[PeanutButter]

I know different cultures give different amounts.

1) I'm curious to know what your thoughts are on local weddings, and how much to give?
2) How much do you give (if any) if you go on a destination wedding, let's say Mexico (far away) or Tofino (relatively close), both still expensive for the guest.


For local weddings my friends say $100 per person (pp) is the absolute minimum, but $150 pp is more inline with today's standard.
For destination weddings, my friends have no idea... Since you have to pay quite a bit just to go to the wedding...One idea is $100 pp for a destination wedding.

What does RS do???

[supafamous]

The baseline is that you shouldn't give more than you can afford. No one should feel like they have to give a set amount just because they were invited.

At my wedding 8 years ago the younger guests gave between $25-150pp while the older guests (friends of our parents) typically gave $150-250pp. I had one person who couldn't make it give me $1000 but that was the exception.

If my wife and I were going to a wedding now I think I'd give $200-300 total, more if I know them well or if the party is going to be a bit fancier. For a destination wedding I probably give half that.

[Badhobz]

i always give 200 per person for weddings.

that being said, i dont usually go to weddings because i hate everyone and their bullshit celebrations of happiness. fuck you and your fucking bullshit money grab. who cares if youre getting married, go eat a dick. <-- nobody invites me anymore.

[Hondaracer]

If they are good friends maybe $300+

For everyone else probably max $150 between my wife and I total

[Great68]

Really depends on the relationship to the wedding couple.

I've given more to close friends than to blood relatives (rarely seen cousins).

The stingiest we've ever been was for my Wife's cousin. Someone who we rarely see, with destination wedding in Kelowna and a cash bar.

And she divorced 5 years later...

[RiceIntegraRS]

It all depends. $100 is my baseline. It goes up if were closer friends. It also goes down if u cheap out on booze or dont serve an actual dinner.

I had a destination wedding and i would say 75% of my guests gave me money. It all varied from person to person

[whitev70r]

^ ... :lol ... I'm also at that age in which going is more of a hassle than anything. If they are having a separate ceremony, go and honour them but find a reason to skip the reception if you can ... it's a hella $$$$$ night, you might sit with people you don't know or like. Give a small gift card if you just attend ceremony. Save the $$$ you would have given and go out with people you like being around ... haha. Some are referencing the degree that you know them ... if they are not within your close circle of friends ... don't even bother going.

[Gerbs]

I've heard coworkers and friends being upset when they got $100 for duals or < $100/Person. Thought that was kind of weird since you invited them. They mentioned they even broke even with a little bit of profit from them if you invite enough people?

What are you thoughts on people if they don't bring a gift?

[RiceIntegraRS]

I dont know about u guys, but i love going to weddings. U "paid" to have a good time u might aswell make the most of it. I dont mind partying with strangers, its not like ull ever see them again


No gift really? Those are the types of people that comes to partys empty handed and drink and eat everyone elses shit.

[winson604]

I think like many my baseline is $100 per person for like an ok friend. You know like someone you are not super tight with but their wedding was big enough that you still made it to be invited lol.

Then from there it'll slowly go up, like closer friends $150, fam $200 +. No idea about destination weddings have yet to do one and hopefully won't.

[supafamous]

I've heard coworkers and friends being upset when they got $100 for duals or < $100/Person. Thought that was kind of weird since you invited them. They mentioned they even broke even with a little bit of profit from them if you invite enough people?

What are you thoughts on people if they don't bring a gift?

If they can't afford it then I don't care if they don't provide a gift (assuming they at least gave a card). I don't get the entitlement of people around getting wedding gifts - they're your GUESTS. A wedding is just a big version of a house party and I don't expect my friends to bring anything when I have them over. Most offer to bring something but they're not obligated to do so.

As a baseline, a guests' presence is enough of a gift at a wedding - it's an entire day that they spend with you (and usually a whole bunch of strangers). My feeding of them is the least I can do. If they choose to give something to me it's a bonus.

[SSM_DC5]

Give enough to at least pay for my seat at the table. More if really close friends.

[Hondaracer]

The couple getting married looking at the gifts coming in to “break even” or not are even worse than the attendee who doesn’t give a gift lol

[bcedhk]

If they're Asian, 288.

[320icar]

Give enough to at least pay for my seat at the table. More if really close friends.

That’s what I came in here to say. There is no rule on how much you should give. The real answer is give what you’re comfortable with. But a good thought is that at least give what you think it cost per person for the dinner, drinks etc. helps ease the burden

[PeanutButter]

It all depends. $100 is my baseline. It goes up if were closer friends. It also goes down if u cheap out on booze or dont serve an actual dinner.

I had a destination wedding and i would say 75% of my guests gave me money. It all varied from person to person

Do you mind expanding on where you went and what the average you got per person was?

[Great68]

I dont know about u guys, but i love going to weddings. U "paid" to have a good time u might aswell make the most of it. I dont mind partying with strangers, its not like ull ever see them again


No gift really? Those are the types of people that comes to partys empty handed and drink and eat everyone elses shit.

One of the most fun weddings I've been to was my neighbour's (well, my neighbour is her father who lives next door, she runs her hair salon out of the basement and cuts my hair).

We knew absolutely no one going in. The other couples at our table didn't know anyone outside of the bride & groom either. Crazy 12 course meal of food I'd never normally dream of eating (but went in with an open mind and tried everything), free flowing booze, and a bottle of Hennessy at every table (Bride's family was Vietnamese, so apparently cognac is a tradition). By the end of the night, our table was pretty rowdy... The wedding shut down around midnight, we continued the party a couple bars/clubs downtown.

