did first couple of times. Now she doesnt anymore. Whether its getting into good school or whatever, make her happy and earn her trust.

And as for your friends, u just gotta find a new crew. My highschool girl friends all had controlling bfs and didnt go clubbing. At ubc i met knew friends (and got closer with girl whom i went to HS with) with similar interestS and we click way better. HOW do i find these ppl is the tough part. Ive met ppl from house parties to revscene meets. Joined all girls club etc. Try to get involved with lots of stuff. Volunteering is a good place to meet ppl too (at times).

GL OP :)

[SkinnyPupp]

move out ASAP. And don't be a pussy about it, just go. your life will improve and you will be a better person

[twitchyzero]

1st things 1st...you need a job.

[Paranoiak]

If youre 19 and your mom is still concerned about you being a "bad kid" just move out like alpha said or make her happy and prove to her youre more responsible.



GL OP :)

thanks! i've posted on like 4-5 sites and that's the most helpful comment i've got so far. can you please elaborate further on how you earned your mom's trust? just academically?

[Paranoiak]

move out ASAP. And don't be a pussy about it, just go. your life will improve and you will be a better person

i would love to move out...
but don't have the money to doit lol... looking for a job...
I dont know if working 2-3 shifts a week at minimum wage is gonna cut paying rent living in vancouver and still having to pay school fees ect.

[MindBomber]

Finding a job should be your number one priority. I find it's much easier to expand your circle of friends a work, especially if it's a relatively large company like a big box store, than it is at school. It will also finance those things that you're interested in pursuing, clubbing gets expensive quick.

There's one common sentiment everyone in university shares, they want to meet new people and make friends. Yet, almost no one who doesn't live in res actually achieves that. Just make the first move with your class friends as far as hanging out outside of school, you'll probably be surprised how enthusiastically most people will respond.

I don't necessarily agree with Skinny's suggestion to move out, but I also don't disagree with it. I moved out two weeks after graduating high school, seriously. That gave me the independence to bring people over and essentially do whatever I like, but it also made work an absolute necessity. Whereas I have friends who still live at home and are off to grad school next year, because they were able to work very little if at all, while I'm still completing my undergrad.

thanks! i've posted on like 4-5 sites and that's the most helpful comment i've got so far. can you please elaborate further on how you earned your mom's trust? just academically?

If you want to thank someone for a post, you should press the thanks button.

[MeowMeow]

thanks! i've posted on like 4-5 sites and that's the most helpful comment i've got so far. can you please elaborate further on how you earned your mom's trust? just academically?

I think my mom's biggest concern at that time was my academics. I never had problems with grades but being asian girl she really wanted me to go to a reputable school (but local hence why ubc). If you dont want to lose your relationship with your mom, think "whats her biggest concern & makes her happy?" if you give her respect she will eventually give you respect as well

and she met my ubc friends. She knows we party a lot but i guess my mom sensed they were responsible and stuff because i go study with them too, not just party. She actually never liked my HS friends even tho they werent party type. So i guess its important she trusts ppl u hang out with. Dont lie and only introduce her your "good friends". I introduced her my close friends and at times talk about dealer friends who are struggling. Now my mom kinda understands perspective from those who arent so privileged.

btw your mom wont just all of the sudden go "okay youre free! Go wild and party!"It'll take a bit for her to adjust to new ways. at first i would come back home by 10, then 12, push it lil bit by lil then just started sleeping over at friends places. If your mom is super conservative, its going to be way tougher than my situation. And be honest about what you do. Dont lie and get caught. If all fails just move out theres nothing you can do. Its not fair that shes not trusting you thinking youre a "bad kid" even tho clubbing is normal thing to do for 19yr olds.

Hope this helped.

[blee123]

clubbing is overated , trust me, don't feel bad for not being able to go clubbing when you look at facebook pics of your friends or from local promoting groups. The pics and reality are 2 different things. Promoters are always hyping up their events etc saying shit like "don't miss out" or "biggest event ever" and its not really all that fun. People that go clubbing and meet alot of girls have to spend alot of $ treating them drinks etc in which you prob can't do right now since you are short on funds. To give you an insight on the costs of going clubbing: taxi there or get a friend to drive+ door ticket price (usually $10-$15)+ coat check( $3-$5)+ cost of drinks (treat ppl etc)+ taxi back home (don't drink and drive) and you can be easily out of your $100 for that night.

