[diesel_test]

Turning 28 in a few months and im planning to get engaged/married soon wanna start a family have a few kids, do you think my girlfriend will get turned off if i plan to buy a 1 bedroom apartment to raise a family in OR A HOUSE is a MUST?

[flagella]

Think first. How the hell are you gonna raise a FEW kids with 1 bdrm?

[Gridlock]

I've been in people's apartments that have a couple has a child in. It's insane. First, the smallest human takes up the most space. The apartment loses all sense of being "a home" and becomes a vessel for containing bodies.

I won't rent to people that are trying to do what you are thinking of doing. It's just nothing but problems.

I don't think you need the house-its nice for sure, but the child needs a room.
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[kunoman1]

I dont think a house is a must..but seriously where do you expect to put a few kids in a 1 bedroom apartment...unless one of the kids is sleeping in one of these

http://dorkdaddydotcom.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/cupboard.jpg

[q0192837465]

You wouldn't have stairs in an apartment.
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[vafanculo]

One kid is doable..but you best be moving out before he or she turns 4..

Also you can do a 2 bedroom apartment or a townhouse..both cheaper
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[1exotic]

what about everything inbetween.

a 2 bedroom apartment, a smaller house, townhouse, complex house? .....

[kwy]

:seriously:

[E-40six]

1 Bedroom apartment is definitely doable with your skill set :thumbs:

There have been others that have done it

[spideyv2]

I'm puzzled as to how the OP found a woman. I'm even more puzzled as to how he's going to raise a family.

[Ulic Qel-Droma]

do what you can afford, and move up from there when you make more money.

[twitchyzero]

it's been a while since diesel_test created a thread

http://blogs.evtrib.com/nerdvana/files/2012/02/206320-yes.jpg

[MG1]

do you think my girlfriend will get turned off if i plan to buy a 1 bedroom apartment to raise a family in OR A HOUSE is a MUST?

I usually don't like getting involved in other people's business, but since you brought it up..............

Why don't you ask your girlfriend instead of posting this on RS?

Pretty important to discuss the topic of starting a family with your life partner, yes?


Honestly, maybe you need to get to know your girlfriend a little better before getting married.

[J-Chow]

Yea, it's not gonna happen unless you're overseas in Hong Kong or China (just sayin) lol.

I'm 27, gettin married next month, and we just bought a 2 bed 2 bath condo. If we have more than 1 kid, then we move to a townhouse because houses in Richmond are overrated :P

[StylinRed]

guys its dieseltest... why you taking this seriously?
asians raise bigger families in a loft ;)

[drunkrussian]

ppl are spoiled me and my friends grew up this way and we are fine. With that said of course if you can afford it a two bedroom would be more comfortable. The house thing is bullshit western thinking, if you prefer a house that'd great but by no means is it a must
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[Matlock]

I grew up in a 1 bed room apartment until the age of 13, but I only lived with my dad. Works fine for single parents I guess. Maybe fathers with sons in particular. I think it would be awkward for fathers with daughters or mothers with sons.

[BrRsn]

Seinfeld - Kramer tucking Japanese guests in drawers to sleep - YouTube

[parm104]

If im to get engaged/married soon wanna start a family have a few kids, do you think my girlfriend will get turned off if i plan to buy a 1 bedroom apartment to raise a family in OR A HOUSE is a MUST?

Before you start asking whether your "girlfriend would get turned off"....perhaps ask yourself whether you think you can raise a family in a one bedroom apartment?

If the answer is no, then save up more money and wait to start a family. If you think you can do it, then just go do it. If your girl will walk away because you can't afford a house, then maybe you should check in with someone else?

just my $0.02

[geelaw]

agreed, if your girl is going to be "turned off" or walk away and not be supportive of what you can or cannot afford right now.. might be a problem here.

[radioman]

Man you are one of the most resilient human beings I know.

You've suffered bankruptcy, severe depression, career change, and now marriage.

You should right a book like our friend Jason2000.