[Badhobz]

best wedding ive ever been to was this rich doctor friend of mine. dude told everyone to fuck off with the money and the gifts.

it was actually a real celebration. not like the typical chinese money grab where they expect to "break even" or make some $$$. fuck those.

[teggy604]

it was actually a real celebration. not like the typical chinese money grab where they expect to "break even" or make some $$$. fuck those.

Sad but true. One just needs to look at the gift registry. There are maybe a few things that are what sounds reasonable and those are already spoken for, the rest are big ticket items.

[whitev70r]

^ which presumably, couples will return for cash or credit for the items that didn't really want nor will use.

[MG1]

Really depends on the relationship to the wedding couple.

I've given more to close friends than to blood relatives (rarely seen cousins).

The stingiest we've ever been was for my Wife's cousin. Someone who we rarely see, with destination wedding in Kelowna and a cash bar.

And she divorced 5 years later...

At my age, funerals are more common than weddings, gulolol.

Found out that at least half a dozen of my classmates in high school have died already................... I plan to outlive them all. You know what they say, "Only the good die young."

Sort of getting back on topic. I've had friends marry and divorce more than once or twice.

BTW...... a very thoughtful gift, to me, is worth more than money.

Here's an idea............ a portrait of the husband and wife (husband and husband, wife and wife, etc.) every five years of marriage for the rest of their days............. as long as they're still married. So only once for most, if not all, marriages these days.

[quasi]

I'm just happy I'm past the age where my friends are getting married, I hated attending most of them. The next wedding I go to will probably be my sons but hopefully not anytime soon.

[Gumby]

I'm just happy I'm past the age where my friends are getting married, I hated attending most of them. The next wedding I go to will probably be my sons but hopefully not anytime soon.
Baby shower for your son & his partner :troll:

[RiceIntegraRS]

Do you mind expanding on where you went and what the average you got per person was?

My wedding was in Cuba. I basically got $100-$300 per person from friends. Obviously more from family. Some gave none

As u can tell by everyones responses, the amount varies from person to person. I honestly dont understand not giving anything but thats just me. A girl once told me, that it doesnt matter how much you give. Your getting it right back once its ur turn to get married anyways, and so far in my experience it holds true. Theres been a bunch of people who couldnt attend my wedding still give me "goodluck" money because thats what it is meant for. Goodluck and also they are returning back the luck i gave them previously if u wanna look at it that way.

[snowball]

100 pp baseline
maybe 150 pp if we're best friends and i owe em one
If they are worth less than 100 pp, then you probably arent good enough friends to go to their wedding

Basically enough to cover our dinner

[StylinRed]

We're supposed to give money?! Lmao

I normally give a present, like a vitamix etc, if they're close friends I give em a travel voucher to cover a trip for two

[Badhobz]

should start giving parties and presents for people who divorce. ive never seen happier dudes then when they got divorced hahah

[GLOW]

should start giving parties and presents for people who divorce. ive never seen happier dudes then when they got divorced hahah

don't guys usually get taken to the cleaners with a divorce settlement, or are they just happy to be out of the marriage and don't care? Kappa

[MG1]

don't guys usually get taken to the cleaners with a divorce settlement, or are they just happy to be out of the marriage and don't care? Kappa

Isn't that what go-fund-me is for?

[bcrdukes]

I got married back in September this year so below is my experience and thought process from the other side (not as a guest.) Take my thoughts with a grain of salt and consider the context below. Be prepared that this is a long read but I want to genuinely share this for those of you who are genuinely curious.

1. The COVID pandemic pushed out our wedding plans for two years and we live in Toronto (moved here since 2016.) All of our close friends and family were in Vancouver.

2. We are at an age where we know who our friends are. There was no "B" guest list. Everyone was an "A" lister.

3. We wanted to ensure everyone was accommodated and to the best of our abilities, including guests who had dietary restrictions and meeting cultural expectations (Chinese.) As such, we chose a well-known Chinese restaurant to host our wedding reception.

4. We planned our wedding based on previous experiences where we were invited as guests. Did we want to host a buffet? No. Did we want to cheap out? No (more on that later.) Did we want to make sure our friends and family would be happy? Yes.

Any how, weddings can be weird, depending on a lot of circumstances. On one hand, yes, you have people who might think this is a cash grab, hence why you need to know who you real friends are. Who you invite matters. I say this from the angle of "Are they worth this much to me?" If the answer is yes, expect nothing and be happy they say yes to the invitation.

We did not expect any gifts or even any monetary gifts, but people who came to our wedding gave us cash as a gift which is nice and quite honestly more than what we had expected. We made it clear we had no gift registry because we were well established and had everything we needed, except for some Rolexes, Lexus LC500s, and Porsches. (Sigh!!!! #sarcasm)

Any how, what we did was sent out invitations old school style, along with a micro wedding site. We showcased what was on the menu and which restaurant. If you are a guest, you can easily take a good guess how much each menu/table costs and divide that by 10 people. That would be your baseline, excluding tax/tip etc.

Let me make one thing very clear - If this is a Chinese banquet you are going to, they are no longer cheap. Cheap as in you can't really get a solid menu until you hit the $1100/table mark. Think Kirin, Sun Sui Wah and others. Places like Sun Sui Wah will be AT LEAST $1288 to start these days, so you can do the math. Western style buffets are still reasonable at $80/per person with a nice seafood menu. Again, you guys can do the math.

The thing about bargain priced Asian / Chinese style banquets - these are not easy to come by anymore. You can try to get an $800 menu but at a restaurant which may not be able to accommodate you or the menu / service / food is lack luster. Most restaurants we tried simply said no and would not entertain any weddings due to lack of staff and willingness of the chefs. Sign of the times.