Don't stress too much abt clubbing, clubbing is gay in Vancouver and very intimidating if you go to the wrong clubs (ones filled with LB highskooler acting all drug dealer and shit with their fucking blackberries acting all big time) and please don't get me started on some lame local asian promotion groups....

[tiger_handheld]

step 1 - find a job

i'm willing to bet if you spend 2 weeks fixing up your resume, and having it proof read by friends, rs, whoever it'll be a HUGE help.

the following saturday, stay home and send resume to all part time jobs that fit your interests/distance/shifts etc.. (vancouver, BC all jobs classifieds - craigslist (http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/search/jjj?addFour=part-time))

update the thread when you have a job. mom will start to gain trust when you balance school and work :)

[kwy]

Having friends that are open to actually doing things and going out is key. Took me nearly all of my grade school career to figure that out, but I have a lot of fun now because I'm around the right people. Bounce around until you find a group that you fit into and share interests and values with.

[SkinnyPupp]

i would love to move out...
but don't have the money to doit lol... looking for a job...
I dont know if working 2-3 shifts a week at minimum wage is gonna cut paying rent living in vancouver and still having to pay school fees ect.
Yeah part of "ASAP" means getting a job, I guess I should have mentioned that part :)

Go get a job ASAP, then move out ASAP. Your mom doesn't own you

[xilley]

clubbing is overated , trust me, don't feel bad for not being able to go clubbing when you look at facebook pics of your friends or from local promoting groups. The pics and reality are 2 different things. Promoters are always hyping up their events etc saying shit like "don't miss out" or "biggest event ever" and its not really all that fun. People that go clubbing and meet alot of girls have to spend alot of $ treating them drinks etc in which you prob can't do right now since you are short on funds. To give you an insight on the costs of going clubbing: taxi there or get a friend to drive+ door ticket price (usually $10-$15)+ coat check( $3-$5)+ cost of drinks (treat ppl etc)+ taxi back home (don't drink and drive) and you can be easily out of your $100 for that night.

Don't stress too much abt clubbing, clubbing is gay in Vancouver and very intimidating if you go to the wrong clubs (ones filled with LB highskooler acting all drug dealer and shit with their fucking blackberries acting all big time) and please don't get me started on some lame local asian promotion groups....

agreed.. I used to think that I m missing out, but later on you realized more. and one thing I realized is that, their not really friends in all those pictures acting all buddy buddy (its just the picture they have to look happy and all). their no different than you in the outside world.

and blee is right, alot of money is needed to actually keep you going in the club. easily 250 dollars. I was never able to spend less than 250.

[DasHooch]

Here's a low effort idea:

Ask your college acquaintances if they want to meet up for a beer on Friday afternoons. Have a few drinks, complain about school, maybe learn a little about them. Then go home and do your normal routine. Eat some jalapeno nachos and chew some gum before talking to your mom.

There are a few people that are actually busy in their lives, but most people are waiting to be asked to do something and will probably think that a few drinks after school would be fun. Don't go to fancy expensive bars/clubs, keep it within a student's budget.

[blee123]

agreed.. I used to think that I m missing out, but later on you realized more. and one thing I realized is that, their not really friends in all those pictures acting all buddy buddy (its just the picture they have to look happy and all). their no different than you in the outside world.

and blee is right, alot of money is needed to actually keep you going in the club. easily 250 dollars. I was never able to spend less than 250.

i always thought u were underage :lawl:

yea ppl who take group pics at clubs arent relli "friends", they just wana feel cool taking pics with other people. Clubbing is such a 17-20 year old thing because its when ppl finally turn legal and can be allowed into the clubs. Those 17-18 year olds go clubbing because they want to show their frends how cool they are going into "adult" places when their frends can't. People who just started going clubbing will usually tell you 'holy shit, it was so fun" or "so many hot chicks that night" etc. But seriously when you think abt it, girls at clubs are all so slutty in their short dresses and 5inch heels wanting to get gangbanged etc. Going clubbing to meet girls is such a joke because most of them are drunk and prob dunt even rmb you buying them a drink at the end of the night, heck they might not even rmb your name, so $ spent on drinks basically went down the drain :heckno:

please don't believe your friends when they say clubbing is so "fun" and how they brought the hottest chick home etc cause its all BS

or maybe its just me being too careful therefore i'm :alone: :lawl:

