[mikemhg]

Euro7r, your story sounds eerily similar to a friend of mine's. He's dating a Korean woman, same scenario, she grew up coddled, never taught to clean up or remedial household tasks.

It's really put a strain on their marriage because she leaves messes everywhere, dishes in the sink, laundry on the floor, meanwhile she works from home, while he's in the office 60+ hours a week at times.

Resentment can be the death of any relationship, whether spouse, or friendships. You let it go on for too long and it can result in a massive problems.

I assume you've talked about it with her, but maybe setup a more formal conversation, attribute the seriousness of the subject to her, and make a plan. As long as the responsibilities are fair and equal between the both of you, I don't see why she'd have problem with that. If she does have a problem, well then the onus is on you in terms of whether or not this is the type of person you can accept as being part of your life in perpetuity.

Good thing you don't have children together, you could imagine that distribution of tasks to only get worse on her part with kids involved.