Edit: For those who host a buffet at a rented venue, be it a hotel, off-site facility, castle in Victoria that will kick you out for taking pictures of your car, it's not the food costs that are expensive. It's the venue rental costs that will kill it. A dumpy hipster warehouse we wanted to rent wanted $12,000. Like, what? So consider it from that angle as well. Think of this as vendors dealing with revenge weddings. You have two years of pent up demand for weddings, and vendors have two problems: Make up for lost revenue and/or not enough staff. Again, sign of the times.

I don't want to sound imposing, but if you genuinely value your friendship with the person who invited you to their wedding, I suggest giving at minimum $100 - $120 per person as a monetary gift, unless you are planning to give them a thoughtful gift. Think of this as a two way street. Your friend would have invited you for a reason, but try not to think of it as a cash grab. That's just a lose/lose situation. If the invitation triggers you, my recommendation is to politely decline the invitation.

Any how, that's it from my perspective. Getting married is not cheap and it costs time, effort, and money. I invited some people here on Revscene who I consider some of my best friends in life and they were all super amazing with their monetary gifts. I was just happy they were able to attend my wedding and that's all that mattered. Even my photography team were from Revscene, and the principal photographer remembered me from way, way back in the day when I met him in a random parking lot (I think Oakridge?) to give him a Revscene sticker. We made an effort to take care of our vendors as best as possible be it food, drink, and what have you.

Now, as a guest, if someone I were good friends with invited me to their wedding, I would be more generous and give anywhere from $150 to $200 per person because I know weddings cost a lot these days. I want to help the bride and groom at least break even per person, and at least to cover some expenses such as tax/tip/alcohol etc. I've been lucky to have helped some of my older cousins plan their weddings so I know what goes into them and some of their general costs. I don't plan on going to any other weddings anytime soon but if I did, I'd give something cheesy like $888.99 or something like that. Please don't invite me to your wedding. :D

TL;DR: Minimum $100 - $120. If the thought of getting a gift or giving a monetary gift bothers you, decline the invitation. Personally, I don't give material gifts beacuse let's be real. Nothing beats cold, hard cash.

[donk.]

Do people not give gifts instead of cash money's?

I got a wedding coming up in May in Japan, japanese couple, my friend who is getting married, he was saying it's acustom to give the couple 500$ in Japanese culture.

I was sort of baffled (I don't go to weddings normally, haven't been to one in 10+ years) considering I'm shelling out 3k for flights, stay, etc

I guess the 500$ covers your liquor, events, plus the gift to the couple etc

[donk.]

should start giving parties and presents for people who divorce. ive never seen happier dudes then when they got divorced hahah

Gonna derail this thread

Bahahhahahahha, every time I'm out with friends, and we see a wedding or a couple taking wedding pics, the first thing out of my mouth is sorry for t̶h̶e̶i̶r̶ his loss

I might have to take your approach to divorces, that is glorious

Weddings are women's happiest day, they get a glorious dress, pictures, all the attention on them, cake is for them, the entire wedding planning is usually their choice(s), they have MADE IT in life

What does the man get? A suit, and hopefully a permanent relationship so he does not lose 50% when he gets divorced KEKW

Yes I'm anti marriage, seen too many close friends get financially raped over the years on divorce

[Badhobz]

i love my wife, but if we ever get divorced the first thing ill do is throw a HUGE FUCKING PARTY.

[bcrdukes]

i love my wife, but if we ever get divorced the first thing ill do is throw a HUGE FUCKING PARTY.

I hope it doesn't happen ever, but QFT. :D

[PeanutButter]

i love my wife, but if we ever get divorced the first thing ill do is throw a HUGE FUCKING PARTY.

The fact you preface your divorce comment with, "I love my wife, but..." fkn cracks me up.

If I got divorced, I don't know if I could get married again.

[Gumby]

Gonna derail this thread

Bahahhahahahha, every time I'm out with friends, and we see a wedding or a couple taking wedding pics, the first thing out of my mouth is sorry for t̶h̶e̶i̶r̶ his loss

I might have to take your approach to divorces, that is glorious

Weddings are women's happiest day, they get a glorious dress, pictures, all the attention on them, cake is for them, the entire wedding planning is usually their choice(s), they have MADE IT in life

What does the man get? A suit, and hopefully a permanent relationship so he does not lose 50% when he gets divorced KEKW

Yes I'm anti marriage, seen too many close friends get financially raped over the years on divorce


I totally agree that marriage isn’t for everybody. I remember the first 4-5 weddings I attended as a young adult all ended up in divorce.

With that said, I challenge your simplistic viewpoint on weddings. Happiest day for the bride?. What about those bridezillas? Super stressful. What about a guy marrying a wealthy girl? Happiest day for the guy instead?

If we could ditch tradition, my wife and I wouldn’t have had a “fancy” wedding. We got away with getting married in a civil ceremony with immediate family only, then dinner reception with friends and family a few months later.

[StylinRed]

I got married back in September this year so below is my experience and thought process from the other side (not as a guest.) Take my thoughts with a grain of salt and consider the context below. Be prepared that this is a long read but I want to genuinely share this for those of you who are genuinely curious.

1. The COVID pandemic pushed out our wedding plans for two years and we live in Toronto (moved here since 2016.) All of our close friends and family were in Vancouver.

2. We are at an age where we know who our friends are. There was no "B" guest list. Everyone was an "A" lister.

3. We wanted to ensure everyone was accommodated and to the best of our abilities, including guests who had dietary restrictions and meeting cultural expectations (Chinese.) As such, we chose a well-known Chinese restaurant to host our wedding reception.