OP LIFE STORY: http://www.revscene.net/forums/673076-standing-around-do-job-2.html#post8016637

[LancerBoy]

Buy a1 bedroom condo for now. This keeps the minimum mortgage payment low. Use the surplus to make extra payments in order to save interest and shorten the amortization. Live easy with money flexibility.

Travel the world with your wife for 2-3 years and enjoy the date life before the kids come. No need to rush at all.

When you both agree its time to bring a new life to this world, then buy a 2 bedroom/townhouse/house. Sell the 1bedroom or rent it out, your choice.

[duc_evo_sp]

I believe op way of thinking is a wise one.

1. A child isn't going to care if you live in a huge house or a shack. Being involved in their life is much more important.

2. A child needs their parents to be around a lot more these days than in the past.

3. If you do as you say "cheap out" and buy an apartment, you could possibly free extra monies by no having to deal with the annoyances of a detached home.

4. Working 40 hours a week tops and not worrying about bills will have a positive effect on your child.

That's my pov but op shouldn't give a shit what people think. FUCK PEER PRESSURE OR FUCK WESTERN PEER PRESSURE!

[Presto]

Does your girlfriend know you're planning on getting engaged/married, soon? Your life planning seems to be on the same level as your financial planning.

[punkwax]

Don't even think about having kids until you're financially secure. Srs. :denied:

[sonick]

Don't even think about having kids until you're financially secure. Srs. :denied:

Or in the case of this OP, mentally secure.

[melloman]

http://dorkdaddydotcom.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/cupboard.jpg

Clearly OP has thought this out.

If the 1 bedroom apartment has 3 closets.. He can have 3 kids.

Each will get their own closet. :fuckyea: :accepted: :fullofwin:

[Gumby]

Why don't you just get your parents to buy you a house? :rolleyes:

[Gridlock]

"Hey kids! It's time to go to drawer!"

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-a3IwPjxdTn0/T4rJJd8p9HI/AAAAAAAAD6o/m9BvkDUfOzY/s1600/photo%2B%25286%2529.JPG

[tool001]

You wouldn't have stairs in an apartment.
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tons of places, specially in downtown that have stairs,, 1 bed aprt. high ceilings with bed over the kitchen area..

[quasi]

I'm not saying I'm doing everything right because I've made lots of mistakes along the way but if anyone is asking me for advice I'd say don't rush into anything. OP your posts IMO are usually pretty dumb but since you asked a serious question I'm giving you my serious opinion. Step back, take your time. Forget about rushing to start a family, take some time with whoever your lady friend is and make sure she's the one for you. Once you've established that go from there. I have plenty of friends who were in long term relationships at the same point in there life as you are now and they are no longer with that person.

I waited 7 years to propose and tried living with her for over half of that before hand. Didn't have the kid until year 10 into the relationship, probably a bit long but I'm not spontaneous at all and I wanted to make sure I was able to take care of him the way he deserved.

[knight604]

:Popcorn

[fliptuner]

Turning 28 in a few months and im planning to get engaged/married soon wanna start a family have a few kids, do you think my girlfriend will get turned off if i plan to buy a 1 bedroom apartment to raise a family in OR A HOUSE is a MUST?

How are you turning 28 when in 2008, you said you were 20?

Anyways, your threads are always pretty entertaining so I suppose I can humour you with an answer.

I say just get the apartment.
You can't afford a house, you're going to have to pay for a wedding soon, you don't have any kids yet and when she leaves you and takes the apartment, it won't be such a huge loss.


Getting married and starting a family, eh? Seems like just yesterday......

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[dvst8]

If a 1 bedroom is what you can afford currently then thats all you can do. Better to rent then to buy a house in BC currently, IMO. A one bedroom is doable for 1 child. I'd say to move to somewhere further to get the space you need. Baby stuff is going to take up a lot of room. Plus, you're going to want some personal space as well. Good luck

[diesel_test]

Why don't you just get your parents to buy you a house? :rolleyes:

if i buy 1 Million with 200k down, isn't the mortgage like $5000 per month? have my parents pay the mortgage? lol that was my gf's idea haha

about how much should i have saved up on my own around now that im 27?

