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07-07-2009, 11:11 PM
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#26 | | Unofficial Tin Foil Hat Specialist.
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Just leave her and go find someone else better. Stop talking to her frequently. Sometimes doing so will make her run to you. Just maybe. 
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07-07-2009, 11:18 PM
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#27 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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Originally Posted by TG  So to make this short, this girl is wonderful and for awhile now I've liked her on and off but didn't have the courage to let her know. | It all started here, you lacked confidence. You shouldn't fear her or anyone in this world, except Fedor.
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07-07-2009, 11:54 PM
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#28 | | Need my Daily Fix of RS
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^ i loled at the fedor part.
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07-08-2009, 07:21 AM
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#29 | | Willing to sell a family member for a few minutes on RS
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its true, girls love assholes
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07-08-2009, 08:46 AM
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#30 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by hotjoint its true, girls love assholes |  A few girls licked mine while going to town down there.  | |
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07-08-2009, 09:53 AM
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#31 | | Everyone wants a piece of R S...
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Originally Posted by hotjoint its true, girls love assholes | Yeah, insecure ones.
I would think that chicks would appreciate a guy that puts his life first instead of having the pussy on the pedestal.
lol @ noir...werd up.
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07-08-2009, 10:05 AM
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#32 | | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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Originally Posted by vo_hantu Yeah, insecure ones.
I would think that chicks would appreciate a guy that puts his life first instead of having the pussy on the pedestal.
lol @ noir...werd up. | worrd up
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07-08-2009, 10:08 AM
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#33 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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Either give up or win the lottery.
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07-08-2009, 10:54 AM
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#34 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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why would you tell her how you feel? girls don't need you to tell them shit, asking them out somewhere or giving them attention is already enough signs of interest
you've got AFC written all over you
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07-08-2009, 11:34 AM
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#35 | | Banned By Establishment
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i did the same to a friend last night who has been calling me out alot and who has a BF. except i told her i don't make friends with girls and that we can't hang out as friends.
By telling her it makes me feel better, and sets my boundaries and doesn't drag something fatal. I think I did the right thing. I wasn't expecting the "oh i feel the same response" but it was for my own benefit, since i get hit on alot and have no trouble picking up girls.
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07-08-2009, 01:42 PM
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#36 | | Banned (BBM)
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keep her around but be an asshole at the same time
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07-08-2009, 11:33 PM
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#37 | | I STILL don't get it
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if you keep trying to pursue her, she'll only find you annoying
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07-09-2009, 12:44 AM
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Don't pursue her.
Should she become interested in you and you realize you don't really like her (since you are liking her on and off) you'll feel like you wasted time trying to win her over. This will result in you saying "god fucking damn it" to yourself.
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07-09-2009, 01:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Noir A few girls licked mine while going to town down there. | How do you shave your ass hair cause it's difficult...
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07-09-2009, 07:44 AM
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#40 | | Willing to sell a family member for a few minutes on RS
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07-09-2009, 08:35 AM
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#41 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by skyxx How do you shave your ass hair cause it's difficult... | I don't. If you're jungle's still thick that low, just grab a safety goggle, some gloves, a weedwhacker and a really really really good friend.
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07-09-2009, 10:59 AM
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wow keep on topic and the ass shaving to pm please
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07-14-2009, 12:53 AM
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#43 | | I am Hook'd on RS
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Hey TG, I know it's hard to hear this but yeah dude at this POINT in time she's not interested HOWEVER nothing's for sure. So if you do like her and u think she's worth the investment then u can do 1 of 2 things. you can either
1. stay by her side and support her (her friend zone). I don't encourage that because girls are just like us they don't all of a sudden realize how good u are and all of a sudden be attractive to you so staying by her side will do nothing. you can do that OR
2. leave for a while and keep in touch with her but don't go hang with her (i know it sucks and it's hard). At the same time find ways to improve urself dramatically, money, looks, clothes (material stuff first then to the personal stuff). Afterwards when you feel confident and i assume a long time has past (she'll prolly urge you to go hang out cause it's been a while) THEN YOU GO BACK AND AFTER SHE SEES THE NEW YOU, SOMETHING MIGHT CLICK IN HER SYSTEM. It's win/win because at the same time while you're on leave you can still move on if there is a need. I think this is the one and only method that if your labeled as a "friend" first and going from friend to the next level you will have to do this... (unless you save her from gettting hit by a car... and all of a sudden she falls for you for no apprant rason). Also simplycomplex's advice is good too, her methods's fast and clean.
I'm actually in the same situation as you dude.... and you can ask simplycomplex... so hopfully you have a better outcome than i do gl.