4. We planned our wedding based on previous experiences where we were invited as guests. Did we want to host a buffet? No. Did we want to cheap out? No (more on that later.) Did we want to make sure our friends and family would be happy? Yes.

Any how, weddings can be weird, depending on a lot of circumstances. On one hand, yes, you have people who might think this is a cash grab, hence why you need to know who you real friends are. Who you invite matters. I say this from the angle of "Are they worth this much to me?" If the answer is yes, expect nothing and be happy they say yes to the invitation.

We did not expect any gifts or even any monetary gifts, but people who came to our wedding gave us cash as a gift which is nice and quite honestly more than what we had expected. We made it clear we had no gift registry because we were well established and had everything we needed, except for some Rolexes, Lexus LC500s, and Porsches. (Sigh!!!! #sarcasm)

Any how, what we did was sent out invitations old school style, along with a micro wedding site. We showcased what was on the menu and which restaurant. If you are a guest, you can easily take a good guess how much each menu/table costs and divide that by 10 people. That would be your baseline, excluding tax/tip etc.

Let me make one thing very clear - If this is a Chinese banquet you are going to, they are no longer cheap. Cheap as in you can't really get a solid menu until you hit the $1100/table mark. Think Kirin, Sun Sui Wah and others. Places like Sun Sui Wah will be AT LEAST $1288 to start these days, so you can do the math. Western style buffets are still reasonable at $80/per person with a nice seafood menu. Again, you guys can do the math.

The thing about bargain priced Asian / Chinese style banquets - these are not easy to come by anymore. You can try to get an $800 menu but at a restaurant which may not be able to accommodate you or the menu / service / food is lack luster. Most restaurants we tried simply said no and would not entertain any weddings due to lack of staff and willingness of the chefs. Sign of the times.

Edit: For those who host a buffet at a rented venue, be it a hotel, off-site facility, castle in Victoria that will kick you out for taking pictures of your car, it's not the food costs that are expensive. It's the venue rental costs that will kill it. A dumpy hipster warehouse we wanted to rent wanted $12,000. Like, what? So consider it from that angle as well. Think of this as vendors dealing with revenge weddings. You have two years of pent up demand for weddings, and vendors have two problems: Make up for lost revenue and/or not enough staff. Again, sign of the times.

I don't want to sound imposing, but if you genuinely value your friendship with the person who invited you to their wedding, I suggest giving at minimum $100 - $120 per person as a monetary gift, unless you are planning to give them a thoughtful gift. Think of this as a two way street. Your friend would have invited you for a reason, but try not to think of it as a cash grab. That's just a lose/lose situation. If the invitation triggers you, my recommendation is to politely decline the invitation.

Any how, that's it from my perspective. Getting married is not cheap and it costs time, effort, and money. I invited some people here on Revscene who I consider some of my best friends in life and they were all super amazing with their monetary gifts. I was just happy they were able to attend my wedding and that's all that mattered. Even my photography team were from Revscene, and the principal photographer remembered me from way, way back in the day when I met him in a random parking lot (I think Oakridge?) to give him a Revscene sticker. We made an effort to take care of our vendors as best as possible be it food, drink, and what have you.

Now, as a guest, if someone I were good friends with invited me to their wedding, I would be more generous and give anywhere from $150 to $200 per person because I know weddings cost a lot these days. I want to help the bride and groom at least break even per person, and at least to cover some expenses such as tax/tip/alcohol etc. I've been lucky to have helped some of my older cousins plan their weddings so I know what goes into them and some of their general costs. I don't plan on going to any other weddings anytime soon but if I did, I'd give something cheesy like $888.99 or something like that. Please don't invite me to your wedding. :D

TL;DR: Minimum $100 - $120. If the thought of getting a gift or giving a monetary gift bothers you, decline the invitation. Personally, I don't give material gifts beacuse let's be real. Nothing beats cold, hard cash.

YOU GOT MARRIED?! CONGRATULATIONS DUKES:toot:

[MG1]

YOU GOT MARRIED?! CONGRATULATIONS DUKES:toot:

Anyone taking bets?

When I got married, friends all bet on how long the marriage would last. One, by one, by ten, they all filed for divorces. Wife said to me once, "We showed them, didn't we?" Till death do we part," took on a whole new meaning..............



On a side note, congratulations, dukes. Treat her like gold plated latinum. And, if you ever have kids, teach them well.

[roastpuff]

Do people not give gifts instead of cash money's?

I got a wedding coming up in May in Japan, japanese couple, my friend who is getting married, he was saying it's acustom to give the couple 500$ in Japanese culture.

I was sort of baffled (I don't go to weddings normally, haven't been to one in 10+ years) considering I'm shelling out 3k for flights, stay, etc

I guess the 500$ covers your liquor, events, plus the gift to the couple etc
That depends - white wedding? Gift. Asian? Money. My ballpark is 100-150 per person if we don't know them that well, 200 if we knew them well/were super close friends with them.

What bcrdukes said - weddings are expensive as fuck now, especially Asian banquets. My wedding budget was in the 40K range once you figure on photographer, gifts, venue, banquet etc - and that was with us being as frugal as possible on other expenses like flowers, suits/dresses etc. We had 230 guests planned, and if we broke even, that was fine, and if we didn't that was fine either. We got "lucky" with Covid and didn't have to host a reception, and sunk the budget into buying a place/getting a new car lmao.

