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BoneThug 02-02-2009 04:43 PM

dude dont do this. if not for you but for the next guy? its done man. i've been there too. its just done. attempt at putting it in her ass since you no longer have to respect her, and just enjoy the last few times as best you can.

miss_crayon 02-02-2009 05:01 PM

if you guys broke up more than once, then obviously the problems aren't getting any better. don't waste your time on someone who causes you so much grief. yeah a relationship does have it's ups and downs but if it's to the point where you're down to the last straw..then yeah. just end it.

Grandmaster TSE 02-02-2009 05:17 PM

sounds like you're a sucker for punishment

fuhkyu 02-02-2009 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Grandmaster TSE (Post 6259680)
sounds like you're a sucker for punishment

pain is pleasure

muteki 02-02-2009 06:51 PM

Why bother asking for advice if you're not going to listen.
Everyone here pretty much agrees that you should just end it.
Is your GF even willing to give it a hot to work things out?
It doesn't sounds like she is, so why waste your energy and effort on her if it's unlikely it'll make a difference.
You're becoming too convenient for her, she'll come to you if she needs to, but otherwise she pushes you away when she doesn't need you.

abby992 02-02-2009 10:30 PM

She is willing to work things out thought, that's why I gave her another chance. We still love each other so something is still there. It's like a spark dieing. We just have to get it back sorta thing.

BoneThug 02-02-2009 10:59 PM

age

lonelydriver 02-02-2009 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by SimplyComplex (Post 6259766)
Why bother asking for advice if you're not going to listen.

Some people are just like that. He just need our support and eventually, he will listen..

And yeah, dump her ass. She won't appreciate you if you keep crawling back to her.

unidentified 02-02-2009 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by abby992 (Post 6259590)
I also said I'm only going to give it one more go and if we (she in particular) get into another big argument then I know we just weren't meant for each other. It sucks but that's life... Thanks for all responses, they helped me in my decision.

Oyyy...son...if I had a nickel for all the times I've said in the past "I'm only going to give it one more go." Not to be a pessimist but it'll probably be better for a couple of weeks and then you'll be back in the same place. I can't tell you how many friends I've seen in on-off relationships that went on for years, only to realize that they should have just had a clean break ages ago. I foresee you as one of those people who just keeps going back thinking things will be different until finally she breaks things off for good.

Grandmaster TSE 02-02-2009 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by abby992 (Post 6260312)
She is willing to work things out thought, that's why I gave her another chance. We still love each other so something is still there. It's like a spark dieing. We just have to get it back sorta thing.

easier said than done
willing to work things out does not mean it will work out
seems like you're putting 110% in while shes not giving anything into this relationship
move on, don't put yourself into a situation like that
if it was to be worked out, it would have been worked out already, not by the 3rd or 4th time

Noir 02-03-2009 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by abby992 (Post 6260312)
She is willing to work things out thought, that's why I gave her another chance. We still love each other so something is still there. It's like a spark dieing. We just have to get it back sorta thing.

Dude, yes you can look at it that way, but take it from a girls perspective, heres reality from SimplyComplex:

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Originally Posted by SimplyComplex (Post 6259766)
You're becoming too convenient for her, she'll come to you if she needs to, but otherwise she pushes you away when she doesn't need you.

Shes taking you for granted because she knows she can. Youre only still in the picture because no guy has firmly taken your place yet but dont be fooled that the option is not there for her if it arises.

Despite how much she may deny it, I can almost guarantee you the latter is true.

yuusha 02-03-2009 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by abby992 (Post 6260312)
She is willing to work things out thought, that's why I gave her another chance. We still love each other so something is still there. It's like a spark dieing. We just have to get it back sorta thing.

That is bullshit.

She's clearly NOT willing to work things out because if she was, she'd have done so LONG ago. It wouldn't get to this point if she was willing to sacrifice and make compromises.

I told you a while ago about pride and sacrifice. You're sacrificing too much of your pride for her, and she's not reciprocating at all!

6793026 02-03-2009 12:13 PM

-u're too much into her
-she knows you're going to go back, she's not cheerishing you
- tell her who's boss and just dump her and never ever let her contact you again out of a sudden. that willl teach her something. No joke
-you're the first, she's the first. learn to SCHOOL her and dont' let her walk all over you

BoneThug 02-03-2009 12:44 PM

honestly, i hate comparing 2 relationships since they are all different, but they all have components that are the same. i find its better to break up when you feel even slightly that its not working. both of you still respect each other after, and more probably then not, can or will get back together. if you drag it out like this, then it has no chance. smother the spark when it gets weak. start a new one.


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