I'm completley hijacking this thread but it's funny although he doesn't look exactly like him there are some similarities. :) I don't have a picture but before he trimmed it he was rocking the same moustache in the early 90's.

http://i50.photobucket.com/albums/f3...sione/haha.jpg

Yeah, my gf makes sure I am not "dai lam yun".. she says that girls fear that in guys especially after they get married.

you have to talk to both your dad and brother. they have to learn to compromise it themselves. nobody can really help unless they realize it and most of the time, they won't. i don't know.. i never had to deal with these sort of issues because even though my dad doesn't actually apologize, he has his own way of apologizing. such as talking first or pretending nothing happened. even so, my family could never stay mad at each other for a long period of time, no matter what happens

To me it sounds like your dad is just expecting a little more respect from your brother towards him and your mother. Damn straight, if he doesn't want to respect them at his age he should go it alone. If he can't support himself now he better learn quick.
As much as I do believe people should still try to talk things out, there is eventually time for action. apparently the other warnings weren't heeded.

ur brother is 19
serioulsy, let him grow up a little.
let him live off his friends for a month and then invite him back (key word is to invite him)
props for you to get your dad and mom into the same table.
your dad will NEVER EVER be able to apologize, youneed to work from another angle to make him feel right.

What I did way back when I have a huge misunderstanding with my dad......I wrote him an email.

As much he wants to disagree or denies everything the rest of the family say......you should all get together and just write him an email/letter/something on paper. That way, at least the rest of the family have their thoughts out in the open. If it's on paper, at least he has to read through it and process it withough the argument/yelling/etc.

Don't be rude to him, just try to make him understand that the family is under a lot of stress and no body is going against him. You all just want to help and make it all better right? Give him a nice ladder to walk down the stage.

Trust me....alot of time stubbon people just doesn't want to back-down when then are in a middle of a heated conversation. Don't go head to head with them because their ego will just fight fight fight until the end...even though deep inside they know they are wrong. Just write him the letter....and let him take his time to digest it.