[instantneedles]

step 1 - find a job

i'm willing to bet if you spend 2 weeks fixing up your resume, and having it proof read by friends, rs, whoever it'll be a HUGE help.

the following saturday, stay home and send resume to all part time jobs that fit your interests/distance/shifts etc.. (vancouver, BC all jobs classifieds - craigslist (http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/search/jjj?addFour=part-time))

update the thread when you have a job. mom will start to gain trust when you balance school and work :)

Can't agree with you more tiger. When you start to get a job and balance a job with school, your mom won't be able to stutter a word. Getting a part-time job is what will really set you apart from who you are now and who you will be. Your mom seems to be the type that is very protective and caring about you. Don't get me wrong, she loves you very much and you should appreciate the fact that she does, but part of the reason that she may come across as being overly protective about you and not giving the freedom you need is because she is still premature as a parent herself. Needless to say, parenting is a life skill and your mom still has alot of room for improvement. It's very hard for parents to find the balance between security and freedom for their children because they don't know what will happen the moment they let go of their children from their grasp. As you learn to become independent, she will continue to learn with you. It's a learning process built upon a mutual system of interexchangeable mistakes.
Getting a job not only let's your mom know that you are capable of managing time, but that you are also able to face the cold and harsh reality of life. Essentially, that is what bars most parents from giving too much freedom to their children.

That aside, go to your college career advising centre and get your resume fixed up there. If you go to ubc, you can attend those regular resume clinics and they will get it checked professionally for you.

[Paranoiak]

clubbing is overated , trust me, don't feel bad for not being able to go clubbing when you look at facebook pics of your friends or from local promoting groups. The pics and reality are 2 different things. Promoters are always hyping up their events etc saying shit like "don't miss out" or "biggest event ever" and its not really all that fun. People that go clubbing and meet alot of girls have to spend alot of $ treating them drinks etc in which you prob can't do right now since you are short on funds. To give you an insight on the costs of going clubbing: taxi there or get a friend to drive+ door ticket price (usually $10-$15)+ coat check( $3-$5)+ cost of drinks (treat ppl etc)+ taxi back home (don't drink and drive) and you can be easily out of your $100 for that night.

Don't stress too much abt clubbing, clubbing is gay in Vancouver and very intimidating if you go to the wrong clubs (ones filled with LB highskooler acting all drug dealer and shit with their fucking blackberries acting all big time) and please don't get me started on some lame local asian promotion groups....


$100 a night? fuck LOL.. sometimes (rarely) I spend that much in a month..
Just wondering, howmuch do girls spend on average going clubbing? Since guys usually buy them drinks and all.
I have a friend who goes clubbing like every other week... and she has no job ==


PS. Thanks for all the comments guys! opened my eyes a bit

[rJZx]

^depends if the girl uses guys to buy them drinks....

[Paranoiak]

^depends if the girl uses guys to buy them drinks....

Yeah, let's say they do

[LiquidTurbo]

Props for speaking out.

The problem is $$. You need to make more of it. Once you have enough, all your problems will be solved.

I posted something before, it might help you. I think point #1 applies to you very much.







Nurse Reveals Top 5 Secrets People Make on Their Deathbed

By Bonnie Ware(who worked for years nursing the dying)

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly,in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip.But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have sillyness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again,long before you are dying.

[lowda9]

Fuu I wish i was in school. If I don't get accepted into college for this fall, then its another year of effing around. Now THAT would be boring. I guess I'm in the opposite boat as you. I've messed around for way too long now and wish i was in school lol.

[MeowMeow]

Just wondering, howmuch do girls spend on average going clubbing? Since guys usually buy them drinks and all.


0-20

[Paranoiak]

0-20
FOH REALS?

[MeowMeow]

FOH REALS?

20 If i have to pay cover and coat check
max ive spent was 60 on my good girl friends bday

[blee123]

FOH REALS?
Girls are fucking cheap at clubs ! They are so cheap, they share a "coat check" with their friends (hang their coats together for the price of one) and some just mack on their promoter friends (guys) so they can get in for free.

