Pursue or Not Pursue... that is the question..
 

Alright, long story short. Met this girl initially at work but didn't get a chance to talk to her much. She's kind of cute and I'm interested in her. Saw her at school last semester and was busy throughout. Told her to come out and study and shes like "yeah call me up" and stuff.

I SMS-ed her a couple times and seems like she doesn't reply much. I don't know it's cause whether she doesn't use her phone much or it costs her to SMS and she doesn't like that. Told me to add her on msn and such. Last semester exam time comes around, told her to come and study... she didn't reply but then she MSN-ed me saying she was busy with work or something.

Oh well, right. After exam, gave her a call... turns out she doesn't do much group studying but she tends to study alone. So... told her to chill up at winter break, she's like "yeah call me up" blah blah blah..

Well, i didn't have a ride winter break so i was depending on friends to go out.. so i didn't head out.

Now I can and school started already. I texted her yesterday around 3pm and asked her if she was free this sat.. no reply. Then gave her a call around 9pm, no pickup. She didn't return the call and it's now around noon the next day.

I don't want to act like I'm really desperate but it'd be cool to get to know her more and stuff... and it's hard when she ain't coming out and shit.. wtf?

I see her on msn, should I message her? Should I still give her a call to see if she can come out? Thanks

I think the girl is taken and she's just saying call me as a courtesy and don't want to look mean...I say just look for another target...

Sounds like she's not interested, to be honest

To not persue.

This is her way of saying: I'm not all that into you.

so how do you know when she's not that into you or she's playing hard to get?

If she was into you, she'd at least make SOME effort to come out and see you

You don't. Just straight up ask her out. Do it no more than 3 times. If all 3 times she bails, fuck it.

What do you mean "you don't"?
Still see her online... dont' know whether I should message her. I hardly bump into her at school, so saying it face to face is hardly a chance.

I am more confident in reality for sure though

You would get mixed signals of interest. Sounds like the following was just said by her out of politeness, not out of intent of interest.

Give it up buddy. Its obvious shes not interested. Girls who are interested would msg you back with an excuse at least if they were really busy. They wouldnt just ignore you.

if you only know her through text msgs and msn then you never really had a chance. most girls i know would never give their msn to a guy they like. just cause people dont act the same online as they do in real life AND you never know if a guy is going to a creeper who is always online and is going to have to be blocked anyway.

move on, sounds like a lost cause
but if you really want to pursue it, go thru msn and get to know her more from that

yeah..if she's not messaging you back or answering your calls....i'm gonna say she's not interested. and if she hasn't made the effort to hang out with you since day 1, there's not much of a chance she'll start now.

anyways, i just said fuck it and went ahead and messaged her..

She's FOB not too long ago and this is how the conversation went.

blahbalbhalbha..

I'm like "let's go grab lunch tomorrow"
she's like "sure, can we have lunch sometime when we both at school?"

Owned. wtf? lol. I'm still in awe at the response.

Playing hard to get goes like this: She shows you she likes you, then hides, then she shows up again likes you, then disappears, then shows interest, then not so much, then she likes you again, then she's too busy. This girl never liked you- "that way".

yep, you got no chance, fuck it dude

forget about her, doing anymore to get her attention will make u look desperate

That's Step 1.

Step 2: Surprise Sex!

^Werd. To be honest, I'm not the type of person that gives up. I have to see results before giving up (whether it be success or failure). It seems like she's a hella boring person.. stayed home the winter break, shopped a bit, etc..

Right now, she's just schooling and work... thing I don't get is, I'm a pretty fun guy with a personality and she gives me weird ass fucked up responses. Maybe her English is bad or whatever, but I don't know whether she's not interested because of the the fact that she's older than me or the fact she knew my EX before from work, etc... etc.

Fuck! It aggravates me not knowing the reasons...

whatever dude, if she's hella boring what's the point right, she's just going to bring your mood down as well. Say you got somewhere with this girl, you're likely going to pay for some of her meals, and for what? Someone that is not good having conversations and is not really interested in you?

i'm assuming you have been texting her for quite a while for the past 6 mths.

let it go, girl is not worth your time. you're way better than her. stop SMS after like the 3rd no response. chat thru MSN.

I meant, you never really know if they're disinterested or if they're playing hard to get. Women are fucked up like that. They have men all figured out.

Correction, I haven't. I have texted her what like, 3-4 times total. It's just that I haven't had the time to pursue, and now I do.

I'm letting it go. Thanks for all the advices, has been helpful. I hate MSN and facebook, so I hardly use them. Just use the phone.

Plenty of fishes out in the sea right? =)
Case closed.

If she's FOB....then it is typical that she can just be shy.
Especially if you ask her out 1 on 1....since she doesn't really know you....thing is she would probably feel wierd going out with you when she doesn't feel comfortable speaking english.

You don't have any mutual friends? Try asking her to bring a friend if you wanna go for lunch or something....then get to know her through her friend....=P

i met a girl like that too but i didn't call her or texted her.
but facebook'd instead. she wouldn't respond until i gave her attitude that made her look immature.

it's so disrespectful when someone doesn't respond, text or msn.

a simple "oh, i was busy doing something, sorry" would suffice.
girls like that should learn some manners. but ya, if you generally get a non-response, move on.