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Why more daters don't want to mix races

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A recent study on racial preferences of online daters provides some interesting findings. Based on profile-searching criteria set by singles using Yahoo! Personals, the UCI case study reveals that gender plays an important role in interracial preferences:

Asian American men are the least preferred mate for Caucasian women, and African American women bear the brunt of discrimination from Caucasian men. UCI researchers say that "the stereotypical images of masculinity and femininity shape dating choices" and are a contributing factor.

The cross-cultural revolution is not going to be launched on the Internet dating scene, where people often follow racial stereotypes when looking for love, the researchers said.

In spite of these findings, there's always an exception to the norm, and I should know as an ABC (American-Born Chinese) who met and married another type of ABC (American Brazilian Caucasian -- yes, I just made that up).

Like any couple we've had our ups and downs, but we've somehow managed to bond well for almost a decade.
For those of you involved with a date -- or mate -- of a different race, check out these obstacles of interracial dating and ways to overcome them.

Dating Obstacle #1. The Traditionalists

I've encountered several people who possess strong opinions about interracial dating: A South African told me that people should date within their own race; my Korean American friend found it inconceivable to betroth a white woman; some Asian guys I've met told me they loathe competing with white guys to woo Asian bachelorettes.

Yes, the resistance against interracial dating persists, even in the diverse San Francisco Bay Area where I live. You should consider that citizens in most U.S. states were legally banned from marrying outside of their race until 1967

http://a323.yahoofs.com/ymg/datingad...sUhVBDeqE8T58e

How do you cope?

Surround yourself with pals who tolerate diversity. As individuals, we have an innate desire to be understood; and as an interracial couple, the desire remains the same. You must learn to accept adversity and not let it influence your individual judgment. The acceptance you receive from a circle of friends strips away your sensitivity to snide comments that oppose your open dating preferences.

Dating Obstacle #2.

The Stereotypes From Mass Media

Can you blame the TV producers and advertisers for playing it safe by catering to the majority? After all, they measure what appeals to a mass audience and go with what we're familiar with. It's no mystery that stereotyping the population is much easier than representing eclectic subgroups within our population. As an expected result of this, the general public absorbs oversimplified images of various ethnic groups -- and how they pair up -- in every media imaginable.

How do you cope?

Recognizing the biased reality of the media business in itself resolves much of the adverse impact of broadcasted stereotypes. Avoid "keeping up with the Joneses" and don't think you have to date like all the idealized couples the generic media fodder has fed you. Boil your beliefs down to what really matters to you, and you'll become stereotype-resistant.

Dating Obstacle #3.

The Offensive Family Member

It happens: You'll attend a family gathering where your estranged uncle shows that he may not be as culturally enlightened as the rest of your family. The off-color jokes spew out of his mouth. He snickers. You're in shock. Your significant other is in shock. The tension builds while you attempt to cool the blood that boils within you.

How do you cope?

Realize that there may always be a family member, or friend, who has trouble thinking before uttering insensitive opinions or bluntly racist remarks. Prepare for these confrontations. Let that person know if you think his/her comments are offensive, and choose honest yet eloquent ways to respond. Practice what you'll say and when you'll say it -- so when the situation happens, you won't let your emotions get the best of you. If this person is worth dealing with, he/she will respect your straightforwardness.

Silence will only prolong the issue. Share your thoughts to show that you care about how you interact with everyone, and vice versa. This is not the time to be shy. Demand respect. You deserve it.

Dating Obstacle #4.

The Gazers

I know. It gets old. Not everybody is used to seeing an interracial couple. People will stare at you. They may even display a frown or a furrowed brow.

How do you cope?