[JKam]

if i buy 1 Million with 200k down, isn't the mortgage like $5000 per month? have my parents pay the mortgage? lol that was my gf's idea haha

about how much should i have saved up on my own around now that im 27?

Thats a keeper right there.

[whatheshiet]

1 bedroom apartment usually have a den. You can use that to make an extra bedroom for your ONE child.

[death_blossom]

buy a 1 bedroom and 1den apartment/condo. you can have your first kid live in the den until he's like 4 or 5, which is already pushing it. if you have a 2nd kid in between, you can throw his crib in your bedroom for the first 2 years or so. after that, you guys DEFINITELY have to move up to a bigger place. like a 2 bedroom apartment (kids can share the room) or townhouse.

[Phil@rise]

I'm far from financially secure and have two kids. If you want to make it work you will. Your determination resourcefulness and perseverance have much more to do with makin a family work then a house or money do.
Would I raise my family in a one bedroom apt? Only if there was no other choice.

[FRStan]

The thought of Diesel_test reproducing...
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[Everymans]

if your comfortable with having coitus while your newly born is in a cradle in the corner, possibly scaring them for life, then go for it. A 2 bedroom basement suite is like 200$ more and that will be a bit more permanent if you plan to have more then one kid. Bunk beds and such. I think kids growing up living in the same room adds a lot of personality and prepares them for the real world/college. I spent most of younger years in the same room as my bro and now I find it rather easy to share my space and possessions with siblings that grew up in separate rooms.

[Nlkko]

I'm far from financially secure and have two kids. If you want to make it work you will. Your determination resourcefulness and perseverance have much more to do with makin a family work then a house or money do.

This. Fucking first world problems... Me and my brother grew up in a 1 bedroom apartment.

However, I'm afraid if you have to come to the interweb to ask such question then you and your gf aren't ready.

And get the parents to pay the mortgage? The fuck I don't even....:gtfo:

[diesel_test]

And get the parents to pay the mortgage? The fuck I don't even....:gtfo:

my parents have money, i guess having them pay $5000 per month mortgage is not much. They make 500k-1M yearly

My dad told me a couple years ago that he's got a 1Million in cash he can use anytime im assuming he has more now?:) lol

[GLOW]

My dad told me a couple years ago that he's got a 1Million in cash he can use anytime im assuming he has more now?:) lol

too bad you're not him

[El Bastardo]

my parents have money, i guess having them pay $5000 per month mortgage is not much. They make 500k-1M yearly

My dad told me a couple years ago that he's got a 1Million in cash he can use anytime im assuming he has more now?:) lol


On a forum with Hyde and Marco911 you are one of the tackiest posters I've ever read.

[diesel_test]

too bad you're not him

i know eh? unless there's a good reason for him to give it to me lol

[Gumby]

my parents have money, i guess having them pay $5000 per month mortgage is not much. They make 500k-1M yearly

My dad told me a couple years ago that he's got a 1Million in cash he can use anytime im assuming he has more now?:) lol
You keep bringing up the fact that your parents have money, which leads me to believe that you rely on them for lots of things.

Seriously then, why are you asking us? Just ask your parents!

[Lomac]

:suspicious:

Still not sure if troll account or not...

[diesel_test]

You keep bringing up the fact that your parents have money, which leads me to believe that you rely on them for lots of things.

Seriously then, why are you asking us? Just ask your parents!

i think i can make it on my own making $40k but it'll be shitty for sure especially if you live with your gf as well lol :lol

[radioman]

So what job did you end up getting? Are you tired from standing while doing it?

[Phil@rise]

i think i can make it on my own making $40k but it'll be shitty for sure especially if you live with your gf as well lol :lol

If you cant make it on your own makin 40k your doing it wrong. I'm not sayin 40k is a shit ton of money but its more then enough to "make it".