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07-14-2009, 01:01 AM
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#44 | | I am Hook'd on RS
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Originally Posted by 6chr0nic4 why would you tell her how you feel? girls don't need you to tell them shit, asking them out somewhere or giving them attention is already enough signs of interest
you've got AFC written all over you | obviously 604chronic has read "the game" by neil strauss (good book btw  )... but he's not looking to pick up chicks at a bar/start a convo with a random chick. He's trying to go for his friend so some degrees of truths and feelings need to be used (just a little bit... but not everything cause... that's going to cause alarms in her head to go off). So next time don't let them know how u feel... until she has shown you enough enough IOIs  | |
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07-14-2009, 07:19 AM
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#45 | | Need to Seek Professional Help
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Originally Posted by faithful101 Hey TG, I know it's hard to hear this but yeah dude at this POINT in time she's not interested HOWEVER nothing's for sure. So if you do like her and u think she's worth the investment then u can do 1 of 2 things. you can either
1. stay by her side and support her (her friend zone). I don't encourage that because girls are just like us they don't all of a sudden realize how good u are and all of a sudden be attractive to you so staying by her side will do nothing. you can do that OR
2. leave for a while and keep in touch with her but don't go hang with her (i know it sucks and it's hard). At the same time find ways to improve urself dramatically, money, looks, clothes (material stuff first then to the personal stuff). Afterwards when you feel confident and i assume a long time has past (she'll prolly urge you to go hang out cause it's been a while) THEN YOU GO BACK AND AFTER SHE SEES THE NEW YOU, SOMETHING MIGHT CLICK IN HER SYSTEM. It's win/win because at the same time while you're on leave you can still move on if there is a need. I think this is the one and only method that if your labeled as a "friend" first and going from friend to the next level you will have to do this... (unless you save her from gettting hit by a car... and all of a sudden she falls for you for no apprant rason). Also simplycomplex's advice is good too, her methods's fast and clean.
I'm actually in the same situation as you dude.... and you can ask simplycomplex... so hopfully you have a better outcome than i do gl. | ^ and now tells us where that got you. hahah
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07-14-2009, 03:33 PM
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#46 | | I am Hook'd on RS
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If you wanna know i can pm you what happened . I've made some bad mistakes in the beginning but right now I think it's gotten better. Tell us about your relationships ecchi :P. Has there been bbbad times where you have to msg me at all :P?
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07-14-2009, 04:51 PM
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#47 | | 無敵
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Keep on topic kids, leave the personal stuff to PMs.
OP hasn't gotten back to us anyways. =3
I presume this thread is dead.
But yeah.
There's no point in being persistent in pursuing a single girl that's not interested in you as you'll probably miss the chance of other great things that could've happened but you were too focused on one thing to see.
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07-17-2009, 03:09 AM
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#48 | | Even when im right, revscene.net is still right!
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I haven't been replying because I'm away on vacation for a month. However, I did not read this thread before typing an email to her. What I basically wrote was that I was still into her and that we can continue being friends, but at the same time allow me to continue liking her. I thought by doing this, I would be following 'faithful's' post by being her support and maybe she'll eventually realize something. I'm pretty perceptive so I know when it gets to the point of annoyance. I won't be asking her out every day/every week so I won't have to worry about my persistence becoming annoying.
After being away for nearly less than 2 weeks, I'm starting to see things through and to accept the worst case scenario. What really pushed me into telling her my thoughts was the fact that I was going away on vacation for a month. I felt my chances were good and I decided to tell her the day before my trip. I figured that I would be in a win/win situation where if I got put down, I'd get better by enjoying my vacation. If she felt the same, then I can also enjoy my vacation.
There have been many great replies and it seems clear that everyone agrees that I should give up. The only reason that's stopping me from doing so is that I want to move on knowing that I tried my best. If I get the same response after putting more effort in, then I would feel content and move on. So if we're talking about 'wasting time', I feel that it really isn't wasted at all. I have limited internet access so I don't know when my next reply is but thanks for all the advice. Keep them coming.
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07-17-2009, 05:34 AM
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If the girl is interested in you in the first place, it would be a mutual thing and you wouldn't need to "try your best." Again, you started out wrong and I can already see that you are the friendly-type of person.
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07-18-2009, 08:22 AM
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#50 | | I am Hook'd on RS
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Originally Posted by TG I haven't been replying because I'm away on vacation for a month. However, I did not read this thread before typing an email to her. What I basically wrote was that I was still into her and that we can continue being friends, but at the same time allow me to continue liking her. I thought by doing this, I would be following 'faithful's' post by being her support and maybe she'll eventually realize something. I'm pretty perceptive so I know when it gets to the point of annoyance. I won't be asking her out every day/every week so I won't have to worry about my persistence becoming annoying.
After being away for nearly less than 2 weeks, I'm starting to see things through and to accept the worst case scenario. What really pushed me into telling her my thoughts was the fact that I was going away on vacation for a month. I felt my chances were good and I decided to tell her the day before my trip. I figured that I would be in a win/win situation where if I got put down, I'd get better by enjoying my vacation. If she felt the same, then I can also enjoy my vacation.
There have been many great replies and it seems clear that everyone agrees that I should give up. The only reason that's stopping me from doing so is that I want to move on knowing that I tried my best. If I get the same response after putting more effort in, then I would feel content and move on. So if we're talking about 'wasting time', I feel that it really isn't wasted at all. I have limited internet access so I don't know when my next reply is but thanks for all the advice. Keep them coming. | I totally understand how you feel dude and of course everyone wants to tell the one they like how much they mean to them but at the end of the day.... if she likes you back then ur the most romantic guy for doing so and if she doesn't..... then your just doing too much haha... love's like that ... lots of efforts can give no results.
Also, everyone tells you to move on because it's easier to do so... it's always easier to give up and move on but that doesn't mean you necessarily have to. you have to use ur judgements accordingly so if you do keep going for her then something's gotta change TG . Hope it helps. Also, is the girl currently open to a relationship? or is she concentrating on something else and not thinking about that?
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