They dunt spend $ on drinks cause they can just get guys to treat them etc

You won't see many girls treating guy drinks LOL

For taxi rides home, if they go with guys, most likely they won't have to pay

In conclusion: if girls are lucky, they may get away with paying $0 while guys spend $60-$200 easily :fuckthatshit:

[MeowMeow]

Girls are fucking cheap at clubs ! They are so cheap, they share a "coat check" with their friends (hang their coats together for the price of one) and some just mack on their promoter friends (guys) so they can get in for free.

They dunt spend $ on drinks cause they can just get guys to treat them etc

You won't see many girls treating guy drinks LOL

You cant share coat check. They charge u by # of coats/purses even a scarf once.
I usually coat check together with ny friends so i dont have to carry that number thing around

but yeah like most guys said dont get sucked into buying girls drinks
most of the times they wont even give u their real names unless u spend A LOT on them.

I dont leech off guys but if they offer first, hey why not?

[bloodmack]

your 19. at 19 i was living on my own starting college, fun life was the last thing on my mind. Honestly, you have much of your life ahead of you don't stress about having a 'boring' life right now. Get your shit together then start to do things you can sustain financially.

[insomniac]

Fuu I wish i was in school. If I don't get accepted into college for this fall, then its another year of effing around. Now THAT would be boring. I guess I'm in the opposite boat as you. I've messed around for way too long now and wish i was in school lol.

Lol somewhat similar to me. Party/rave at least 4 times a month and I don't remember the last time I touched a book :heckno: and then all I'm doing is spending money eating out, buying clothes, going out in general etc. Cheaped out to go to Cali for a few weeks for vacation and ended up spending almost the same amount this month. friends in school always say they wish they were living my life but I'm sooooo looking forward to go to school.

To the op, I have no idea how to help you out but go on Facebook and message high school people and catch up and hang out I guess? Went out with a few old friends and had a solid time and lots of good laughs catching up

[lowda9]

Lol somewhat similar to me. Party/rave at least 4 times a month and I don't remember the last time I touched a book :heckno: and then all I'm doing is spending money eating out, buying clothes, going out in general etc. Cheaped out to go to Cali for a few weeks for vacation and ended up spending almost the same amount this month. friends in school always say they wish they were living my life but I'm sooooo looking forward to go to school.

To the op, I have no idea how to help you out but go on Facebook and message high school people and catch up and hang out I guess? Went out with a few old friends and had a solid time and lots of good laughs catching up

lol ya but I dont really do what you do either. Instead I'm working full time in a shitty job, graveyard shift and making barely any money. Since I work nights, my schedule doesnt fit well with others and I"m too tired to hang out most of the times. I can't bear to think that I'll be doing this for another year if i dont get accepted into school this fall.

[blee123]

You cant share coat check. They charge u by # of coats/purses even a scarf once.
I usually coat check together with ny friends so i dont have to carry that number thing around

but yeah like most guys said dont get sucked into buying girls drinks
most of the times they wont even give u their real names unless u spend A LOT on them.

I dont leech off guys but if they offer first, hey why not?

At some clubs, you can share coat checks cause they all hang their jackets on the "same" hanger. They only get charged once ($5) and I know this cause this chick I know who's cheap told me so. This only works for jackets and not purses or scarfs.

[Mining]

Keep in mind the OP has school as well. Depending on his workload, he won't be able to find a stable job that pays well to pay off rent and go to school and have his basic necessities such as food etc.

Ask your friends what they're doing and if possible invite yourself if you're interested. Try to aim for hangouts that are different and may get you to meet new people and try new things. As for money, get a job for small income enough for you to go out and have fun. Finally, as for your mom.. that's entirely up to you to tell her you're old enough to do these things without her worrying so much. You can't be afraid to argue your freedom.

[MeowMeow]

At some clubs, you can share coat checks cause they all hang their jackets on the "same" hanger. They only get charged once ($5) and I know this cause this chick I know who's cheap told me so. This only works for jackets and not purses or scarfs.