[diesel_test]

So what job did you end up getting? Are you tired from standing while doing it?

nah, i quit those jobs after a couple of weeks. ya its not hard but repetitive lol

i work in construction for awhile now making about 30-50k for the family depending how often i show up. The family owns a general contractor company

im in pretty good shape. 6'0 200lbs :D

[Mr.HappySilp]

I think a Townhouse or a big 2 bedroom apartment. However I would think a townhouse is better since it is bigger and the starta fees are generally cheaper than an apartment.

[mr_chin]

http://www.plotos.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/Bedroom-Decorating-Ideas-for-Girls-Bunk-Beds-90.jpg

http://designkastle.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Modern-Kids-Bedroom-with-Bunk-Bed-Style.jpg

If you have 900 - 1200 sq ft apartment, install one of these in your living room. Your living room is your kids' room, and that plus your kitchen will be your family hang out room. Put a TV in your room until the kids gets older, then put it in the living room with a sofa bed. Then you guys can have a sleep over in the kids room occasionally when they're older. It's doable, you just have to consider what sort of lifestyle you'll put your kids in. But in the end, anyone will suggest a house or a 2 bedroom apartment at the least.

[VRYALT3R3D]

if i buy 1 Million with 200k down, isn't the mortgage like $5000 per month? have my parents pay the mortgage? lol that was my gf's idea haha

about how much should i have saved up on my own around now that im 27?

OR

You can live in a trailer park and drive a brand new 458.
Where do the kids live? Well the Ferrari has a trunk, doesn't it:fullofwin:

[rsx]

40k isn't a lot dude.

[mr_chin]

just live in richmond, delta, or surrey. they have cheap houses there that you can possibly afford with a 30 - 50k annual income. don't even think about getting a house in vancouver, burnaby or north van without atleast 80 - 150k (if you paying it by yourself) annual income. suck it up until the bubble bursts (if ever).

[Excelsis]

prices in richmond are cheap? are you nuts lol?

[Alby]

must be a joke. richmond is overran by mainlanders inflating the prices waaaaay up.

[elwell]

i know a family with 3 kids in a 1 bedroom condo, space is tight af

[GLOW]

i know eh? unless there's a good reason for him to give it to me lol

if the gf is expecting him to pay the mortgage...
maybe your gf can give him a reason :ifyouknow:

:troll:

[Gumby]

Check out these cramped apartments in Hong Kong:

Cramped Apartments in Hong Kong Shot From Directly Above (http://www.petapixel.com/2013/02/19/cramped-apartments-in-hong-kong-shot-from-directly-above/)

http://www.petapixel.com/assets/uploads/2013/02/hongkongabove-2.jpg

[dink]

you don't seem to offer the financial support to raise a family....

[diesel_test]

you don't seem to offer the financial support to raise a family....

i value happiness + life experiences > wanting to make alot of $$$

[Manic!]

i value happiness + life experiences > wanting to make alot of $$$

Can you be happy living in a cramped condo barely scraping by?

[Excelsis]

you can be happy with that for sure, maybe not comfortable though.. but i wonder why would you settle for less when you can have more? unless that is if it's your desire to live like that, then no problem

[diesel_test]

Can you be happy living in a cramped condo barely scraping by?

ya i'd be happier have more fun experiencing life on welfare eating cans of sardines than living in a mansion driving off on a lambo. + life experiences

[diesel_test]

you can be happy with that for sure, maybe not comfortable though.. but i wonder why would you settle for less when you can have more? unless that is if it's your desire to live like that, then no problem

im happy with what i have and make. As i said, i value life experiences > bunch of luxury possessions:fullofwin:

[VRYALT3R3D]

ya i'd be happier have more fun experiencing life on welfare eating cans of sardines than living in a mansion driving off on a lambo. + life experiences

You rather leach off the government and taxpayers so you call that a "fun experiencing life"
:ahwow:

[Ronin]

More money = more life experiences.

[vancitylove]

I wouldn't say more life experiences

Definitely different life experiences.

[diesel_test]

You rather leach off the government and taxpayers so you call that a "fun experiencing life"
:ahwow:

gettin money like a motherfuckA:2finger2:

[Manic!]

ya i'd be happier have more fun experiencing life on welfare eating cans of sardines than living in a mansion driving off on a lambo. + life experiences

What about your kids or your wife, you think they are going to be happy living on welfare.

