[MG1]

I was going to title this thread, "Growing Old," but for some reason, "growing," doesn't make sense to me.

Anyhow, this is a thread for the older people of RS to post their experiences. An excuse to B!tch and complain about how crappy it is to get old, so to speak.

Also, an opportunity to field questions from the younger folk on RS.

Old isn't fun, but it isn't all that bad. There are positives, though not many.

Most of my friends are cranky bastards and you can't blame them. I'm definitely not one of them. Life has too much to offer and being cranky doesn't do anybody any good.

I know most of you RS members are getting on in age. Some insight into what to look forward to, hee hee, hue hue, pew pew. Without getting too depressing.

Middle aged members, who I believe are in the majority here are starting to think about the years ahead. Looking back and saying, "Shit.........." you fill it in.

[bcrdukes]

Well, apparently you start hoarding, so...

[MG1]

Well, apparently you start hoarding, so...

I think that's just me. 16 years living in DTES, the Cold War, and a few other things that contributed to my habits.

:suspicious:

[bcrdukes]

:seriously:

[RiceIntegraRS]

At what age are u considered old?

[fliptuner]

"The war is over, Mom."
When she's saved random shit for 20 years and is never going to use them.

Cons of getting older:
- I can't lift heavy stuff like I used to. Not really noticeable around people younger than me, cause most of them are giant pussies.
- I can't recover from drinking as quickly but it also takes a lot more to get me drunk (which is super rare anyways)
- Time's a tickin'
- More funerals

Pros:
- I legit don't give a fuck about a lot of things that I used to. Priorities.
- I value time a lot more.
- It's easy to see who matters and who doesn't.
- I can say inappropriate shit and people will just chalk it up to me being older and ignorant.
- The car parts I've hung on to for the last 20 years are actually worth a ton now lol
- My tool collection is fairly complete and if I don't have it, I know another boomer that does

[Jmac]

I’m like the complete opposite for drinking. I get drunk way quicker but can handle more booze without an issue compared to 10 years ago.

[welfare]

At what age are u considered old?

When you start finding grey ball hairs

[SkinnyPupp]

I recover from workouts much more slowly, and I get injured more easily. It's also a lot harder to get leaner, even with hard dieting. 6 pack is out of the question for me now, it's the 4 pack life for me (once I start dieting LUL )

[MG1]

Funniest thing is when you have to verify your age. I’m looking for Zippo lighter inserts. The websites require you to put in your birthdate. Not that they’ll know if you’re telling the truth........ okay, there’s up to 31 days in a month, 12 months in a year, but years. Goddamnit, I fell asleep scrolling all the way down to the early to mid 50’s :lawl:

[GLOW]

knees, back, etc start to go...start getting angry at things and lose patience...and then you realize this is you...

https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/memepediadankmemes/images/0/01/297.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20180908193511

[MG1]

They say your hearing and your eyesight goes first. Not with me. My hearing is good and I can spot a hottie around corners and then some. The thing that has gone completely downhill are my teeth. I used to open bottles with them. Now they are brittle as hell. It’s all coming apart. My pension is all going to fixing my damn teeth. Time for dentures.

[stewie]

Im only 34 and I'm relating to the older folks when I was in my teens. Rainy days we'd find underground parking lots to skateboard in and people would yell at us and we'd have the fuck you you old fuck attitude. Now kids come into my buildings visitor section of our underground parkade, the area before the gate, and I want to yell at the pricks for making so much noise when their wheels hit the floor and the board tumbles over and over from never being able to land a single trick.

So how old are you all when saying you're old? 30s? 40s?

[Tapioca]

We moved a couple of months ago. Some old neighbours asked us if we were going to do the move ourselves. My wife and I both looked at each other, a bit dumbfounded at the question, and said, "No, we hired movers and are renting boxes to pack up our things".

Doing a move on your own is when you're in your 20s and early 30s when you're broke and have no kids. You know when you're old when you have too much crap, nice furniture, etc. and have to hire movers.

[hotjoint]

I'm turning the big 40 next year. I still look like i'm in my late 20's or early 30's, thank god for asian genes. Body aches a lot more and recovery from work outs is longer. Have to stretch before and after sports. My cardio is also shit now, no matter what I do. I forget things sometimes. I'm still a total kid at heart. Love playing my video games, hanging out with friends and doing stupid stuff, that will never change, no matter how old I get LOL

[MG1]

I'm still a total kid at heart. Love playing my video games, hanging out with friends and doing stupid stuff, that will never change, no matter how old I get LOL

That's the secret.......... think young.

