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Originally Posted by Euro7r
Also what if you beat the game or gain all these points, do you get a prize? If you do, more than welcome for you to do so. If not, it's really meaningless wasting all this time playing games. I've been there and done that when younger, after you finish the game, you move right on.
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You're saying this because you weren't the one who had his childhood deprived. It's kind of like a rich person telling someone living in poverty that money isn't the most important thing because you are totally speaking from a different perspective. You are not wrong, but you are also not taking things into account from her perspective. IMO, childhood "traumas" are the things that have the strongest and most long lasting impact on a person's life, and tons of people expend a tremendous amount of effort trying to chase down and make up for the deprivations that they lived through during childhood.
Having said that, there is definitely an issue at hand with the responsibility sharing between you and your wife. At a minimum, you feel like she is not taking on her share of responsibilty, and you are not happy about that. So why don't you guys sit down and have an adult discussion about it? Evaluate what sort of reponsibilities each of you is taking on at home, and make sure you give her the opportunity to tell you what she does. There might be things behind the scenes, or stuff you don't notice that she attends to.
At the end of the day, each party has to be fair to the other, and both of you gotta come out of the relationship feeling that your needs have been met. If one of you have a need that has consistently not been met, resentment is gonna grow, and that is not good for the marriage.