[lilaznviper]

I pretty much try to ball park how much the couple is paying per head for the dinner and give enough to cover the cost, usually its about $150 - $200. Depending on how close I am with them, I'll give them more

For reference, my banquet that I had at kirin this year, the lowest menu we could choose from was starting at 1k and that menu didn't have the usual asian parent flexing dishes. had to move up a couple of teirs inorder to get those dishes.

my wedding budget was thrown out the window. covid made a lot of things expensive. pretty much ended up spending about 20k more compared to 2020 prices for photographer, venue, and banquet. biggest hit was the food cost.

weddings are hella expensive, i don't expect to even coming close to getting half back at my dinner. everyone just enjoyed the huge party we had after being stuck inside for so long for coivd and that was all it mattered for my wife and I. Getting to see everyone after 2 years and everyone having fun.

[danned]

depending how hot the girls are

[BIC_BAWS]

I wish this thread existed a few months ago, which I asked a few of you here. I think I ended up giving $300 (or $500) don't remember.

It was for a pretty good buddy. He had a very nice wedding at Hycroft Manor and the banquet was at Sun Sui Wah. While I wasn't part of the wedding party, since that was my entire friend group (for this set of friends), my friend made accomodations to have me tag along on their adventures. Plus he sat me with the cute single girls + our friends dates so it was a lot of fun.

I was pretty much liquored up since 12pm lmao. No shortage of alcohol as well. Party Bus - Casa Blanca, Banquet was Moet Nectar Imperial Rose Limited Edition, Hennessy (BC viet family) and Calirosa Rosa Blanco. Sun Sui Wah also provided alcohol, idk what it was but we drank it lol.

Solid dance floor and partying with friends + strangers.

Depending on the friend and how Asian they are, you may want to give more than $100 to give face lol. It's not a simple dry cut answer unfortunately.

[quasi]

Baby shower for your son & his partner :troll:

Oh please no, too soon.

[whitev70r]

I wish this thread existed a few months ago, which I asked a few of you here. I think I ended up giving $300 (or $500) don't remember.



I think in this case, by the way you described it and how close you were, $300-500 was appropriate.

[SkunkWorks]

Damn at $500 I'll make sure to invite BIC_BAWS to my wedding too.

[bcrdukes]

BIC_BAWS, given your generosity and that we've only met once at a Stock & Noob meet, I'm hosting a Toronto-based reception this weekend. You are cordially invited. :D

If you can't make it, come down to Los Angeles during their Thanksgiving weekend for our LA-based reception. Please note the currency. :lol

[blkgsr]

depends on the couple, how lavish the wedding is going to be.

as a couple we gave $250 at our friends wedding a few weeks ago

[Hondaracer]

Love the idea of paying more for the Asian “banquet” style weddings to pay for that complete trash food lol

In termss of giving gifts Vs cash, I think it really depends on the situation of the couple. When my wife and I got married we had already been living together for about 4 years, we like nice shit so we already had nice appliances, high end cookware, etc.

We setup a registry for people with the old-school mentality of getting a gift and it was mostly just frivolous BS like a fancy bar set etc. we did end up getting some nice stuff and some nice wine glasses, snifters etc. but the one item we kind of made a point to say, if you’re gonna buy a frying pan, BUY THIS ONE, to match our set. Of course the person bought a slightly cheaper, different branded one and we instantly returned it and it became a big headache to exchange it, use the gift card etc.

[68style]

i love my wife, but if we ever get divorced the first thing ill do is throw a HUGE FUCKING PARTY.

Waiting for my invite!

I've been married before and made a healthy profit off my wedding doing a lot of stuff myself... but I think those days are over based on what I know people are paying nowadays unless someone's rich business friends feel like making a big splash to show off lol

[BIC_BAWS]

Damn at $500 I'll make sure to invite BIC_BAWS to my wedding too.

Your newfie alcohol isn't even good enough to sanitize my hands with.

[68style]

Your newfie alcohol isn't even good enough to sanitize my hands with.

I feel like this is your anthem:

It’s like 151 rum, pineapple juice and Malibu, Caribou, get them all numb… make baby girl come out of her shell and raise hell don’t stop till the cops come

[PeanutButter]

Love the idea of paying more for the Asian “banquet” style weddings to pay for that complete trash food lol

In termss of giving gifts Vs cash, I think it really depends on the situation of the couple. When my wife and I got married we had already been living together for about 4 years, we like nice shit so we already had nice appliances, high end cookware, etc.

We setup a registry for people with the old-school mentality of getting a gift and it was mostly just frivolous BS like a fancy bar set etc. we did end up getting some nice stuff and some nice wine glasses, snifters etc. but the one item we kind of made a point to say, if you’re gonna buy a frying pan, BUY THIS ONE, to match our set. Of course the person bought a slightly cheaper, different branded one and we instantly returned it and it became a big headache to exchange it, use the gift card etc.

You think a 10 course Chinese banquet meal is trash?

I would argue that a 10 course Chinese banquet is probably one of the best meals you'll ever have. Even if it's from a low tier Chinese restaurant. If it's from a high tier Chinese restaurant then it's GG.

Even if you're not Asian, to say a 10 course banquet meal is trash seems hilarious to me.

[Hondaracer]

Lol.. it’s fake fancy, and somthing you could get any day at any restaurant?

I’ve been to many and of varrying qualities. Those banquets are for people who don’t know what fine dining actually is, or even “good” dining lol.. I was recently at a wedding in Ireland, which obviously is not known for its food but I would take the 3-4 course meal they served there any day over the Banquets.

[Gumby]

You can’t compare an Asian 10 course banquet meal to western style fine dining. Everybody has their preferences, and I prefer the Asian banquet.