Have fun and stay positive,

An old colleague/friend of mine (female), who is French-Canadian always said, "I want to find a penis."

A Penis = Happiness, gulolol.

[hotjoint]

That's the secret.......... think young.

Have fun and stay positive,

An old colleague/friend of mine (female), who is French-Canadian always said, "I want to find a penis."

A Penis = Happiness, gulolol.

I think most people forget that once you get married and have a family, it doesn't mean you have to give up the things that you love to do on your own time. You just have less time to do it. Balancing everything is the key to getting older. I have many friends that have given up on sports, video games, car, music etc.. because they said that they don't have enough time to do it.

I tell them that's BS because unless you're working and then going directly to sleep, you have time, you just need to allocate it better.

[StylinRed]

I still feel like I'm in my teens/20s and it just seems like everyone around me is aging

My friend just moved and I was fully expecting to help him move, but he called movers, and I was like wtf?

Guess it helps that my gf atm is in her early 20s, I travel, and I've got no kids :lol

[MG1]

You cradle robber, you........ more power to you. I'm all jelly.

[SkinnyPupp]

Im only 34 and I'm relating to the older folks when I was in my teens. Rainy days we'd find underground parking lots to skateboard in and people would yell at us and we'd have the fuck you you old fuck attitude. Now kids come into my buildings visitor section of our underground parkade, the area before the gate, and I want to yell at the pricks for making so much noise when their wheels hit the floor and the board tumbles over and over from never being able to land a single trick.

So how old are you all when saying you're old? 30s? 40s?
I didn't start to feel old until 39 or so last year. I was the fittest of my life at 36-38, and then I got injured (hip and then shoulder), and I couldn't get close to the same shape despite similar diet after. And then when covid hit I went straight into DGAF and am paying for it now

Also my face hasn't really aged, I always had kind of a babyface, but I can feel some changes coming in, under my eyes mostly. A few grey hairs on my sides and in my beard. My vision, hearing, etc are all fine. Still perfect vision

[MG1]

Another thing that's changed is not being able to withstand the cold. In my younger days, I would sleep in the raw with the windows wide open in the dead of winter, shovel snow in my shorts and T-Shirt. Now I have to have the heat inside the house cranked up. I can no longer work in the garage in the winter or after hours. So sad..........

[StylinRed]

oh grey hairs! I've got sooo many greys, but I was going grey in my teens so that never made me feel weird

But grey chest hairs and pubes that's new, and kind of disconcerting

And being cold is definitely a thing too, I used to go out in a tshirt n shorts when it was -10, just a few years ago even, but now I'm in a sweater, and jacket and it's 15 degrees out :lol

[Gumby]

Having kids ages you the most :lol

[twitchyzero]

when hagerty has articles on s2000

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d4/65/46/d4654631b36f49c0c3f1378f867f7de0.gif

[rb]

Tomorrow marks 20yrs that I've been on RS... :ohgodwhy: . Signed up on ezboard when I was 17

and I now make more sounds when I pee than when I poop. I have not aged well.

[MG1]

and I now make more sounds when I pee than when I poop.

Jeezuz, STI? And I'm not talking a Subaru. lol

[CivicBlues]

Grey hairs are one thing, anyone else getting thick single hairs growing out of their ear cartilage? Wtf is this shit?

[jtrinh]

Grey hairs are one thing, anyone else getting thick single hairs growing out of their ear cartilage? Wtf is this shit?

Yeah, I tweeze the random thick hairs that grow on the part of your ear called the "tragus".

At what age did you guys start experiencing hair loss???

[EuterVanWasser]

Grey hairs are one thing, anyone else getting thick single hairs growing out of their ear cartilage? Wtf is this shit?

^^ YES THIS. I was going to contribute this too, I have a single "pube" that's started to grow out the middle of my damn ear cartilage. WTF. I find vast enjoyment plucking the damn thing though.

Any ways. I've been thinking about this same topic for some time. I turned 40 a couple of years ago and have noticed changes. 30s were like meh, same old same old but the 40s so far have been different for me. I'm noticing deterioration in strength and stamina for sure.

Things I used to be able to lift or move around and physical work I used to endure.. I'm sadly beginning to understand that those days are behind me.