Ignore the natural response of attempting to read their minds. Who knows what they're thinking when they stare: Maybe they admire you two as a couple, or they like your threads, or they just haven't seen your "kind" before, or they're waiting for you two to show some affection so they can label you as a couple rather than friends. It's pointless to keep wondering.
Instead, imagine you're a celebrity. In fact, you are. You might well be the spectacle of the day for them. Thrive and celebrate your uniqueness. These public encounters add flavor to the otherwise bland experiences of their lives. You're simply desensitizing them to the notion of colorblind dating. Sooner or later, they won't look twice ... because they've seen it before.

http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/si...N0b3IEenoDYWJj

Many half-breed chicks are hot. Interracial relations ftw.

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agreed! half-breed chicks are the best!

lol i have other wives...
not necessarily of other cultures/races though

i'd think more asian women would go for white guys

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Originally Posted by liu13 (Post 6453451)

i'd think more asian women would go for white guys

i've never had more attention from asian gals :)

black husband azn wife sounds so odd... kinda like double clutching into 1st

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Originally Posted by Nodnarb (Post 6453223)

Many half-breed chicks are hot. Interracial relations ftw.

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Originally Posted by orange7 (Post 6453249)

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agreed! half-breed chicks are the best!

When people say half-breed being hot, it's almost a given you guys are talking about white/asian. (not black/asian, white/brown, etc) And I bet you the father's white.

cassie is hot and shes blasian, there are quite a few other half asian girls and even guys who are good looking, that tyson beckford guy too

Asian/White mix are either really hot, or really ugly. There is no in-between.

lol.. so we will take the realli hot xD

funny that me and my friends were having this discussion last night, I never really put any in-depth thought into it, but in terms of marriage i always thought i could marry a nice asian chick

but then when the thought of having kids came about.. i really couldnt see myself having a kid with another race other than white.. i guess i just cant see my last name associated with anything but white lol

Russell Peters: "The whole world's mixing. Eventually we're all going to become some sort of hybrid mix of Chinese & Indian."

We're all going to beige

i think any mix of white or filipino together makes a hot chick like misa campo for example haha

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Originally Posted by JSALES (Post 6454204)

i think any mix of white or filipino together makes a hot chick like misa campo for example haha

Nah, i know alot of halfers. There is a majority of ugly ones compared to the hot ones. Although i do know one hot one, all i can say is shes BEAUTIFUL.

dont genes become weaker when you mix races and produce a kid?

The opposite actually. You're introducing more genetic diversity to the gene pool.

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Genetic diversity plays a very important role in survival and adaptability of a species because when a species’s environment changes, slight gene variations are necessary for it to adapt and survive. A species that has a large degree of genetic diversity among its population will have more variations from which to choose the most fit alleles. Species that have very little genetic variation are at a great risk. With very little gene variation within the species, healthy reproduction becomes increasingly difficult, and offspring often deal with similar problems to those of inbreeding.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_diversity

The best mix is French+Filipino+Japanese meaning one of the parents is also a half-breed since that is what made Misa Campo and Leah Dizon. :jerkit:

as an asian person, I honestly am not attracted to any other race besides asian *shrug*

Its unfortunate the article missed 2 things:

Familiarity: People tend to like people who are similar to them. This is why you see couples that have similar height, weight, hair colour, eye colour, ... I've read articles that people tend to date others with the same eye colour... weird eh?

Religion: My best friends are Hindu and Sikh, it would be very difficult to marry outside their race since a lot of their family life is centred around their religion. Their partner would have to convert.

i'm asian and i prefer asian and white girls 50/50. just not those honger looking asian girls and i love the body of a hot white chick that an asian can never really get

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Originally Posted by Mrtemp (Post 6454349)

The opposite actually. You're introducing more genetic diversity to the gene pool.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_diversity

Did you really just cite wikipedia?

I don't think race mixing helps, actually. Why mess with thousands and thousands of years of evolution of your race?

I could never have kids with anyone but a white girl, and I would prefer a lean, intelligent woman with a good moral compass. :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Jason00S2000 (Post 6454601)

Did you really just cite wikipedia?

Better than citing yahoo dating personals.