Ohh i see
time for me to start cheaping out too then LOL
bar none charged my friend $5 for a tiny silk scarf wtf

[Purely]

At the age of 19, it`s going to be difficult to find a stable job that is enough for rent/food/utilities/going out(clubbing/etc). Also, you're going to be working a lot, and fall behind your studies in school. Just do a simple calculation, and you will see how much money you can save by living at home. Not to mention, who's going to take care of your mother if you ditch her? I'm sure your mother doesn't want you to move out, and she seems like she's over-protective because she cares about you. You should have a talk with her, and explain how you are 19, and you are responsible enough to not do drugs, etc, and that you just want to stay out a bit later.

For the life is boring part, why don't you try and pick up a hobby, or a goal you want to work towards. For example, you mentioned working out (focus in this?), or what about cars, sports, etc? As for a job, it shouldn't be too difficult to find a part-time job, as you mentioned you're willing to work at odd-hours and not picky with the type of job to work at.

[blee123]

Ohh i see
time for me to start cheaping out too then LOL
bar none charged my friend $5 for a tiny silk scarf wtf
That's why clubbing is gay in vancouver. They don't make enough $ from the drinks therefore they try to rape you during coat check. At some clubs, if u take ur jacket from the coat check and chill outside for a while and then come back, they will tell u to pay them an additional $3 to put ur jacket back when u hv already paid $5 at first.

[46_valentinor]

clubbing in vancouver :fuckthatshit:

[blee123]

first time i have ever gotten so many "thanks" here on revscene for 1 posts :lawl: :alone: :fuckyea:

[blee123]

Ohh i see
time for me to start cheaping out too then LOL
bar none charged my friend $5 for a tiny silk scarf wtf

last time this chick told me Boss nightclub charged them $25 to store their purse and it is "required" cause they cant be carrying around in clubs

Boss nightclub? :fuckthatshit:

Clubbing in vancouver? :fuckthatshit:

[6793026]

to be honest, you're 19. I got something to say to you.
STAY home, finish your school, find a part time job and respect your parent.

There is NOTHING wrong living at home finishing your school. You know what's worse, getting a shit ass job, moving out, get enticed by money and quit or prolong your school, ditch your relationship with your parents (because I have money bitches, i don't want to talk to my mom and dad because they're too controlling). In the end, you are back at where you started, being a broke poor college / university student trying to make ends meet. A lot of people get stuck at this level until they are 30.

I'm not saying this happens to everyone, but there are a few things that are universal. RESPECTING your parents; yes, while you might move out and earn a great living, you NEVER know when you might have to move back home. Don't burn your bridges.

Clubbing, girls, bring pimp meeting people at a bar are all smokes and screens. Fuck that shit. Don't be lured into doing things you don't want to. Don't be a pimp when you can't afford to me. Do things that you like and build friendships that are meaningful. You might think it's hard to do now, good luck when you're graduating and go out in the real world. THE best friends you're going to meet will be in University years.

[blee123]

people at clubs are the fakest people you'll ever meet, everyone will act all G and shit when they see someone they know and be like "wasup bro (handshake)" and girls will be like "heeyyyyyyyyyyy, long time no see (guy hugs the girl)" acting all close when they arent even close :lawl: then everyone will go back to their circle of friends and act all busy and popular by texting and bbming :lawl:

by the way, you'll see alot of "mother hens' at clubs watching over their girl friends too :troll:

and i forgot to mention this above but some girls are so cheap that they only go clubbin when its 'ladies night" or events where girls enter free before 11pm

btw i havent been to any white promoted clubs, are they the same as asian ones where the promoters wear those lame ass tags around their neck and stick together in a group constantly checking their phones? :heckno:

[infin8]

^ lol true

[tiger_handheld]

is this thread about clubbing in vancouver or about suggesting OP how to lead a more exciting life?

[threezero]

try being a yes man for awhile. Don't turn down any invitation by anybody to do anything even if it something you don't normally do or have interest in.

[blee123]

is this thread about clubbing in vancouver or about suggesting OP how to lead a more exciting life?

Op was kinda worried about him missing out on the fun at clubs so i thought i'd shed some light on that.

The clubbing comments made this thread more interesting :fuckyea:

[palepilsenpin0y]

RS meet to show this kid how to have an awesome time? :toot:

[Paranoiak]

to be honest, you're 19. I got something to say to you.
STAY home, finish your school, find a part time job and respect your parent.