[Hondaracer]

TLDR; Places where hair is growing where it didn’t before lol

[quasi]

We moved a couple of months ago. Some old neighbours asked us if we were going to do the move ourselves. My wife and I both looked at each other, a bit dumbfounded at the question, and said, "No, we hired movers and are renting boxes to pack up our things".

Doing a move on your own is when you're in your 20s and early 30s when you're broke and have no kids. You know when you're old when you have too much crap, nice furniture, etc. and have to hire movers.

Lol 100%, I'm never moving shit again and I'm never helping anyone move if your a good friend and ask me for help I'll offer you some money towards your move.

[MG1]

But the comradeship is priceless, not.

I offer my truck and trailer and say, “This is my contribution. Don’t like it? Rent a truck.” I don’t even pack. Break something and I’ll feel like shit for a grand total of 16 seconds.l, depending on item.

[Ch28]

Personally speaking, the worst part of growing old is seeing your parents and relatives all ageing and dying off. While I understand that death is an inevitable part of life, it doesn't make it any easier to experience.

My dad turned 70 at the start of the year and we found out he has terminal pancreatic cancer back in March.

You guys have no idea how hard it was having to be the "strong" one during our diagnosis meeting with the oncologist. The life expectancy of a terminal pancreatic cancer patient that doesn't go through treatment is on average 6 months. The life expectancy of someone that goes through treatment is about 1.5-2 years. Obviously, these numbers are just an average and each person could live longer or shorter and it just depends on how 'lucky' you are.

His hair has grown a little bit compared to when he first started chemotherapy and the tumours have either remained stable or reduced in size, so we know that he's improving a little bit. However, we know our time with him is limited, considering regular pancreatic cancer patients have a 7-8% 5-year life expectancy, let alone someone that's terminal.

Everyone only has 1 set of parents so make sure to check in on them, especially during these COVID times of isolation.

[CivicBlues]

So sorry to hear of that Ch28. I hope your dad comes through it with as little pain as possible, however much time he has.

Fuck Cancer, esp. Pancreatic. Still gets me choked up watching Jeopardy right now knowing Alex Trebek worked literally until his last days

[Euro7r]

I have so much white hair on the side of my head. Picked up my dad genes, white hair early. I am in mid 30's....

[fliptuner]

That's my fade starts with 0 guard....


For that 10 days or less, I'm (grey) free.

[SkinnyPupp]

Grey hairs are one thing, anyone else getting thick single hairs growing out of their ear cartilage? Wtf is this shit?
Yes!

I have one that grows right on my "tragus"

https://www.earwellcenters.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/ear-anatomy-baby.jpg

And I have to shave it off.. It's wiry and thick so it's hard to shave too DansGame

Edit: I guess I'm not the only one. Maybe I should pluck it instead LUL

[StylinRed]

I've got lots of ear hairs :lol I think it's cuz I shaved some odd fine hairs before n they just came back thicker n thicker so now my helix n tragus get a shave

[CivicBlues]

Yes, it's the Tragus for me too!

Also getting wiry thick single hairs in the eyebrows and nosehairs. Not a huge deal but just some other things I've noticed. Facial hair seems to be coming in higher on the cheek as well in single hairs

[ilovebacon]

Spread your wisdom to the young people on revscene MG1, what's one of your best advice.

[MG1]

For the hair?

I got me one of these and it works. Practice makes perfect. First few times, I thought it was a huge waste of money. I did get it at 60% off at the Aberdeen Zwilling Warehouse Clearance Centre.

https://www.zwilling.com/ca/zwilling-classic-inox-nose-and-ear-hair-trimmer-matted-silver-79854-001/79854-001-0.html?ref=searchsuggestion


Other ones out there, but you know............. brand power, lol.

[urrh]

i don't know about ear hair. never occurred to me to check over on the side of my head. but i did notice some long eyebrow hairs. like i have 1 that's getting close to the length of my eyebrow

[ilovebacon]

In life in general

[MG1]

Best advice.... fuck as much as you can. Fuck until it drops off............. never mind this save yourself for the right person crap, 'cause when you get old, it ain't gonna happen as much as you'd hope. Plus, you could get hit by a bus waiting for the right person and die a fricken virgin.

Having said that, no glove, no love.

I learned that the hard way when I was in college. Thank god for Alexander Flemming. Nuff said.

In my youth, I was madly in love with this one girl, my father gave me some good advice. "Son, there are two types of girls in this world. Ones you have fun with (can't remember the exact words) and the ones you marry." You save your heart for the right person.