[RiceIntegraRS]

Alot of the asian parents prefer the Asian Banquet style dinners. While i do enjoy it, i usually dont make it past the lobster in cream sauce dish which is what? dish #5? by then i could careless about the remaining dishes and i just want to get liqoured up. But usually when u do Asian Banquet u have unlimited booze. When u do a 3-course meal from a white place(which i prefer food wise), it usually means liqour is limited.

[68style]

I’ve been to countless Asian weddings there are definitely differences in quality but, in general, I’d say the food selection ends up feeling very ho-hum not because of quality but because every single place has the same damn menu and has had the same same menu for absolutely ever.

#7 is always chicken with or without crispy skin, etc etc and it’s like literally every resto.

[teggy604]

Asian banquet is traditional. There is culture and history there. Just like other ethnicity have their own traditions for wedding/dinners. I enjoy them all from banquet to fine dining to all you can eat buffets.

[whitev70r]

The ambience of a Western style banquet (ballroom or golf course) is usually 10x better than the typical Chinese restaurant ... especially if you're having a dance/party afterwards.

[supafamous]

The ambience of a Western style banquet (ballroom or golf course) is usually 10x better than the typical Chinese restaurant ... especially if you're having a dance/party afterwards.

100%. The party afterwards at a Chinese banquet is always worse than at a Western style event - people are too full of food to party and Chinese banquets always feel more formal.

Gimme that all night raw oyster bar and dessert station anytime.

[68style]

Well the Chinese restaurants always kick everyone out at 10pm or maybe 11 haha… they close up shop so early!

That place in Richmond Uhm…. Forgot the name of it… Royal Garden?? That’s the only Ken I been to that had a legit dance floor and stays open after a dinner

[PeanutButter]

Lol.. it’s fake fancy, and somthing you could get any day at any restaurant?

I’ve been to many and of varrying qualities. Those banquets are for people who don’t know what fine dining actually is, or even “good” dining lol.. I was recently at a wedding in Ireland, which obviously is not known for its food but I would take the 3-4 course meal they served there any day over the Banquets.

I don't think an Asian banquet is fancy at all.. Even at Kiran or Sun Sui Wah. I also don't think there is any argument on the ambiance of a Chinese restaurant vs a Western venue. And, I can even entertain the argument that a plated dinner may be better to some.

What was off-putting to me was you thought it was trash. To be fair, food is subjective, but to hear someone think such a traditional meal in my culture was trash just rubbed me the wrong way. IT'S FINE THOUGH, I'M OKAY, IT'S FINE...

[Hondaracer]

Nevermind

[Badhobz]

I don't think an Asian banquet is fancy at all.. Even at Kiran or Sun Sui Wah. I also don't think there is any argument on the ambiance of a Chinese restaurant vs a Western venue. And, I can even entertain the argument that a plated dinner may be better to some.

What was off-putting to me was you thought it was trash. To be fair, food is subjective, but to hear someone think such a traditional meal in my culture was trash just rubbed me the wrong way. IT'S FINE THOUGH, I'M OKAY, IT'S FINE...

For many of these typical chinese banquets the food choices are completely dictated by cultural/social reasons. That crispy chicken? yes its present at every meal because you need a whole chicken (cant do halve-sys) and its usually the more expensive option (cant serve lemon chicken, you'll get laughed at). Same with with all the abalone(zzzz), lobster, roast pork (piglet if your $$$), king crab, etc etc.

Thus for us sad chinese people who have to constantly eat this stuff at every big festival/celebration/wedding/funeral/whatever it gets old fast.

Wouldnt call it trash as the sheer amount of work/skill in making these culinary dishes are utterly insane, but im still bored of it.

If i have one more friggin braised abalone in that damn seafood sauce, im gonna lose it. Send in that irish crap!

[supafamous]

Other than really high end weddings is ANY wedding food that fancy? By the sheer volume of food being made it's really hard to do fine dining at a wedding - hard to crank out 200 awesome duck breasts at the same time for example. At most wedding it's just nicer food, not fancy food regardless of cuisine.

[whitev70r]

Pure definition of 1st world problems ... 10 course Chinese banquet or Western plated dinner with salmon or prime rib.

[bcrdukes]

Re: Chinese banquet menu

These are traditional menu items in respect to the culture and people go by that. How do you change generations of tradition and expectations set by cultural tradition when each menu item represents something auspicious? This isn't restricted to just Chinese, but a lot of cultures around the world.

I will go out of my way to say that the restaurant is always happy to accommodate any changes. You might get some raised eyebrows but other than that, if you don't ask, you don't get. The worst is they say no and you go something different. There are a multitude of options like hiring a private chef. At the end of the day, someone pays. Just a matter of who.

[bcrdukes]

If i have one more friggin braised abalone in that damn seafood sauce, im gonna lose it. Send in that irish crap!

I am going to Uber Eats you this the next time I am in town hahaha

[68style]

^ spit my water I was drinking out, that’s awesome

[bcrdukes]

:D

[Badhobz]

But honestly that damn thing doesn’t taste like anything. At least it doesn’t the way Chinese restaurants do it. It’s like a lousy soft texture gelatine soup that they serve to old people in geriatric homes. The only one I had that was half decent was in Japan when this dude skewered it live and grilled it on charcoal in front of my eyes.

That thing was twisting and turning (in pain probably) but it was quite good with some butter garlic sauce. Nothing like clam cruelty to work up your appetite.

[Mikoyan]

This was starting to sound like the Christmas lobster dinner thread.

[68style]

I mainly hate those dinners cuz I can’t eat seafood.