[diesel_test]

What about your kids or your wife, you think they are going to be happy living on welfare.
I live for the moment and I regret nothing, I could die tomorrow and it would be with a smile on my face for living how I've lived


I know chinese fucking geeks are sitting on millions of their parent's wealth, but does that buy them an ounce of cool or status beyond their own social circles?

so IMO i value life experiences.

My bank account is $0 but if your life is full of joy and experiences, you're already rich

[Manic!]

I live for the moment and I regret nothing, I could die tomorrow and it would be with a smile on my face for living how I've lived


I know chinese fucking geeks are sitting on millions of their parent's wealth, but does that buy them an ounce of cool or status beyond their own social circles?

so IMO i value life experiences.

My bank account is $0 but if your life is full of joy and experiences, you're already rich

Your kids will think you were so great. My dads dead but at least he was cool and had a bunch of life experiences.

All your posts are about YOU. So your clearly not ready to be married.

[diesel_test]

Your kids will think you were so great. My dads dead but at least he was cool and had a bunch of life experiences.


he did not leave you $$$/inheritance?

[quasi]

I live for the moment and I regret nothing, I could die tomorrow and it would be with a smile on my face for living how I've lived


I know chinese fucking geeks are sitting on millions of their parent's wealth, but does that buy them an ounce of cool or status beyond their own social circles?

so IMO i value life experiences.

My bank account is $0 but if your life is full of joy and experiences, you're already rich

As a parent you can't or at least you shouldn't be living like that. Parenting means putting your social life and spare time on hold and devoting the majority of it your kids. The older they get the more of your time you reclaim but at the end of the day at least in my experience you're putting their needs ahead of yours which means planning for tomorrow and the week after next.

This is all my opinion there is no manual or rule book.

[GLOW]

he did not leave you $$$/inheritance?

http://i636.photobucket.com/albums/uu90/vanessa68_2009/Macros%20and%20gifs/shakehead.gif

[radioman]

Glow you just made my morning! Have a great day!

[diesel_test]

As a parent you can't or at least you shouldn't be living like that. Parenting means putting your social life and spare time on hold and devoting the majority of it your kids. The older they get the more of your time you reclaim but at the end of the day at least in my experience you're putting their needs ahead of yours which means planning for tomorrow and the week after next.

This is all my opinion there is no manual or rule book.

i value life experiences over security

[Psykopathik]

being broke is sure to put a downer on life experiences.

"Daddy, I'm hungry..."

"I've got a great story to tell ya, son!"

yeah. don't see that working out.

[GLOW]

i value life experiences over security

maybe that's b/c you currently have security (parents). when the gravy train ends, the life you experience with security will start to look pretty darn good.

and if you value your personal "life experiences" over the security of children under your care...then you're not ready to have kids.

[Phil@rise]

Have any of you judging or questioning op ever been a parent and raised a kid?
Or are you all just making generalizations based on the values you were raised with?

[GLOW]

a few of us have. i'm not judging OP, but at a certain point i'm assuming he's trolling so i reply in turn. but i share quasi's opinion/post on parenting.

[diesel_test]

being broke is sure to put a downer on life experiences.

"Daddy, I'm hungry..."

"I've got a great story to tell ya, son!"

yeah. don't see that working out.

I'll tell my son. " sorry son, here's a can of sardines I value life experiences and so should you." :)

[GLOW]

eating an entire can of sardines in 1 sitting is quite the experience!

[dink]

why don't you just ask your girlfriend how she will feel living in an one-bedroom unit with a few kids?

[sonick]

eating an entire can of sardines in 1 sitting is quite the experience!

It builds character.

