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Originally Posted by underscore
wait so paste your venting in here? or PM it to you?
I've known this girl for a couple months now, she just moved back here and is friends with all my friends, I found out she likes me and I like her so we talked a bit and then ended up making out at the beach late one night, talking the next day we decide neither of us is ready for anything too serious atm so we decide to be "seeing each other." I'm thinking alright perfect, first girl I've had a shot at since my ex, she's gorgeous, lots of fun and really easygoing. Then a couple days later she's like "yeah I'm really not ready for any sort of relationship just yet, I have to sort some stuff out." Ooook sure, I can wait a bit. Then we all get trashed at my friends house, she ends up making out with one of my best friends (as I'm puking, fucking great) and spends the night snuggled with him. They tell me the next day and decide to shrug it off, we're not dating and w/e, we were all drunk. She seems to think I should be madder and when I tell her I'm still ok with waiting til she's more ready for a relationship, she lets me know that she won't want a relationship for a long time and that she isn't fully over her ex. So now I have no goddamn clue what the fuck is going on, I've basically accepted tht I'm never gonna have a relationship with her, which really blows as she's one of the chillest girls I've ever met (and gorgeous too). I just want to know what the hell she actually wants from me right now, just to get pissed at the drunk shenanigans or to be FWB or what? fucking fuck shit fuck women fuck.
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i've used that line before. "i'm not ready- not over the ex"
have you ever heard of the book for women: "he's just not that into you" well, it would seem she's just not that into you.
most likely she just wanted to have a little fun, flirt awhile, and be liked some. you happened to be around. she probably did the same thing to your friend whom she made out with- did the same thing and then used a similar line like "but i don't want a relationship"
i say that if she meets the "right" person she would be over her ex at that moment. unfortunatly that's not you- yet anyways. if she seems upset that you don't care she made out with your friend then that means she's looking for some more attention to flatter herself and then tell you "she's still not ready"
i'll bet the moment you move on show some interest in someone else she will either 1) realize she does like you becasue she's jealous of the new someone or 2) couldn't care less and continue making out with your friends in which case you KNOW it ain't meant to be. either way don't be a "nice guy" about it- show a little attitude... just a little and she might get over herself and realize you're a pretty cool dude.