That’s why I wait all night for #7!

But then it all goes wrong in places where they don’t jsut put the plate out and you can get multiple pieces… some of them serve it to you and you only get 1. Argh!! Hahaha

[Mr.Money]

i'm so glad i don't attend weddings.

[Badhobz]

I mainly hate those dinners cuz I can’t eat seafood.

That’s why I wait all night for #7!

But then it all goes wrong in places where they don’t jsut put the plate out and you can get multiple pieces… some of them serve it to you and you only get 1. Argh!! Hahaha

:rukidding: no seafood!? how do you live brah?!? I'm inclined to decimate all manners of creatures from both land sea and air. if you ever go to Hamburg ask me, i got a lot of GERMAN restaurants that'll sneak in seafood but taste like mash potatoes:smug:
https://i.postimg.cc/NjH14xWr/66c009bb-1a22-4663-bea5-6ab7f150d218.jpg
https://i.postimg.cc/VLTqnhH8/03f67a70-5684-4647-a4df-5a92079af736.jpg

[underscore]

Why would you want seafood to taste like mashed potatoes?

[Badhobz]

ASK ZE GERMANZ!!!!!!!!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labskaus

[Hondaracer]

German food is up there with English food imo lol..

People shit on the Vancouver food scene but Jesus Christ, going from Germany - Ireland - Balkans, no exaggeration a 5 minute walking radius from my house has more variety than all those countries combined

[68style]

Oh it’s not a taste thing for me and seafood it’s a legit allergy haha

[MG1]

I say that to keep friends and family from wAndering why I don't eat seafood. Crustaceans, as far as I'm concerned, are insects of the sea, lol. Arthropods are so creepy. Anyway, when I'm at a chinese banquet, I sit with an empty plate until the beef arrives. Friends and family know I don't eat seafood, so they give me first crack as soon as any beef, chicken, or pork dishes come out. I stay away from anything that smells like....................

Anyway ........... yeah, I'm allergic to seafood.



BTW, does anyone else see the word ass when they see the thread title? $$$ Yes, I need help.

[supafamous]

German food is up there with English food imo lol..

People shit on the Vancouver food scene but Jesus Christ, going from Germany - Ireland - Balkans, no exaggeration a 5 minute walking radius from my house has more variety than all those countries combined

You ever go to the Alpen Club on Victoria/33rd? I loved it there - classic German food. On pork hock night the place was packed with old Chinese people looking for a deal on salty as fuck pork hock. I loved the "Bavarian Meat Loaf" (Leberkasse) and their sausages were delicious.

[Hondaracer]

Have ate there quite a few times and they actually offer much more than in Germany, their quality is also pretty high if not higher than a lot of actual “German” restaurants in Germany imo. They had great Spetzl and stews

Think they are getting redeveloped though for a new tower and being allotted some space in the new build?

[supafamous]

Have ate there quite a few times and they actually offer much more than in Germany, their quality is also pretty high if not higher than a lot of actual “German” restaurants in Germany imo. They had great Spetzl and stews

Think they are getting redeveloped though for a new tower and being allotted some space in the new build?

Yep, closed in July and will re-open in 2025 once the spot is redeveloped. I rather enjoyed the atmosphere there as is but that spot has lots of development potential.

[Great68]

Stinky seafood means poor quality and/or poorly prepared seafood.

I used to hate seafood as a kid, I remember my parents overcooking the shit out of old frozen fish out of the freezer and stinking up the house.

It wasn't until my late 20's when I started actively fishing and preparing it myself that I really started to enjoy it. Fish that's been out of the water less than a few hours (and not overcooked) is freaking amazing, there's no "fishy flavour" or "fishy smell" whatsoever.

From my July fishing trip this year, all the seafood on the plate was not out of the ocean for more than 4 hours (although admittedly my dad overcooked the salmon a bit more than I like it, my job was the prawns):

https://i.imgur.com/TADn8nt.jpg

[mikemhg]

You think a 10 course Chinese banquet meal is trash?

I would argue that a 10 course Chinese banquet is probably one of the best meals you'll ever have. Even if it's from a low tier Chinese restaurant. If it's from a high tier Chinese restaurant then it's GG.

Even if you're not Asian, to say a 10 course banquet meal is trash seems hilarious to me.

I recently went to a 100 days party at a Chinese restaurant, 8ish course meal.

Needless to say, I wasn't a fan. I passed on a ton of dishes :lol

It was funny watching the non-asian guests at the party doing the same -- white dudes pretending to be "full" or "not hungry" :lol

Paid my dues nonetheless though.

[68style]

That's just it... even dukes wedding?? I knew I wasn't going to be able to eat anything, but I wasn't going to tick off the special needs box on his invite and force him to pay to make some other dish for my ass and then have it come out all separate at the table and be a spectacle... been there, done that, no thanks... just quietly dish off my portions to others at the table and drink LOL

[Hondaracer]

I recently went to a 100 days party at a Chinese restaurant, 8ish course meal.

Needless to say, I wasn't a fan. I passed on a ton of dishes :lol

It was funny watching the non-asian guests at the party doing the same -- white dudes pretending to be "full" or "not hungry" :lol

Paid my dues nonetheless though.

A good friend of mines brother recently had a large banquet wedding, white guy marrying an Asian woman. The whole grooms side was basically saying “eat before you come” lol

I’m into anything, I was eating octopus and urchin today, the banquet food just isn’t good. Not to mention the heinous shark fin

[mikemhg]

Man it was awful, I felt like an idiot.

