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Originally Posted by Euro7r

Friend of a friend, met this new guy after breaking up from a relationship.

How did they break up? Was it mutual parting of ways or did one of them want out? Any cause(s) that was shared?

Guy is 40, has medical job but renting. He does everything the ex-bf never did, go out to eat, go out to do things, does all the house work, work less to pretty much pamper her.

What does she do while he's doing basically everything? Does she go to school? Work? Both?

Ex-bf never had time as he was always busting his ass off working to provide financially, and pay for the mortgage of his home.

Is this what primarily led to the breakup? Did she bring this up with him to try and save the relationship?

She is like all over this new guy now, but we want to warn her this guy seems full of shit. If I were a guy trying to provide a better life for you, and your being inconsiderate bitching and not helping, would have dumped her ass too.

She likes to be pampered is the vibe I'm getting. The idea of someone always being at work with no time for anything else has become so common, regardless of industry and is especially prevalent in Vancouver. That 'lifestyle' goes back decades and there's many factors at play.

I think this new guy is full of shit because he was waiting in the sidelines listening to her displeasures of the ex-bf, came in and swooped her up during the vulnerable breakup period.

It happens. I learned that 'grieving' after a failed relationship is pretty healthy and normal. Jumping into a new relationship soon after can be quite detrimental and lead to more problems down the road.

Also he's 40 and still renting, it tells me he has no financial literacy, rather pay rent than use that same money towards getting a place?

None of us should judge anyone's financial literacy unless we know the WHOLE story for context.

I do not know of a single guy that does all the work, and the girl sits and does shit all (she doesn't does shit all). I wouldn't even wanna touch this kinda shit a mile away.

Well you're speaking anecdotally but knowing what men would PAY FOR (nevermind doing for free) just for a woman they like is an embarrassment. We can move forward technologically but backwards socially & psychologically.

She ain't sucking his dick or giving him pussy either because they go to church, so I'm not convinced why a guy would do all this for nothing in return in this day and age. It's like saying I'm going to go work hard everyday for a living, come home to cook, do housework, while you don't need to do a single thing.

What does she do while he's busting his ass rather his nuts on her chin? What do they do together? Have they considered ditching Church for Church's?


Right, this doesn't sound sustainable? It might be great when a new relationship kicks off, give it some time and I feel this will derail fast because the girl doesn't do a single thing. I guess young girls are naive as fuck these days when you throw them a bone here and there - oh yeah she's wayyyyy younger.

TL;DR: She's going to get bored of this guy and move on to someone else. This is her RPG and she'll just level up until some Boss destroys her because she leveled up her charisma while ignoring her defense.

Parts of this story remind me of what I shared about my friend in this same thread. I'm wondering if people nowadays are approaching dating from a completely different angle. I can't imagine reading some 5th grade literature from some IG Doctor / Mother of 7 / SmOOthY QuEEn YAAASSS and treating it as the Gospel according to Moe Szyslak.