There is NOTHING wrong living at home finishing your school. You know what's worse, getting a shit ass job, moving out, get enticed by money and quit or prolong your school, ditch your relationship with your parents (because I have money bitches, i don't want to talk to my mom and dad because they're too controlling). In the end, you are back at where you started, being a broke poor college / university student trying to make ends meet. A lot of people get stuck at this level until they are 30.

I'm not saying this happens to everyone, but there are a few things that are universal. RESPECTING your parents; yes, while you might move out and earn a great living, you NEVER know when you might have to move back home. Don't burn your bridges.

Clubbing, girls, bring pimp meeting people at a bar are all smokes and screens. Fuck that shit. Don't be lured into doing things you don't want to. Don't be a pimp when you can't afford to me. Do things that you like and build friendships that are meaningful. You might think it's hard to do now, good luck when you're graduating and go out in the real world. THE best friends you're going to meet will be in University years.

You kind of make it sound like I disrespect my mom. I'm actually really close with her because ever since she and my dad divorced, she doesn't talk to her friends anymore (they were my dad's business partner's wives). I would NEVER burn bridges with my mom. I'm just saying I wished she would let me out more.

"THE best friends you're going to meet will be in University years"
that's what I'm trying to find? LOL . I'm close with my highschool friends but I'm just bored of the things we do, and they don't want to change activities.

[Paranoiak]

people at clubs are the fakest people you'll ever meet, everyone will act all G and shit when they see someone they know and be like "wasup bro (handshake)" and girls will be like "heeyyyyyyyyyyy, long time no see (guy hugs the girl)" acting all close when they arent even close :lawl: then everyone will go back to their circle of friends and act all busy and popular by texting and bbming :lawl:

by the way, you'll see alot of "mother hens' at clubs watching over their girl friends too :troll:

and i forgot to mention this above but some girls are so cheap that they only go clubbin when its 'ladies night" or events where girls enter free before 11pm

btw i havent been to any white promoted clubs, are they the same as asian ones where the promoters wear those lame ass tags around their neck and stick together in a group constantly checking their phones? :heckno:

My friend said the same thing about how everyone stays within their groups ect. (she's a girl)
But then my other friend (a guy), he's like "oh shit! got with so many chicks last night blah blah" .. if you didn't know him, you'd think he was a nerd, so I was surprised he was having so much fun in clubs. He said its like the best thing ever blah blah which is why I'm interested LOL

idk if there is different perspectives in gender..

[MeowMeow]

My friend said the same thing about how everyone stays within their groups ect. (she's a girl)
But then my other friend (a guy), he's like "oh shit! got with so many chicks last night blah blah" .. if you didn't know him, you'd think he was a nerd, so I was surprised he was having so much fun in clubs. He said its like the best thing ever blah blah which is why I'm interested LOL

idk if there is different perspectives in gender..

Dude trust me. Youd be so dissapointed at how bs that is
hot girls at the clubs will only be nice to you if:
1) guy spends shit load of $$$$$
2) your 10/10
3) so ugly and nerdy to the point girls think youre a lil dork and think youre cute and harmless

most of the times when guys tell me "omg i made out with like 3 chicks and took them home" theyre usually the ugly left overs

i have never gone home with a guy before after clubbing. Neither has any of my good looking girl friends
only one i know that sleeps around like crazy is this chick i know who has insecurity issues (she used to tell me about it) and needs attention. 4/10 max

since youre legal and all you should try clubbing. But its nothing special. I have met decent guys from clubs. Im still friends with a lot of them. However its rare to find ppl through clubbing.

[Paranoiak]

Dude trust me. Youd be so dissapointed at how bs that is
hot girls at the clubs will only be nice to you if:
1) guy spends shit load of $$$$$
2) your 10/10
3) so ugly and nerdy to the point girls think youre a lil dork and think youre cute and harmless

most of the times when guys tell me "omg i made out with like 3 chicks and took them home" theyre usually the ugly left overs

i have never gone home with a guy before after clubbing. Neither has any of my good looking girl friends
only one i know that sleeps around like crazy is this chick i know who has insecurity issues (she used to tell me about it) and needs attention. 4/10 max

damn.. my friend must be the "ugly/nerdy" type lol

[MeowMeow]

damn.. my friend must be the "ugly/nerdy" type lol

Im not even kidding
if they look sleazy as fuck and has that "i just wanna bang you tonight" vibe thats already a no-go
if they look really cute and harmless and just wants to talk and have fun without getting touchy or griding, then i talk to those ones. Doesnt matter how ugly, fat, short, poor, dumb whatever, if a girl senses that dude is chill and doesnt want his p in the v (or at least doesnt make it obvious) id party with them

whether its going out clubbing or sports or arts or cars or whatever keep going out and socialize. Eventually youll find the right group for you whether its clubbing group study group car group etc.
I really hope things work out with your mom tho. I used to hate how she was so anal about my clothes and blonde hair

