put it in her butt

Honestly, don't ever visit her. She does not deserve to have to deal with your mood swings and attitude issues. When you are a man and can take responsibility for the actions you do then maybe send her a text to say you hope she is doing well. Only do this if you mean it though. Please for her sake stay the hell away from her. She will have others who care to lean on for support. You are her toxin. Now that you are gone she can heal.

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I undersatnd how pissed off you are. I would not blame her for this. I would NOT be her bf anymore though. I would tell her and the family (if you ahve the guts) and say, as much as it was your fault in crashing the car, you are truly sorry. It was your fault but I can no longer be your bf and that's not because of this car accident. I will still be your friend, but i can no longer be your bf due (blah blah blah).

this is the only way out and not have to deal with the "break up" again next time.

get yer shit together, and resolve this issue.

Let us know how it goes.

Don't see her now, 'cuz she's now dealing with an injury ON TOP of a breakup AND death.

just text her to see how she's doing.

In the mean time, you should really pull yourself together. And next time, be careful of how you say things. You're lucky I'm nicer than Ulic.

He'd rip your balls off.

you should understand that under all circumstances you should drive conciously... if you're fatigue, upset or distracted you can always pull over... on any road and highway...

rule of thumb, talk things over before driving, either this means a complete breakup, she finish crying or work things out...

you don't have responsibility to take care of her, see her or comfort her but you have responsibility as a driver to drive safe

and even if you don't want to get back with her what so ever, you must be damn cold hearted to not visit and ensure the healthiness of a friend or ex-friend

Werd. At law, the OP is completely at fault for the accident, but let's not be too quick to absolve the exgf of all guilt just because either she's a girl, or that she's a passenger.

Even passengers have a responsibility not to distract, nor interfere or inhibit a driver's ability to drive.

Personally I would've rather play the douchebag card and yell at her to either "shut the fuck up" or "get out" or maybe smack some sense into her a bit, rather get in an accident or drive in anger. Show her that she can't force you into her will by crying you into submission.

i really wonder how loud and annoying her crying was, i imagined sniveling at most

Indeed- to be honest, I don't see how crying could really have led to an accident. You see parents drive with 3 crying kids in the car. If anything kids would be noisier.

Who knows, OP might just be trying to absolve himself of all responsibility by blaming the girl. You know how when shit happens to you, you automatically come up with 10,000 reasons why it's not your fault.

If this is for real, not only is the OP heartless, he's dumb as fuck for not visiting the girl even if he doesn't want to.

You should visit her and apologise to her parents. Own up to being a dick ( but you have to act really convincingly so they believe you). Tell them, you were foolish for even comparing a car to your GF and promise to be by her side. The hard part will be visiting your GF, finding parking at the hospital, paying their attrocious parking rates but your hard work will pay off...

If all goes well, go ahead and guilt trip your GF once she is healthy. Something to the extent of, " I was distressed to see you in tears.." Shouldn't be hard as she will most likely want to help you ( its only you that seems like a jackass).

There you have it, A win win situation!

** I JUST discovered how great this sub-forum was! **

Now this is a point, I CAN agree with. lol!

Be a man and be responsible.

Seems fake.

I don't think anyone is really absolving the ex gf because she's a girl or a passenger. The ex gf crying causing him to get into an accident is a pretty flimsy excuse. Unless she was hitting him or crying louder then 2 or 3 kids, her crying really shouldn't have any effect on his driving. I'm sure everyone's gotten pissed off while on the road and been able to keep focused on where they're going. It just sounds like he got too emotion on the road and getting him off the road sounds like a good thing.

quoted for the truth.

You're a sorry excuse for a human being. Look up the term empathy, you moron. I spare more empathy to a complete stranger than you do to your ex-gf.

First of all, how does at 10 year old get their license? I thought you had to be at least 16 to get an L.
Secondly, you're complaining because she "Her best friend passed away last month and since then she's been acting all crazy and emotional. But cmon it's been a whole freaking month now and she's still going crazy.."
This statement pretty much sums up the fact that you're a big idiot, and all the other points in your story are moot.

I truly hope I just got trolled.

Maybe so. But I've had a girl who tried to guilt me back into a relationship with tantrums, excessive crying, guilt trips, and social suffocation.

It's not completely out of the realm of impossibility. There's some nuts out there, and I can't help to think that there must be something about this girl that has pushed this guy to absolute hate and despise this woman.

on this i have to agree... passengers, even kids should be respectful of the driver's mental and physical space so

+1

x2 sorry people its the truth

no need to do anything .. she deserves someone better

I hate statements like this.

Yes the OP has his errors, but what's with the "automatic" assumption that the female has none? That she is deserving of more? That she was not an equal contributor to the predicament they both find themselves in, relationship-wise or accident-wise?

Be honest, is it because she's a "girl" that people are quick to dismiss her as the victim instead of an equal participant?

They both have their errors IMO.

^ i made my statement based solely on the fact that he decided to ignore her calls and showed no sympathy of her being sent to hospital.

who deserves to be with someone has no compassion?

i, on the other hand, dun see the "error", they both made their choices and faced their consequences ...

Ever dated someone that completely nuts? Or ever seen a woman driving their male counterparts that fuckin' nuts, almost insane?

It's not a rarity you know.

(Just an example, though of a different kind)
Let's see, wasn't there some guy here on RS who said an exgf took $30,000 from him?