[PeanutButter]

I guess this is a question more for Asian families...

What do you call your in-laws? I'm supposed to call them, Mom & Dad, but I feel super awkward calling them that since they're not actually my Mom and Dad.

For those married, do you just suck it up and call them Mom & Dad or do you call them something else?

I'm open to suggestions. Thanks.

[320icar]

White guy here: in-laws are separated, and live in penticton/salmon arm so I don’t see them often in person. I try and say mom or dad to my wife but she 100% of the time thinks I mean my own parents so I’ve sort of given up

[EmperorIS]

I still call them auntie and uncle. I tried calling them mom and dad once and it was weird for both of us lol

[Mikoyan]

Ask them what they're comfortable with you calling them.
My in-laws wanted "mom and dad."

[NKC ONE]

Grandma "Por Por" in cantonese.

[fliptuner]

We're not married but have a kid together. In her mom's eyes, we're married.

I would've been fine calling her, Mrs. Xxx but it's too formal for her.
I was raised not to call elder family members by their first name.
She's not my mom and I'm not her son.
We all settled on poh-poh.

[Nvasion]

I'm chinese. I call them mom and dad

[SkinnyPupp]

I'm white, wife is chinese, I call them mom and dad. They've actually been more like my parents than my own parents LUL

[Spoon]

Auntie & Uncle prior to marriage. Mom & Dad post-marriage.

Grandma "Por Por" in cantonese.

You're calling her that because that's what your kids call her, right? Or is she that old?

[asian_XL]

didn't call them for 5 years after the wedding lol. Now I have a kid, I started calling them Por Por and Gung Gung

[Badhobz]

its Ah-Ma, and Ah-Dad

Why do i always feel like i just insulted my shanghainese self by constantly using cantonese more than my own dialect :( :( :(

[coneZONE]

i'm sure after you have kids (i guess this only applies if you do plan to have children), you'll start calling them the way your kids call them...
Like my parents call each other mom and dad, and call my grandparents gung-gung, por-por, mah-mah, yeh-yeh. lol

[BIC_BAWS]

My mom calls her in-laws (my grandparent) "ah-ma" when speaking directly to her and "mah-mah" when referring to her.

My dad calls his in-laws (my grandparents) "ah-gong/ah-por" when speaking directly to him/her, "lei goh (your) ah-ba / ah-ma /" when referring to him but talking to my mom, "gong gong/por por" when referring to him but talking to us (his kids).




On a slightly off topic but relevant (doesn't warrant starting a new thread for it),

I call my gf's parents auntie/uncle, just because of the way I was raised. But they typically call others ah yee and ah sok. Which one is correct? And do I change it to what they're accustomed to? Don't want to be rude.

[coneZONE]

My mom calls her in-laws (my grandparent) "ah-ma" when speaking directly to her and "mah-mah" when referring to her.

My dad calls his in-laws (my grandparents) "ah-gong/ah-por" when speaking directly to him/her, "lei goh (your) ah-ba / ah-ma /" when referring to him but talking to my mom, "gong gong/por por" when referring to him but talking to us (his kids).




On a slightly off topic but relevant (doesn't warrant starting a new thread for it),

I call my gf's parents auntie/uncle, just because of the way I was raised. But they typically call others ah yee and ah sok. Which one is correct? And do I change it to what they're accustomed to? Don't want to be rude.

just my opinion, or take on it... calling them uncle/auntie is ok because we're generally pretty westernized lol. And all the uncles and aunties I've met accept that way of being address. I don't know all the proper terms in Chinese (more than ah-yee, ah-sook/baak), and there's the thing if they are younger/older than your parents... etc... so it's a pretty safe bet to call them uncle/auntie. No disrespect here imo. But like mentioned above, you could ask if there's another way they prefer to be addressed.?

[Presto]

It's a preference thing.

My Chinese mom insists on "mom and dad"

My Arab mother-in-law is just fine with first names. I asked about calling them "mom and dad", but she was weirded out. On the other hand, her sister is like my mom, and likes being called "mom"

[Bouncing Bettys]

It comes down to age difference sometimes. My son's mother is 12 years younger than me and his grandmother is just 6 years older than me. It would have been super awkward to call her mom. What added to that awkwardness is that his great grandmother is 10 years younger than my parents (his grandparents).

[cdizzle]

Ask them what they're comfortable with you calling them.
My in-laws wanted "mom and dad."

This.
They were okay with me calling them whatever my wife called them (although calling them with the Chinese version of mommy and daddy is kinda weird lol)

[quasi]

I call them by their names, ie: Dennis and Charlene

[winson604]

Chinese here I call them "lo dao" and "ma" where as I call my own parents "daddy" and "ma or mommy"

Oddly enough I never greeted my dad with the canto version I called him daddy my entire life.