[Paranoiak]

thanks for all ur comments guys. on yahoo answers i only got like one and it was some girl saying "live in a 3rd world country for a few months and you'll be grateful for the life you're having now"

After reading through all the comments, I kinda think instead of clubbing i'd have a better time sticking to the same group of friends and playing super smash bros all night LOL

[hawkman]

you say "I've joined school clubs, but I realized they don't really do things I"m interested in eg. play mahjong, online game competitions."

How about joining a club that you are interested in, becoming an executive in clubs is another easy way to form more solid friendships with people. Just wondering, which school do ya attend.

[jack3d]

MeowMeow is a tease! stay away from her at the clubs...hahaha

[GabAlmighty]

Lol, can't remember the last time I bought a girl a drink

[kevin7352]

i'm currently procrastinating on my english paper right now and stumbled upon this thread and it kept me busy for a bit

how's it going, OP?

[BrRsn]

nice fucking bump kev


also procrastinating ;)

[j.f0ng]

Also procrastinating over here as well :alonehappy:

I have nothing to contribute to the thread except I got a pretty hefty laugh from this post. 10/10 would read again. :lawl:
people at clubs are the fakest people you'll ever meet, everyone will act all G and shit when they see someone they know and be like "wasup bro (handshake)" and girls will be like "heeyyyyyyyyyyy, long time no see (guy hugs the girl)" acting all close when they arent even close :lawl: then everyone will go back to their circle of friends and act all busy and popular by texting and bbming :lawl:

by the way, you'll see alot of "mother hens' at clubs watching over their girl friends too :troll:

and i forgot to mention this above but some girls are so cheap that they only go clubbin when its 'ladies night" or events where girls enter free before 11pm

btw i havent been to any white promoted clubs, are they the same as asian ones where the promoters wear those lame ass tags around their neck and stick together in a group constantly checking their phones? :heckno:

[Glove]

enjoy your moms company while you can, and cherish your time with her,

once you get older, she gets older.

then once your both old, you will regret not spending time with her, and being a little prick.

you might not understand this now, but you will in 5 years

[kwy]

Another procrastinator, lol. Yeah clubs fuckin suck. The people that go generally suck, the staff almost always suck. There's so many better places to go and things to do.

[Prolowtone]

Never been to a club... nor have i ever wanted to :lol All the drama stories i hear dont help

[shenmecar]

Never been to a club... nor have i ever wanted to :lol All the drama stories i hear dont help

surprisingly, me too. i thought i was a weird one. *high five*

[knight604]

Its entertaining to read why people hate clubbing.

I like clubbing and I am not going to lie, I have been going every week at least once for well over a year now and have not missed one week.

I dont go to meet girls. I go to chill with my friends who are bartending and promote and we drink until we drop.

Why? Because its free for me along with no cover and no line up anytime weekend of the year.

It's fun to get plastered when you can handle your liquor , the body might hate it but hey why not.

As a guy , i used to spend maybe 200 a night before all this.

Now I spend maybe 30 bucks, cab there , cab home.

If you do club alot , you pick a few things and meet a few regular who can give you perks.

Same bartender = discounted drinks
Meet some promoters/bouncers = get in free or faster / skip line

Having seniority is great if you plan to become a regular.

:fullofwin:

[SkinnyPupp]

Its entertaining to read why people hate clubbing.

:concentrate:

its free for me

:suspicious:

along with no cover

:suspicious:

and no line up anytime

:suspicious:

I spend maybe 30 bucks, cab there , cab home

:suspicious:

Its entertaining to read why people hate clubbing.

:seriously:

[Gerbs]

Lol fuck I should sleep. Thatwas a good read
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[BrRsn]

I don't mind clubbing but to have a good time you gotta be willing to not give a fuck about money/sobriety. Usually I'm DD and I just end up pissed off/eating crappy hot dogs at 1am by myself.