[Traum]

This one hasn't been mentioned yet, so is it just me, or is it happening to some of you guys as well?

I'm getting random and not-so-random muscle aches / stiffness / knots / trigger point / DOMS issues that either don't go away, or are only going away very, very sloooooowly. If I were doing physical work / physical stuff and I get them, at least I understand where they are coming from, and can try to take counter measures (like stretching, massage, etc.) to minimize and mitigate them. The ones that pisses me off is, I haven't done anything out of the ordinary, and all of a sudden this band of muscle becomes super stiff and sore like I have just punished it with a 3 hr workout.

At any given time, there are at least a couple of places where I am stiff and sore. If I have the means to afford it, I'm sure I could use a couple hours' worth of deep tissue massage everyday.

[Hondaracer]

CBD is your friend bro, inflammation caused pains were all but eliminated when i was taking CBD, pretty crazy

[Hehe]

"We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing." - George Bernard Shaw

Keep the mind young everyone!

[Liquid_o2]

For me it has been injuries. Didn't have a major injury playing soccer for over 20 years. In the past two years I have had severe shoulder and ankle injuries that never properly healed. Retired from soccer and still going to see doctors and physios for these injuries. The body just won't heal itself like it did in my 20's.

Agree with watching your parents age. It is tough - even though they are in good health right now, you never know what could happen :( Although my dad is 73 and is in better shape than I am, he can do 10 chin ups without even trying.

[Traum]

For me it has been injuries. Didn't have a major injury playing soccer for over 20 years. In the past two years I have had severe shoulder and ankle injuries that never properly healed. Retired from soccer and still going to see doctors and physios for these injuries. The body just won't heal itself like it did in my 20's.

Esp when it comes to playing sports, I find that we really have to know how to pace ourselves now; otherwise it becomes far too easy to get injured, and then it is just no fun.

[6793026]

Dad got kidney cancer last yr in Nov, removed one and March full chemo. Happy and normal as F right now, he is 71. Cousin just passed away yesterday on route to hospital just due to headache; took an advil, went back to bed. Lips turned blue and called the ambulance. Awaiting final autopsy.

I am turning 40 and I am in the best shape of my life due to a lot of good community exercise; cycling + ping pong. Family matters the most, please go spend time with them.

STOP being BUSY is my key one.

https://thenaturaledge.com/wp-content/uploads/fourburners-scaled.jpg
Pic from the book Essentialism.

Got a promotion?
got married / have a kid?
Family Death
Health scare?

You can add fire to one of the burners. You can put more time on 1 burners maybe 2 MAX.. something has to give!

I am saying no to A LOT of things. Don't give a shit on TV, wrote off watching sports. Don't give a shit about friends for the sake of 'hanging out' just to get shit face. Don't get me wrong, we all have our vices... pick and choose.

2) Build friends and learn something. Friends are like seasons. It's OK if they come and go. ESP during COVID. My social community went down to zero, those who stayed around were true friends. I joined a few book clubs which were extremely benefitial.

I wanted to ensure I am remembered and be doing stuff within a community. Last thing I want is to be known to have watched all Netflix videos and only have a IG followers.

[SkinnyPupp]

Whenever a family member gets sick or dies, we're reminded to cherish what we have while we can. But sometimes we get into a routine, and forget to do that, because nobody happens to be getting sick or dying.

So let this be a reminder: Cherish what you have right now. Go give your mom/dad/sister/brother/husband/wife/cat/dog a big hug and a kiss

I try to think of this as much as possible, especially with my cat who is still healthy but getting up there in years (just turned 12). I can't even imagine what it would be like if he left us

[Zedbra]

^ seeing as how I am now the eldest of my namesake, with all other elder relatives now deceased, I agree one should cherish this short time on earth to the best of your ability.

[quasi]

Reading through this post I think CH28 probably nailed it, parents getting old and sick is probably the worst thing about getting older.

My mom has been battling cancer (winning I'll add) and has the onset of dementia and my dad received a cancer diagnosis about 6 weeks ago, 3 types all unrelated in 3 spots but the Doctors actually seem optimistic which is surprising to me considering.

He called me yesterday and I could actually hear the fear in his voice and he's not one to be emotional ever, it sucks because they live 2000 kms away and Covid and the challenges of work and my own family make it so hard to be together.