[will068]

My mother: mom

MIL: ma

For my father and FIL: dad

[PeanutButter]

Oh man, THANKS SO MUCH RS, you guys pull through again!

Ah-Ma & Ah-Ba will work!

Her parents explicitly told me NOT to call them aunty and uncle as that isn't right and they wanted Mom & Dad, but I couldn't wrap my head around calling them that. There is no way I could call them by their first names, they are older school Chinese.

I talked to the wife and she said Ah-Ma & Ah-Ba would totally work. She will talk to them about it, but that should work.

Finally, I can greet them without saying, "Helllllllllllllllllo" hahaha.

Thanks RS

[PeanutButter]

Chinese here I call them "lo dao" and "ma" where as I call my own parents "daddy" and "ma or mommy"

Oddly enough I never greeted my dad with the canto version I called him daddy my entire life.

I thought "Lo Dao" would work, but I am told that "Lo dao" is too "harsh" and "snappy", so "Lo dao" wouldn't be appropriate.

Thanks though.

[spoon.ek9]

i'm surprised no one suggested lei lo mo. what has RS become?

[SkinnyPupp]

Finally, I can greet them without saying, "Helllllllllllllllllo" hahaha.



This I can relate to LUL

[murd0c]

I call gf's mom Mimi with is what her granddaughter(gf's daughter) calls her instead of grandma

[jing]

We must be the only family left in existence where my wife has to refer to my parents at 'laai laai' and 'lo yeh'. Thought my mom was trolling when she first told us of my dad's very specific request.. but nearly two years later and they still haven't let it go. My brother in law calls my parents mom and dad and they cool with it... talk about double standards lulz. I call my MIL mom just like how I would call my own mom. Bit weird at first but I got used to it.

[Mikoyan]

We must be the only family left in existence where my wife has to refer to my parents at 'laai laai' and 'lo yeh'. Thought my mom was trolling when she first told us of my dad's very specific request.. but nearly two years later and they still haven't let it go. My brother in law calls my parents mom and dad and they cool with it... talk about double standards lulz. I call my MIL mom just like how I would call my own mom. Bit weird at first but I got used to it.

I was surprised when we asked my mom what they wanted to be called by my wife. They wanted laai laai and lo yeh.

[fliptuner]

Lol double standards.

I'd want my son in law to call me Mr. Xxx but daughter in law can call me, dad.

[danned]

just call them women~~~
just call them men!!!

[ae101]

my dad calls them "po gai si lo yeh" aka fuck dead couple, dads been divorced twice and none of them were any good

[blkgsr]

by their names...

[Great68]

Oh man, 18 years together (10 of those married) and this is still a slightly contentious issue around my house.

Originally they wanted formal Mr. & Mrs. That doesn't work for me, feels too 1920's.
After we got married they wanted Mom & Dad. That feels awkward too, I have only one mom & dad.

Eventually my Father in Law warmed up to his first name George. I tried that with my Mother in Law, and hear the complaining through my wife later.
So now since we have the kid I just refer to her as "Grandma"

[bcrdukes]

I call them baht gong and baht paw :troll:

[carisear]

didn't call them for 5 years after the wedding lol. Now I have a kid, I started calling them Por Por and Gung Gung

omg I was the same. for 5 years I didn't call them ANYTHING … literally 'hiiii…..' or look to my wife and say 'hey, YOUR MOM ….'

but then after having a kid, now I call them po po and gong gong. not awkward anymore!

my wife has no issues calling my mom 'mom'

[Mr.HappySilp]

Chinese here and Chinese wife (well in June). Before I used to call her parents auntie and uncle and she does the same. Now is just mom and dad. Since her parents is far away so when we say mom and dad we usually know who's mom and dad we are talking about.

[SkunkWorks]

my dad calls them "po gai si lo yeh" aka fuck dead couple, dads been divorced twice and none of them were any good

I laughed way harder at this than I should have.

Le gf is Caucasian so it's just first names. She calls my parents by first name too but my folks are pretty liberal. Doubt it'd change after marriage either.

[smoothie.]

first names

cause white

[fliptuner]

first names

Mama Hoose would be disappoint.

https://memegenerator.net/img/instances/55771211/i-feel-sorry-for-your-mother.jpg

[Alby]

chinese here. i call them mom and dad

[Badhobz]

I asked a professional for you (my wife) and she told me its

Ngok Fu 岳父 and Ngok Mo 岳母

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uu6wLmgWaEY (how to pronounce ngok fu)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AAiayKD-hw (how to pronounce ngok mo)

These are very proper terminology. Makes you seem EDUMJACATATETEEDD.

p.s. i don't use these, and im doing just fine!!!!

[nabs]

EI here, call them mom and dad in their language.

[hotjoint]

I call them mom and dad, no problems at all