[blee123]

My opinion for the OP: clubbing is only good if you "KNOW" alot of ppl working or partying there. If you don't, its going to be very intimidating. Promoters will act all hot shot and shit when you are buying tickets from them because they think they are a "monopoly" therefore you have to buy a ticket from them or else you won't get in.

You seriously gotta be either a smoking hot chick or flirty as fuck (girl) if a bouncer or promoter is going to let u in for free. For a guy, you gotta be either really good buddies or a good ass-kisser for you to get in free. If you don't know anyone or if you are not a smoking hot chick in a tight ass dress wearing 6 inch heels, good luck getting in free.

Some bouncers think they are so hot shot and think they rule the world when they are working the doors. When ppl handshake them and say "whats up bro", you might think the person is close with the bouncer, but they arent. The handshake is to slip a bill into the bouncers hand (grease) so they can get in faster.

In conclusion for the OP, :fuckthatshit: to clubbing and do some other activities and don't get jealous of ppl going clubbing because there are alot of shit going down in clubs that are not shown on facebook pics and clubzone.com pics

**This is if you still want to save $ since you are on low funds but if not, you can give clubbing a try but don't expect it to be super fun unless you aren't afraid of getting super drunk (alot of first time clubbers get super drunk) and mack on the wrong girl just to have your head bottled by some gangbanger/wannabe

[stewie]

op:

stick with your current group of friends, they're the best you'll ever have. i graduated almost 10 years ago and from all the people ive hung out with over the years, the ones that always have stuck around are the ones ive had since highschool.

dont just jump into an exciting lifestyle...take baby steps...your friends wanna stay home and play video games and watch movies on the weekend, sure thats cool...my saturday night was spent watching ufc and then playing monopoly from 10-3am with 2 friends and my gf...each person throws in 20$, winner takes all...but what im trying to say is dont just jump from never going out to party animal. start off easy, go to a local pub, go on a wings night, get a few pounds of wings, have a beer or two...scope out some girls, talk with your friends and get comfortable then repeat it the next week, once your all comfortable being in a busy public surrounding with lots of women/muisc...move on to a bigger bar...when your good there...move to a bar/club like "the lamplighter" or something...from there work up to a club up on granville st.

be expecting to spend money, so make sure you've got a source of income. like others said, dont buy women drinks, i dont know how many women have come up to me to say hi, we talk for 30 seconds, then she goes on to say how thirsty she is and how i should get another drink, ill go to the bar with her and order a drink for myself...when she starts asking why i didnt get her one...ill simply ask her if she plans on sucking my dick later tonight...odds are its a no, so what was her purpose to come talk to me? to tell me how good looking i am? fuck that, if your going to buy a girl a drink...make sure you've at least had a good 10-20 minute talk with her first...at least make it worth it or make her work for it.

[ACURA]

At least your not in towns of 30,000 people or less....That's when you really start losing your mind and start going crazy.

[Phil@rise]

Get a GF and knock her up, boredom gone lol! At 19 I was a full time student worked fulltime and a dad of a fresh baby. In my spare time I wrenched with my buds or hit the trails on my bike went camping and clubbing sometimes.
In other words get a couple of good hobbies that dont include sitting around wasting time playing HALO. Theres lots to see lots to do and lots of others to meet that will share your new interests.

[elwell]

You ever tried marijuana? Go find some college buddies to have a doob with. Make some stoner friends and not be bored lol

and i agree with acura, i was in Courtney for a week and it was the worse time ever, the town is dead and there is nothing to do. makes you go crae crae. Nanaimo is not that bad but still is boring

[Isaiah11]

I made a few good friends from playing poker at casinos; however besides gambling, all we do is eat and blaze

[shenmecar]

Get a GF and knock her up, boredom gone lol! At 19 I was a full time student worked fulltime and a dad of a fresh baby. In my spare time I wrenched with my buds or hit the trails on my bike went camping and clubbing sometimes.
In other words get a couple of good hobbies that dont include sitting around wasting time playing HALO. Theres lots to see lots to do and lots of others to meet that will share your new interests.

That way, you replace boredom with stress.

[Phil@rise]

yup lol