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08-10-2009, 02:00 PM
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#1 | | NEWBIE ACCOUNT!
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| how much shit do u take from your SO
ive bin with my girl for about 4 years now and everything is becoming a disaster. we fight every day if not every other day, she has totally changed into someone who i never fell in love with. when i tell her shes different and i want her to be the way she was she says too bad this is me people change and thats the way she is. it seems like after every fight she will say something to me so harsh i wonder "do the guys on revscene take that from their SO" for example
1.to the guys have ur gf ever gotten so angry she try to slap/hit you or actuall slap/hit you?
2.have you tried committing suicide over ur SO cuz they treated u so shitty u just dont wanna live anymore(only answer if u bin together over 3 years and planned on getting married at some point in ur relationship)
3.ever plan out a really good evening thats suppose to be soo much fun but then wen u go to pik her up and u guys are out and stuff ur gf starts talking about something in the past that is gonna start a fight and then she shuts up cuz u told her its gonna start a fight so then she just shuts up and sits there like a log with that bitchy look on her face. how do u guys deal with ur fights? say shes mad abt something how do u go about getting that smile on her face.
4.what would your SO do if u were fighting and it was pretty bad and u told her/him i really feel like dieng right now and im driving right for the bridge as we speak...would she completely freak out put the fight aside and say pls babe can we talk about it or would she say have a nice jump
pretty much ive done everything for this girl. i wanna be with her for the rest of my life but i dont think i can stand her anymore and everytime we go to change we end up at square one again starting everything all over again cuz we had another fight. i have tried my hardest being the biggest pussy to her taking all the shit that i can from her just to see her smile ill try hard to surprise her and make her happy but her attention span is like a dog wen shes done with the flower she looks for another treat wondering wats next this is boring now(or atleast thats how i feel) i have no control in this relationship and it just seems liek a big struggle about whos way it should go. apparently it always goes my way but ive done everything for her to make it her way its still not enough(she says it goes my way i say no everything goes your way)
anyhelp u guys i dunno wat to do with this relationship its bin a really long time and i would hate to loose her we are really attached to each other i love her lots but she just cant let things go in the past wich keeps sparking a new fight
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08-10-2009, 02:06 PM
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#2 | | I don't get it
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Obviously she doesn't know her limit. Try breaking up with her, or giving her an ultimatium. That should make her realize she's in shit and its time to shape up or deal with the consequences. If she doesn't change, just drop her. Having her seriously hit you is pretty bad enough...
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08-10-2009, 02:07 PM
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#3 | | RS has made me the bitter person i am today!
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dump her and move on.
If she's being the biggest fucking bitch then don't even bother. And you were saying you want to be with her for the rest of your life..
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08-10-2009, 02:09 PM
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#4 | | How I Mod your mother
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If you plan on being with a girl like that for the rest of your life, I wish you the best of luck
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08-10-2009, 02:16 PM
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#5 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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You need to meet someone new.
I think the hardest part of leaving something behind is that you have nothing/no one to move forward to. I say while you deal with this, keep an open mind at keeping your options open. Hopefully your hands can grab onto the next branch before the current one breaks.
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08-10-2009, 02:37 PM
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#6 | | My name is Michael. J. Caboose, and I hate BABIES!
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Wow... doormat much?
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08-10-2009, 03:25 PM
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#7 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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You mention suicide twice in your post that sounds borderline mental. I've never had the urge to kill myself over a women if you're having thoughts like that maybe you have some deeper seeded issues that need to be dealt with? Seriously, this is a bigger issue then your relationship.
On the subject of your girlfriend it sounds like it's time to move on. You should not be fighting everyday, if thats happening your relationship has some serious issues as well. Maybe you can try councelling but never having done it myself I don't know if it works.
On the subject of hitting my wife, I've never done it. Have I ever been so mad that I wanted to? There were probably a couple times but I think the ability to check that is what seperates normal people from wife beaters. It's like wanting to drag someone out of their car in a fit of rage and pummel them, theres a line between wanting to do it and actually doing it.
Spend some time apart and it will either strengthen your relationship when she realizes what she's losing or blow it up and allow you to move on to something better.
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08-10-2009, 03:56 PM
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#8 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by quasi On the subject of your girlfriend it sounds like it's time to move on. You should not be fighting everyday | Refer to your post: Quote:
Originally Posted by quasi You mention suicide twice in your post that sounds borderline mental. | The guy has some serious emotional dependency on this girl. Asking him to quit that is just as tough as asking a crack addict to quit drugs. Not gonna happen by himself unless someone rips it away from him.
