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Old 04-09-2010, 03:52 PM   #1
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Your parents meeting your SO's parents?

I just had a big discussion with a close friend about this topic. We'r at the opposite ends of the spectrum.

Me: My mom has never met my gf's (nor exs') parents. I doubt they'll meet in the foreseeable future. I kinda believe that it's better to have as little external influence in a relationship as possible. Of coz they'll eventually meet when it's time for marriage, but for now, I just don't see it.

My frd: His mom met his gf's parents within 1 year of their relationship (heck, they've been together for 5 yrs & marriage is very likely). They go out & have dim sum every now & then.

I wonder what everyone else' relationships are like. There's no right or wrong, just wanna have a feel what the norm is like. Won't it be wierd if u *knock on wood* an ur SO break up but the parents still hang out every now and then? If ur SO's parents hang out with ur SO's ex's parents, wouldnt u be all wierd out? I know I would.

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Old 04-09-2010, 04:02 PM   #2
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My dad was actually friends with my SO's dad before I was even friends with my SO. They would have coffee with other dads too after they dropped us off in highschool.

My mom and her mom talk once in a while, our families went to portland and we ended up staying in the same hotel.

We've been together for a year and a bit now.
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i dont want my parents to meet my SO parent....my SO parent is a total wack job....i hope she doesnt become like her parent when shes 50.
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For me personally I like the whole 'meet my parent's and i'll meet yours' kinda thing..but I will be a tad more cautious with this kinda thing for my next relationship. when my ex and i broke up, it was sad obviously..but to add on top of it..it was like i had to break up with his family too. i really liked spending time with his family (we'd go for dinners, dimsum, hang out at his house etc) and when we broke up..i had to end ties with them. when you're in a relationship, it's not jst about you and your partner..but the family too.

and plus, it was rare to begin with where i'd bring a guy home and when I did it was cause I thought this guy was important to me enough that i'd want him to meet my family so they could see how wonderful/great this person is too.
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Nope. Not until marriage for me. My parents are wack
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For me personally I like the whole 'meet my parent's and i'll meet yours' kinda thing..but I will be a tad more cautious with this kinda thing for my next relationship. when my ex and i broke up, it was sad obviously..but to add on top of it..it was like i had to break up with his family too. i really liked spending time with his family (we'd go for dinners, dimsum, hang out at his house etc) and when we broke up..i had to end ties with them. when you're in a relationship, it's not jst about you and your partner..but the family too.

and plus, it was rare to begin with where i'd bring a guy home and when I did it was cause I thought this guy was important to me enough that i'd want him to meet my family so they could see how wonderful/great this person is too.
but but....this thread is about YOUR parents meeting HIS parents....lol

not you or him meeting each others parent...
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i dnt see why not...

if you intro your parents to their parents b4 marriage, i think it would be VERY VERY confusing.. haha
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my so's parents and mine finally met as they both were invited to a wedding we helped plan for some good friends of ours. Ours parents helped with the wedding and ended up meeting each other there for the first time. Luckily because of the situation they couldn't talk for too long together. Now that we have a baby on the way and our engaged they've seen each other more often as they help us with our new place. Once the lil one is here there will be lots of times that they are together. We were together for 5 or 6 yrs before they ever did meet each other. Would just seem weird them meeting each other unless we were together for quite along time.
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For me personally I like the whole 'meet my parent's and i'll meet yours' kinda thing..but I will be a tad more cautious with this kinda thing for my next relationship. when my ex and i broke up, it was sad obviously..but to add on top of it..it was like i had to break up with his family too. i really liked spending time with his family (we'd go for dinners, dimsum, hang out at his house etc) and when we broke up..i had to end ties with them. when you're in a relationship, it's not jst about you and your partner..but the family too.

and plus, it was rare to begin with where i'd bring a guy home and when I did it was cause I thought this guy was important to me enough that i'd want him to meet my family so they could see how wonderful/great this person is too.

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The best part of it is that your allowed to sleep in your gf's house

lol I even took a bath their once haha
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they met two weeks ago at a restaurant....it wasn't bad.

The only thing that bothers me was they fought for the bill.
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^ That's not a bad thing. It's only bad if both sides just sits there and waits for someone to pay.
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but but....this thread is about YOUR parents meeting HIS parents....lol

not you or him meeting each others parent...
OH! My bad!!

Well in this case, I wouldn't have them meet one another until my partner and I are in the same boat in terms of the relationship (where it's going, is it serious enough etc etc)

I think it's important for the 2 families to meet but not necessary if it's too early in the relationship.
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i didn't plan for my parents and my bf's parents to meet but when i was having dinner with his family at a restaurant we happened to run into my parents, of course lol
but my parents are too busy, so theres not a lot of communication between the 2 families so it's not that bad
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brown parents don't meet until they decide everything for the wedding. i like it that way...
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Both of our parents met already, they get along great.
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Yup, we do Christmas and Holiday's together with both sides from time to time. My parents are the only family I have here so it would be weird to do a Holiday without them.
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I would wait until I'm sure marriage is down the road too....
You cannot stop parents when they want to chat about embarrassing moments....which they absolutely love to...
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