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Old 02-22-2009, 03:37 PM   #1
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What now?

should be in a relationship for 2 years today...but, i don't know what just happened cause everything was good, she decided "she doesn't feel the same way anymore", so I'm sure we're done now.

I'm pretty bummed by it. Totally affected, and I know I shouldn't. What sucks about it is that her bday party is coming up and Im thinking of not going. But obviously, I dont wanna be a jerk about it.

Any pointers boys and girls.

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Old 02-22-2009, 03:59 PM   #2
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If you guys are through I wouldn't show up at her bday. It's not about being a jerk, its about common sense.
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Old 02-22-2009, 04:01 PM   #3
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call your buddies and do something fun to take your mind off this chick. go strip club, club or bar and let loose. if you dwell on this it's gonna slowly make you more and more emotional. go smoke some dank and geek the fuck out. There's plenty of chicks like billions of them.
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Old 02-22-2009, 04:01 PM   #4
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my advice: don't go to her party. you have every right of not wanting to go--she just broke your heart! you will not come off as a jerk if you decline politely, she can't expect you to be all "yeah, lets be friends now" after only a couple of days.

give yourself time to heal. and cutting ties with her right now is the best solution.
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Old 02-22-2009, 04:07 PM   #5
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Thanks all. I really don't want to go, it's gonna be very difficult. What a waste of time and money, cause I was actually in it for the long run. I'm sure there's plenty of "replacements" but I guess it's tough to think about replacements these days.

Update: Just called her and told her I'm not going.
She's like "Fine whatever"

Now I feel bad, but I guess I should start thinking about me these days.

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Old 02-22-2009, 04:24 PM   #6
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don't feel bad. she didn't even try to convince you to come, but instead gave you a pretty rude response.

just do your own thing from now on. spend time with your friends! find new hobbies. focus on whatever it is you like doing!
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Thanks all. I really don't want to go, it's gonna be very difficult. What a waste of time and money, cause I was actually in it for the long run. I'm sure there's plenty of "replacements" but I guess it's tough to think about replacements these days.

Update: Just called her and told her I'm not going.
She's like "Fine whatever"

Now I feel bad, but I guess I should start thinking about me these days.
seems like shes already moved on, brah. doesnt surprise me cuz she mustve felt this way for a while before telling you.

look out for yourself man.
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Old 02-22-2009, 04:38 PM   #8
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yeah most likely. tough to accept but im gonna have to live with it. yeah i think it was a pretty rude response too, i thought maybe she'd say something like, oh can you come please?

oh well, just gotta change my perception. thanks guys, believe it or not you're helping.
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yeah most likely. tough to accept but im gonna have to live with it. yeah i think it was a pretty rude response too, i thought maybe she'd say something like, oh can you come please?

oh well, just gotta change my perception. thanks guys, believe it or not you're helping.
Take some time and assess everything, maybe it's for the best that you two are now separated. It's gonna be tough for a while but you'll pull through, hang out with some friends, find something to keep you occupied.
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yeah im pretty sure everything will be fine. I just need to read/hear it a million times. hahaha. thanks!
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Time to hit the gym, my friend.
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Old 02-22-2009, 05:54 PM   #12
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^ This. Get healthy, take your mind off of her and meet some chicks possibly.
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Old 02-22-2009, 05:58 PM   #13
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You will get over it, give it a couple of weeks maybe a month or two and you will feel a lot better. Don't think about relationships but try to have fun with your friends.
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seems like shes already moved on, brah. doesnt surprise me cuz she mustve felt this way for a while before telling you.
+1.

What a fucked up situation. She's doing this because she can get away with it. She knows you need her more than she needs you. See how fast her attitude changes when the situation is switched.

Right now, as it sits, if you were to find another girl. She'd be livid, pissed, and will accuse you cheating. Yet if she were to find another guy first, trust me, she'd entertain her new options.

Right now, she's only looking out for herself. Your play: Do what's right for you. Only look out for you because no one else will.
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don't feel bad. she didn't even try to convince you to come, but instead gave you a pretty rude response.

just do your own thing from now on. spend time with your friends! find new hobbies. focus on whatever it is you like doing!
you can focus on whatever you like ..
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Old 02-22-2009, 08:55 PM   #16
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WOW im pretty impressed with this community. I didn't think I was going to get that many responses.

Thanks a lot, this is great, believe it or not all of this is making me regain my confidence on myself. You guys are awesome.

Thanks for all the advice and words of wisdom. I'm actually glad I posted my issue on this lol.

Yeah for sure, time to hit the gym hard. I haven't eaten all day so thats a start hahaha. Yeah right now I'm not really looking into finding someone else, I just wanna staty busy and forget her completely. She messaged me on msn just now as I am typing this. "You really don't want to come to my birthday" I haven't responded, not thinking of responding too.
Thanks guys and girls.
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WOW im pretty impressed with this community. I didn't think I was going to get that many responses.

Thanks a lot, this is great, believe it or not all of this is making me regain my confidence on myself. You guys are awesome.

Thanks for all the advice and words of wisdom. I'm actually glad I posted my issue on this lol.

Yeah for sure, time to hit the gym hard. I haven't eaten all day so thats a start hahaha. Yeah right now I'm not really looking into finding someone else, I just wanna staty busy and forget her completely. She messaged me on msn just now as I am typing this. "You really don't want to come to my birthday" I haven't responded, not thinking of responding too.
Thanks guys and girls.
IMO its better if you don't respond, just ignore her and everything to do with her. It'll help you keep your mind off of her and you'll feel better. Definitely eat bro doesn't have to be a big meal but keep eating throughout the day.

Hit the gym up hard, remember just because she doesn't want you now doesn't mean that every girl out there doesn't want you. Show her what she's losing out on
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yeah man, when I got dumped, I hit the gym, started yoga, took salsa dancing classes. Better yourself, and you'll always come out on top. There will be times when your confidence will fade and you want her back, but it's just a test of your mental strength, hang on and fight it. Talk with your friends, vent your frustrations, and you'll be alright.
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hahaha nice...thanks dude.
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l say phone her back and say you want to come to the party....at the party..make sure your with your guy friends...and try to hook up with some of her friends!!

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Old 02-22-2009, 09:37 PM   #21
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hey dude just wanted to give u support too man
i know these things u cant control but its great time to better yourself.
keep busy.
go out and meet other girls even just for fun. it'll take time to heal but if u go out and meet other girls.. u'll get over her.

for now like i said keep busy.... just do what u got to do

go out and have fun. keep improving.
a girl should be part of your life and not your whole life.

(and listen to heartless by kanye west LOL..
"you wait a couple months then you gon' see..you'll never find nobody better than me)
good lyrics haha!!

good luck dude
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dont listen to heartless. listen to kim. its okay to be angry. hate her till you think she is less then dirt. then be friends with her.
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^^ why not heartless

and whats kim? haha
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It's ok to get out of the baseball game, and go back to handball.

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hahaha...heartless nice.
thanks guys, its funny y'all dont know me, but y'all are there to support.
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