All the asians were munching out, and I'm sitting over here smashing the bottle of Casamigos on the table while looking indignantly at each course of slimy-looking food carted out onto the lazy susan :lol

[Badhobz]

I’m into anything, I was eating octopus and urchin today


:ifyouknow::ifyouknow:

[hud 91gt]

I’ve went to 2-10 course Chinese weddings this year. It’s just really not that good. Lol. Next time I think I will take the advice and eat first haha. I’ll try anything once, now make that twice.

Question though, these Asian weddings are new for me… what’s with the Hennessy? Is that a thing, or just random coincidence bith weddings had cognac at the table? The last wedding I went to had a $350 bottle at each table. Bit over the top.


Made a very quick last minute trip to Greece last week for a wedding (local wedding). It wasn’t fancy at all, buffet style but was the best damn wedding food I’ve ever had. Hahaha. Wine was shit, beer was shit… but that food.

[PeanutButter]

okay... so what i'm gathering is... I'm just an asian guy who's hyping up asian food that he's grown up eating and adores and appreciates. Versus a bunch of guys who don't like said asian food because it doesn't suit their palate.

I'm okay with that.

[radeonboy]

It's okay to not like certain cuisines or dishes since we all have our preferences. But choosing the word 'trash' to describe an entire genre of cuisine feels insensitive and disrespectful IMO, especially to a group where some here enjoy them.

[donk.]

I'm sure whoever said "trash" didn't mean to offend anyone, it's just how the sentence spilled out

I swear people in Vancouver need de-sensitivity training, or need to hang around a bunch of Germans with 0 filter for a week

[Hondaracer]

I’ve went to 2-10 course Chinese weddings this year. It’s just really not that good. Lol. Next time I think I will take the advice and eat first haha. I’ll try anything once, now make that twice.

Question though, these Asian weddings are new for me… what’s with the Hennessy? Is that a thing, or just random coincidence bith weddings had cognac at the table? The last wedding I went to had a $350 bottle at each table. Bit over the top.


Made a very quick last minute trip to Greece last week for a wedding (local wedding). It wasn’t fancy at all, buffet style but was the best damn wedding food I’ve ever had. Hahaha. Wine was shit, beer was shit… but that food.

Much like the banquet the Hennessy is a “saving face” type thing. Most people there aren’t sophisticated enough to appreciate/understand fine wine, but they’ve seen a bottle of Henny before and they know it costs $$$

[bcrdukes]

That's just it... even dukes wedding?? I knew I wasn't going to be able to eat anything, but I wasn't going to tick off the special needs box on his invite and force him to pay to make some other dish for my ass and then have it come out all separate at the table and be a spectacle... been there, done that, no thanks... just quietly dish off my portions to others at the table and drink LOL

I was prepared to order you a burger lol

[supafamous]

I'm sure whoever said "trash" didn't mean to offend anyone, it's just how the sentence spilled out

I think we can all come together and agree that if we're going to use the word "trash" to describe food that we should use it to describe the food at Uncle Willy's.

[Badhobz]

i havent been to uncle willy's in like 20+ years. i gotta go one of these days and relive my childhood.

Last time i went, they still had a smoking section (close to where the desserts are) IN the restaurant.

[68style]

^ I did exactly that, went to relive my youth and then left wondering how I ever made it to this age

[bcrdukes]

I can't help but feel that you guys are looking to host a RS Trash Food Meet @ Uncle Willy's. Hondaracer better show up.

[BIC_BAWS]

Question though, these Asian weddings are new for me… what’s with the Hennessy? Is that a thing, or just random coincidence bith weddings had cognac at the table? The last wedding I went to had a $350 bottle at each table. Bit over the top.

The preferred alcohol for Vietnamese people is Henny LOL. I'm too lazy to quote but I'm also slightly allergic to shellfish (airway gets tense, lose sense of taste, feel sick, etc), but at a banquet or dimsum I'll eat it.

After we finished eating, most of us were pretty drunk by then and so were all the Viet uncles lmao. Sun Sui Wah had a solid dance floor. The DJ that my friends picked was solid as well.

To be fair tho, this is the first wedding (that's not a COVID wedding) I've been to for my own friend group. So I'm probably not as sick of it as you guys.

Also - Din Tai Fung is trash.

[Hondaracer]

I can't help but feel that you guys are looking to host a RS Trash Food Meet @ Uncle Willy's. Hondaracer better show up.

I’m always tempted by the Metrotown location lol..

That’s gotta be the only one left?

[supafamous]

I’m always tempted by the Metrotown location lol..

That’s gotta be the only one left?

Yep, that's the last one.

Did your parents also lie about your age when paying to save a few pennies?

[Hondaracer]

I only have the vaguest memory of one in Guildford… maybe where the oriental buffet was? Or maybe it was accross in the wendys parking lot? That’s the only one I ever went to, MAYBE twice

[Badhobz]

REVSCENE UNCLE WILLY BUFFET MEATTT!!!!!!!

HOLY SHIT, prices have gone up!!!

https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5bad24f8a56827b9bcde7e39/947d3a0d-f322-489a-a949-9762f2ea80e6/PRICE+LIST.jpg?format=750w

[TOS'd]

Damn, its been awhile since the last Uncle Willy's RS meet. How are they even still in business, haha

[hud 91gt]

Victoria meets used to be outside an uncle Willy’s lol. Same in Van?

[RiceIntegraRS]

i went to Uncle Willys a couple months ago just cause it was 15 years since i last went there. Safe to say i wont be going back for atleast another 15 years

[Badhobz]

Fuck… used to try and pretend I’m under 10 to get kids meal. Now I’ll pretend I’m closer to 55 to get the senior discount.