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Care to share more about what your parents' resistance about the girl is? and how you get negatively affected by it?

From my experience, the (mentally) mature girls are very decisive and pragmatic on relationship matters. When they are into someone, they will give everything they've got to the relationshp. But when they are over it, they are really over it. This is esp true for women over 30 who have had a normal amount of dating experience for the age. They are done and over with all the romantic fantasy BS, so they don't waste time.

FWIW, I disagree with your girl's suggestion that someone in their early 30's is already set in their ways. While that is generally true, there is still a good amount of malleability in our character that would allow us to learn, change and mature. It does get harder to changes our ways as we grow older, but we can certainly come to realizations on our own and change, or we can be affected by (dramatic) external circumstances and learn from it the painful way. Usually, the more painful a relationship ended, the more likely it will change us, even as we get older.

I didn't get married until my mid 30's, and I'd say that every single one of my relationships up until I tied the knot have changed and shaped me in one way or another, generally for the better. Even now, we continue to grow. And in some cases, I'd unfortunately have to say that a small portion in my social circles have been changing in the wrong direction.