[diesel_test]

why don't you just ask your girlfriend how she will feel living in an one-bedroom unit with a few kids?

i'll tell her it's life experiences baby!!!:relations

[freakshow]

wow, you can use that answer for everything..

dad, should i get a job or just hang out with my friends all day? jobs hold you down, go for the life experiences!

should i put in a few extra ours at work to secure my career and therefore financial future or go play maximum tune? MT for max life experiences!

should i shoot up that school? all about life experiences baby!

[sonick]

wow, you can use that answer for everything..

dad, should i get a job or just hang out with my friends all day? jobs hold you down, go for the life experiences!

should i put in a few extra ours at work to secure my career and therefore financial future or go play maximum tune? MT for max life experiences!

should i shoot up that school? all about life experiences baby!

#YOLO

[Manic!]

he did not leave you $$$/inheritance?

I thought it was all about life experiences and not about money. what gives?

[DEADBEA7]

I thought it was all about life experiences and not about money. what gives?

Need to fund those life experiences somehow bro :ilied:

[diesel_test]

I thought it was all about life experiences and not about money. what gives?

i do want that lambo or porsche. Now, whats gonna stop me?:fullofwin:

[LSF22]

#YOLO

https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/537039_10152442765760417_2084634985_n.jpg

[Manic!]

i do want that lambo or porsche. Now, whats gonna stop me?:fullofwin:

You being broke. :fullofwin:

[hi-revs]

It better have a balcony for when your 2nd child comes you can build a shack out on the balcony to make it into a 2nd room :nyan:

[Iceman-19]

Buy an apartment on at least the 6th floor, then jump off your balcony head first. Thanks for doing your part to improve humanity.

[ae101]

so 1 bed room apartment, so call enraged gf & kids.......what could possible go on :badpokerface:

everything :troll:

[GLOW]

It builds character.

And bad breath :badpokerface:

i do want that lambo or porsche. Now, whats gonna stop me?:fullofwin:

A pole or tree :ilied:

I suppose you can strap the baby to the roof of the lambo, who needs more than 2 seats amirite :badpokerface:

[valent|n0]

when times are tough some times you have to do what you have to do

I find 600 SQ feet apartment should be liveable with 2 kids
yet society does not see it that way (here)
or maybe only revscene society?


I Read a few article in google and one comment says it is a pretty common for a family 3 or 4 in 1 bedroom apartment in UK.


Could Your Whole Family Live in 600 Square Feet? | Work + Money - Yahoo! Shine (http://shine.yahoo.com/work-money/could-your-whole-family-live-in-600-square-feet-2469111.html)

http://lloydkahn-ongoing.blogspot.ca/2012/02/family-of-four-in-540-sq-ft-home.html

[Z3guy]

Turning 28 in a few months and im planning to get engaged/married soon wanna start a family have a few kids, do you think my girlfriend will get turned off if i plan to buy a 1 bedroom apartment to raise a family in OR A HOUSE is a MUST?

Why is everyone on him for wanting to buy an one bed room condo to raise a family? It could be allot worse like renting. Everyone has to start somewhere and build from there.....no one goes out and buys a 2mil house right off the bat...just like cars, people slowly upgrade as finances get better.

Sure, everyone would like a 5 bedroom house to raise a family, but we don't live in Kansas......

For myself, I'd much rather raise my family in a 600 sq ft Vancouver Condo than a 2000 sq ft house in Surrey just because I enjoy Vancouver lifestyle Vs suburb lifestyle.

[valent|n0]

then there is this city bylaw and building bylaw that you have to check too

[Gumby]

then there is this city bylaw and building bylaw that you have to check too
diesel_test is asking about raising a family, not building a house...

[valent|n0]

diesel_test is asking about raising a family, not building a house...


I am talking about maximum occupancy bylaw
restricting how many can live in 1 bedroom apartment

some say maximum of 2 persons for 1 bedroom;
max. 4 people for 1 bedroom + den . but who knows what the strata council can decide

[Gumby]

^
Ahh ok thanks for the clarification. :)

[MG1]

Slightly off topic, but in the DTES, nobody checks for bylaw violations, because the inspectors are too afraid to step inside to check up on the suites.

Also, if bylaws were enforced, many families would be out on the streets.

Anyway.............