[MG1]

Both my parents are gone. My mother nearly two years ago. She was just shy of turning 96. Wife passed away five years ago. Three of my aunts. A few of my friends. The smell of death is something I'm used to. All I ask in life is not to have to bury any of my children. I saw what that was like when my wife passed away. It's all depressing, but life goes on. Does the pain ever go away? No. Time does NOT heal all wounds. I have seen people get so depressed they end their own life. Nothing, and I mean nothing is more sadder than that. Life has so much to offer. My wife used to say, its the survivors that suffer the most.

Stay positive and try your absolute best to make a difference in other people's lives. Two of my three children have moved out. The third, I pretty much leave alone, but man this house is so empty now. I do keep busy (hoarding, lol) and have enough hobbies to last three life times. I wake up each day thankful for all I have. It hasn't always been easy, but I could easily be like the homeless guy on the street or a drug addict or a lonely, miserable old man, or dead. Like one of the quotes in my sig, "there but for the grace of god go I." I go out everyday just to interact and meet people. Just the other day, I ran across this lady who's at the cemetery every day. I commented on how she's at the cemetery as much as I was.......... long story short, by the end of the conversation, we both ended up in tears. Her story was so sad. Life is so unfair. No mercy.

Anyway, celebrate life. Go outside, go to your favourite spot to contemplate/meditate, and take a really, really, really deep breath. Think of all the good things you share/shared with your loved ones. If it's pouring rain, just look up and let it hit your face.............. and laugh.

[mikemhg]

For me it has been injuries. Didn't have a major injury playing soccer for over 20 years. In the past two years I have had severe shoulder and ankle injuries that never properly healed. Retired from soccer and still going to see doctors and physios for these injuries. The body just won't heal itself like it did in my 20's.

Agree with watching your parents age. It is tough - even though they are in good health right now, you never know what could happen :( Although my dad is 73 and is in better shape than I am, he can do 10 chin ups without even trying.

This. The most.

It's funny how the older guys would always warn us about injuries and pain when we got older, I always would scoff at it.

Boy was I wrong, Achilles injury that never quite healed properly, slight should issues from lifting, elbow tendinitis from lifting, it's crazy how these things never presented themselves in your 20's.

The real kicker about getting older? How your couch or your bed can cause you hip or back pain :lol Never thought I'd have to be more aware of my choice of couch. Heck now my bed is starting to give me a slight pain in my right hip, so now it's off to the store to upgrade to something more supportive.

The joys of getting older.

[rb]

I always tell my friends to live life as much as they can while their parents are still healthy because one day that option to do so will not be so easy... well, if you actually care about and like your parents

My dad got sick when I was about 9 and passed when I was 35. That was 25yrs of dealing with all of his serious health problems and shit he put our family through that I had to grow up fast to help pay off family debts, etc. Would always be jealous of people doing teenage things, college student things, etc and just living a normal life...

[acrophobia]

Peeing 2 or 3 times every night
Always cold
Ear hair + torso hair increase
Head hair decrease
Sports injuries are more numerous and take waaaaay longer to heal
Care less about opinions of others
Increasingly value family and time with them
Caught the travel bug (damn you, covid!)
Drinking more coffee
Find more joy in the “little things”
Coaching and volunteering more often
Becoming increasingly thrifty
Spending way more time in this forum vs auto for nsfw forum
Realizing that getting old ain’t so bad :woot2:

[Obsideon]

TLDR; Places where hair is growing where it didn’t before lol

And places where hair stopped growing where it did before FeelsBadMan

[N.V.M.]

I feel 20 years younger. lost 35 lbs, doing some exercise routines regularly, and eating 100% differently. my heart is very efficient now, amazing what a difference the surgery made

[RTS]

I checked to see and I joined Revscene in 2003. Now it's 17 years later. Now I feel old.

[N.V.M.]

I've had this avatar for 19, lol.

[SkinnyPupp]

I try to think of this as much as possible, especially with my cat who is still healthy but getting up there in years (just turned 12). I can't even imagine what it would be like if he left us

:ahwow: BibleThump

That was close

[MG1]

Best part about being a senior, besides Costco seniors hour, 20% off video games at Shoppers Drug Mart, yada, yada, yada, is the Home Owners Grant!!!

It's property tax time. Went on-line and applied for it. It is no longer handled by the municipality. It's now handled by the provincial government. Everybody who qualifies has to apply each and every year. I pay monthly and it's the way to go. No sudden surprises. Equal payment over 10 months. Depending on assessment changes, you get charged extra or get refund.

https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/taxes/property-taxes/annual-property-tax/home-owner-grant/apply