Hyprocrite for dating this girl?
 

My friend is going through a dilemma and needs some help. He lives in Canada, and has met this girl online from China about two years ago. They have been talking on the phone and webcam for the past several years and never met face-to-face. Recently, my friend has begun to realize that he really loves her, and he knows that she is beginning to love him too. They both have not told each other how they feel, but they both know that they love each other. The girl says that she is coming to Canada in several months for a vacation, and hopefully my friend will be able to solve his dilemma by then.

The dilemma for my friend is that he has his principles and he feels that if he dates this girl, then he will be breaking his principles. Furthermore, he feels that he is unable to confront his friends and tell them that he is dating this girl from China since he feels that it will make him a hypocrite.

My friend has several mid-aged friends who recently travelled to Asia, met a girl there, and married her. My friend has been giving them a hard time about how they must travel to a foreign country in-order to meet a girl.

My friend already knows that some of his female friends are interested in him. He feels that his friends will say that it is a waste of time to date someone so far away when there are local girls who he already knows well that are interested in him.

Lastly, my friend has been in lots of relationships. They, however, only last a month or so because my friend finds the girls he is with annoying after a short period of time. My friend, however, finds the girl from China to not be annoying and feels that this is his first chance at a real meaningful relationship.

I personally think that my friend should just suck-up his principles and tell his friends. I think that the harder it is to start a relationship, the more meaningful it will be. In addition, he feels that there is a good chance that a relationship with this girl will work out. I think that it is worth having your friends tease you for a while – after all, since they are his friends they will understand. I have yet to tell him my advice as I wanted some advice from the community before I speak with my friend again.

Holy crap why does he care SO much about his principles, suck it up and do what he feels is right.

talking to some one on webcam and seeing them in person are two totally different things-

ever think that your "friend" may find this girl from china annoying when they hang out for a month?

nm.

You should wait a few months and see how things go when the China girl is here. Hang out with her a few times and u'll quickly find out if u 2 r compatible, there's no other way.

Oh, I mean ur frd

He's not a hypocrite, he's retarded.

Is your friend sure she doesn't have a penis?

He's already a hypocrite. If your friend actually valued his principles, he shouldn't have started talking to that girl in China in the first place. His goal wasn't to just be friends, that's for sure. If he likes the girl, then just fucking do it, and take whatever jabs comes from his friends that are sure to, rightfully, pull the hypocrite card on him.

It's a trap.

start agreeiing with his friends to set the for when the china girl comes to visit.....

I think your friend should just keep it under the table until he actually meets the girl in real life. He is thinking abit too far now about how to deal with friends and stuff. Wait until he is STILL interested in the girl after he meets her.....

hopefully she does not screw him over if he brings her over. That is the horror story I hear of girls in China marrying a guy here and divorcing them after a year or once they get citizenship.

ur frd is a retard for worrying about how his frds will react. HE HASN'T EVEN SEEN THIS CHINA GIRL YET. Wait until he can put actually put up with her for 1 month +......then start thinking about all this other BS

lets see if this actually happens lol
could be just a trap to suck the guy into liking her.
he hasn't even met the girl! what if the girl is really annoying in person?

what if she stinks... bad b/o...



im just saying.






im just saying.. cuz ever since i met my girl for the first time in person, i was addicted to her smell. I always think what would have happened if I didn't like her smell, yet we were sooo into each other on the web before we met. your friend is looking too far into it, deal with it when its necessary to deal with.

tell him stop being a poon

Bullshit, your friend has no principles and no backbone. He's a shallow punk who can't make his own decisions.

The girl from China probably just wants your friend to help her get her citizenship.

+1 :thumbsup:

Tell him to do what he feels is right, first and foremost it's his life, if he feels a connection with the girl, allow him to explore the possibility of the relationship, friends will be friends and know that as you live life, you will most definitely not be able to please everyone in it. Is he a hypocrite? of course he is, he is doing the exact opposite of what he is preaching, is it wrong, yes, but this experience should help him grow in the future as a person, now that he likes the girl, it's not going against his principles, it just looks like he trying to save face because he preached on how bad it was to find girls in other countries, but does it anyway. Tell him, you never know, she could potentially be right/the one for him and that he should practice what he preaches to others or don't preach at all. Some people learn and some people teach, if you haven't been in the situation before, what makes your views valid? opinion?

after reading this thread and hearing he's only seen the girl online through a webcam, this pic came to mind:

http://i362.photobucket.com/albums/o.../untitled4.jpg

the only people that should be affecting his relationship should be him and the girl not his friends... deal with it

Yeah. What are the principles?

No Long Distance Relationships?

Your friend is a whiny little bitch. He needs to suck it up and be open about shit. If he's willing to criticize others for going there and coming back with wives, he'd better be ready to take the shit they're gonna hurl on him 'cause he's importing one sight unseen.
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