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Friendly reminder: don't get married

Got this from another forum.

NoMarriage.com

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Why men should not marry.
All the older guys I know, guys that are 55 and older are telling me the same story; don't do it. It just turns to crap no matter what you do. They'd rather be independent. At best it's a tedious bore. At worst a living hell with financial ruin thrown in for good measure. The problem is that when you're young, you just naturally fall into this mind set where your whole self image is based on how women regard you, and so you spend all your money and energy trying to make yourself acceptable to them. Then later in life the shine wears off and you finally realize that you've wasted yourself on a bunch of crap.

Children - "the ultimate human experience"
I couldn't even begin to list all of the older folks i know from work or through my family with kids they either don't get along with, are disappointed in, or are so distant as to not even be a factor in each other's lives.

I'm really skeptical about the idea of children as "the ultimate blessing." How many friends do you have with little or no meaningful contact or relationships with their parents?

I would wager the statistic for happy child/parent relations would be as bad, if not worse, than the marriage numbers. Who wants to deal with TWO bitter, unfulfilling relationships?!

Marriage is a sham for men. There is no benefit. If you are about to get married, think it over. Don't let your dick do your thinking for you. Don't let your punch-drunk I'm in love euphoria put you on auto-pilot. You will wake up in a hell of a hangover staring at this woman who will control your life.

A few years ago I went through a major depression over this until I started talking to all the older guys I knew...and they all said the same thing; "don't do it, it's shit. Even when it's not bad, it's shit". You end up being closely tied to an old woman. Think about that. I can go to Europe or the south seas tomorrow. If I was married I wouldn't have the money and I'd have to ask HER permission. Don't get married unless you are absolutely religiously in love with her. Like carry her sick aged body to the toilet and wipe her ass and be happy to do it kind of love.

What I'm saying is that human beings are nasty weak treacherous creatures that are for the most part totally untrustworthy. Experience is my basis for this statement, both mine and others who I know or who have written reliable histories. If you can find a woman to be your companion who is not treacherous, a deceitful little actress, a sly whore or a manipulative nag or a shrieking hag, then you are among the lucky few. Congratulations. I hope your luck continues to hold out.

Ok, assume that you will end up divorced and won't see your kids and lose half of your assets, how different is that from being married?

Most married guys I know are working their asses off to pay bills, rarely to get to spend time with their families, mediocre or no sex life, and have wives that spend as much of their money as absolutely possible.

My problem with marriage isn't a fear of divorce; it is that the whole thing sucks divorce or not.

What security is there for men in marriage?
If I cheat on my wife, she gets half my shit.
If she cheats on me, she still gets half my shit.
Why the fuck should i get married?

Fuck it man, it's easy to get depressed about not being married when we live in a society that constantly feeds us the image of the happy couple. It's one big lie. The happiest person alive is someone who isn't a prisoner dependent on another human being... We only have 80 or so years on this rock to achieve true freedom

Very few marriages last nowadays, and even guys older than me are telling me not to even think about it... It's a grossly overrated source of happiness. And for the 80% that do go through divorce, it will financially ruin you for life. Period. You can take your best 10 earning years from say, 35 to 45 and take all the wealth you would have accumulated and flush it down the toilet. Because it will go to her and her lawyer. If it happens naturally and it's good then great, good luck. But the worst thing is to force it, to make gross exertions and ignore all sorts of red lights going off just to be hooked up and "normal". Get some hobbies. Relax. Hang out. Enjoy. Take life as it comes.

As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry. After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used strategy. here it is:

1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.

2. Guy delays.

3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.

4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.

5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.

6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.

Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.

I know a lot of guys that would vouch for the list I bolded up top. There's a lot more material on the site. Here's some more:

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Fucking decent mid-priced whores twice a week is a lot less expensive than a wife.
I have made the calculation for many married man; divide all the cash you've ever spent from the first date to the last lawyer's bill and alimony payment, and don't forget to include all that furniture and vacations you would have never gone for if it hadn't been for the wife. Then divide by all the orgasms she's given you. You wouldn't believe the price some guys pay to be with a pig; $500.00 for a swine an ugly bullfrog faced POS. Imagine what $500 could buy you on the open market. Quite a few friends have blown up in a rage at me when I make this calculation for them...they can't handle the reality of their own stupidity.

i like this..

What security is there for men in marriage?
If I cheat on my wife, she gets half my shit.
If she cheats on me, she still gets half my shit.
Why the fuck should i get married?

haha

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1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.

2. Guy delays.

3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.

4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.

5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.

6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.

is this list from the 90s or it's only a white thing? here's what me and some other friends are encountering...

1. Girl pressures guy for late marriage. (early 30 at least)
2. Guy goes WTF WHY?
3. Girl works so hard and dominate in the relationship financially.
4. Guy becomes too weak, Girl do all the decision making.
5. Guy starts to limit sex, but get raped every single time in bed.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to get whipped.

my prof told us not to get married

bookmarked. I need to show this to all my friends

hahaha logic is a funny thing when it comes to relationships because people marry FOR EMOTIONAL REASONS not logical reasons.

logic tells you not to eat greasy hamburger because of all the cholesterol and fat you get from it. emotions tell you awwww fuck it.. just eat it.

BNR32_Coupe

This is the best thing you've ever posted. It makes sense of everything in my mind. For one night, you are god.

Kev

Tomorrow you go back to being the guy who posts annoying retorts to equally annoying driving rants.

Kev

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Originally Posted by Roach (Post 6534167)

Tomorrow you go back to being the guy who posts annoying retorts to equally annoying driving rants.

Kev

Hey its the driver of the red mazda 6 here,
Just wanted to let you know my clai vizor blinded me..

oh wait ill save that for tomorrow.

Hahahaha!!! True to form. Well played, sir.

Kev

Everything in the first post is correct. I've been married for 26 years. Just don't even want to talk about it.

EDIT: the rest has been edited, because it's going to come back and haunt me one day.

i wonder if this will scare off any guys who are planning on getting married

Gawd, that website is so depressing................... can I cry now? Wait, I've done that many times over. That's why I love my cars so much. At least you can look after them and they will continue to shine for you and, they won't talk back at you and treat you like shit.

I'm so depressed now. Guys, if I haven't posted in a few days, I've probably shot myself.

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Originally Posted by JSALES (Post 6534233)

i wonder if this will scare off any guys who are planning on getting married

It better. For their sakes.

i dont know how bad marriage is so i can't really vouch for anything but 89blkcivic i think you need to appreciate what you have.

at least youre..
-not in jail (maybe marriage seems like jail, i meant real jail)
-not lonely
-in canada
-not in a POW camp
-not a bum on the street dumpster diving
-etc

that shit's deep....
I don't post much as u can see, but i can totally see the truth in this.
wow.

time to crack a brew.
cheers,

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Originally Posted by 89blkcivic (Post 6534235)

FitFreak cruise on saturday. Die later!

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Originally Posted by PDKGD3 (Post 6534248)

FitFreak cruise on saturday. Die later!

Can't........... the wife probably won't let me.:cry:

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Originally Posted by Roach (Post 6534166)

BNR32_Coupe

This is the best thing you've ever posted. It makes sense of everything in my mind. For one night, you are god.

Kev

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Originally Posted by Roach (Post 6534167)

Tomorrow you go back to being the guy who posts annoying retorts to equally annoying driving rants.

Kev

i'm too young to think about this bullshit

it leaves out guys who want kids.

my goal in life is to be like hugh hefner
80+ and still banging smoking twins in their 20s

saw this post today...i just got married lol

^
Well, sir. Divorce is an option to consider. :D