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08-10-2009, 04:09 PM
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#9 | | Revscene.net has a homepage?!
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not to be racist in any way, but what ethnicity is your gf? I've seen quite a few types of asian girls physically abusive w/ their SOs, and it seems to be the cultural norm in their home country.
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08-10-2009, 04:11 PM
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#10 | | Hacked RS to become a mod
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Originally Posted by D7G 4.what would your SO do if u were fighting and it was pretty bad and u told her/him i really feel like dieng right now and im driving right for the bridge as we speak...would she completely freak out put the fight aside and say pls babe can we talk about it or would she say have a nice jump | You seriously threatened to kill yourself to end a fight? Give it up man, it's over.
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08-10-2009, 04:34 PM
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#11 | | MoD
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its time to move on.
you seem like you want to and just need RS "support"
move on, your relationship with this girl is hurting you.
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08-10-2009, 05:15 PM
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#12 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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yeah lol, being single sure beats being in your shoes, because suicide is the last thing on my mind.
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08-10-2009, 05:20 PM
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#13 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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my relationship was fucking perfect until i cheated on her... now its fucking ridiculous because even though i saw the light and have become fully committed, she has like zero trust in me... but its rebuilding slowly and surely.
so, whatever you do... if you're having troubles, face it like a man and end it before you do something stupid.
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08-10-2009, 05:48 PM
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#14 | | My AFC gave me an ABS CEL code of LOL while at WOT!
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pfft whatever she aint worth your time kick itt
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08-10-2009, 05:49 PM
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When she's sleeping, squat over her and take a big shit on her face then ask her how it feels.
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08-10-2009, 06:15 PM
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#16 | | WOAH! i think Vtec just kicked in!
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Originally Posted by bcrdukes When she's sleeping, squat over her and take a big shit on her face then ask her how it feels. | haha just like buying a kia.. it seems like an awesome idea.. but then all your left with is a piece of shit you have to clean.. 
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08-10-2009, 06:25 PM
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#17 | | Ubereem Mod
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get away, this sounds nthing but disaster, and doesn't seem like it can/would get any better.
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08-10-2009, 08:40 PM
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#18 | | DOES HE LOOK LIKE A BITCH?
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you're long overdue for some "me-time"
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08-10-2009, 09:06 PM
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#19 | | WOAH! i think Vtec just kicked in!
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Is she Korean by any chance?
I casually dated two Korean girls in the past year, and both became insanely possessive in quite a short timespan. As I was never "into" either of them and just wanted a chick to go out with, I didn't give a fuck.
But honestly, you shouldn't take shit like that from any girl. Unless she's banging hot. And I'm talking Megan Fox hot. Or, if she makes "1-UP" sounds during sex: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GESmPxKv1k | |
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08-10-2009, 11:44 PM
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#20 | | Rs has made me the man i am today!
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what would possess you to stick around for so long in the first place?
don't take that shit. you and i both know you can do better
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08-11-2009, 12:15 AM
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#21 | | Ubereem Mod
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btw - anyone got some personal experience ?
Other then what we are trying to bang into his head?
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08-11-2009, 02:56 AM
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#22 | | Ask me about how I answered the question "How fat is TOO fat?"
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It's not worth taking your life for some bullshit like this, real talk
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08-11-2009, 03:29 AM
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#23 | | My dinner reheated before my turbo spooled
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been there for the most part, let me tell you something as soon as you leave you'll realize theres a whole world of "much betters" then what you are seeing now.
Trust us, we got your back! hah
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08-11-2009, 07:05 AM
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#24 | | Willing to sell a family member for a few minutes on RS
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I was once in your situation. Was with my ex for 5 years. First 3 years was great and I couldnt imagine being without her, as years 4 - 5 came long we both made some mistakes and we were fighting all the time and I wanted to kill her. Near the end of our relationship our fights were really heated and she was always in my face. There were times that I wanted to put her through a wall. One thing I've learned from all my relationships is that if you're contemplating suicide or hitting ur gf then you need to get out of the relationship because its not healthy to think that. Once you get out of it, you'll feel such a relief. Trust me, I've been there. You need to sort your problems or move on. The past is the past and if she can't let it go then there is no future for you two.
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08-11-2009, 07:53 AM
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#25 | | Rs has made me the woman i am today!
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if you don't want to put up with her shit.. then leave..
A friend of mine told me this not long ago.
"Guys will always want to be with the girl they fell in love with in the beginning.. Girls will always want to change the guy so he is different from before
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