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In this day and age where divorce is so common, do you feel the need to protect your own interest by having your SO sign a pre-nup before marriage?
You can argue that it's just a "precaution" just in case something bad happens. But by having this precaution in place, how is your marriage different from a business contract? You can argue that if u love ur SO, u'd sign it for her. But if ur SO love u, she wouldnt have made u sign in the first place.
This has me troubled lately since I'm handling a divorce settlement. There's a pre-nup in place but they'r fighting over the wording of it. It got pretty ugly and the kids r like, "mommy, why are we fighting daddy?". It's sad when I see them in the office.
Marriage has completely lost its meaning.
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Last edited by q0192837465; 04-13-2010 at 02:33 PM.
and you bet your ass i would despite the fact that I'm not worth a crazy amount. When it comes to divorces, you can bet the other is going to try to snag as much as possible and I don't care how "in love" you may be, it doesn't take much to change that.
^ I'm not sure how to word this, but that's kind of removing part of the marriage. "What's yours is mine and mine is yours except! for this shit. This is mine honey, piss off."
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Originally Posted by raygunpk
but if something does happen, you could lose a lot
So be careful who you marry, and don't be a cheating asshole. I mean I know if you're some richass guy marrying some random hot chick then yeah, sign one. But if you're supposed to be getting married for love, then it seems pretty dumb to me.
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Originally Posted by maksimizer
half those dudes are hotter than ,my GF.
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Originally Posted by RevYouUp
reading this thread is like waiting for goku to charge up a spirit bomb in dragon ball z
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Originally Posted by Good_KarMa
OH thank god. I thought u had sex with my wife. :cry:
lets say the guy owns a house, and the girl owns nothing.
would you REALLY wanna take the chance that you could lose HALF of your life savings? you only get 1 life,
thats huge man,
you always hafto think about and protect yourself first and foremost.
I know marriage should be a sacred thing and what not, but you NEVER know what might happen in the future, and you should always protect yourself.
If the marriage ends badly, the wife will resent you and try to take everything she possibly can to make your life hell, women are very emotional in this way and seek vengeance, even if you did nothing wrong and SHE cheated or what ever.
In my experience, if you dont protect yourself, people will fuck you. Thats the nature of us humans.
If the income is substantially different like 250K vs 30-40K and asset coming into the marriage is very different. I will ask for a pre-nup. And if the soon to be wifey is making the big bucks and ask for the same thing. I'm cool with that. But during the pre-nup i'll probably say if we get a chance @ divorce, anything inside the marriage earned is dvided more or less equally. I think that's fair, or some sort of fair settlement in both person's eyes.
However, if the income is like 50K to 60K(even with future possibility of better earnings for 1 or the other partner.) and then ask for a pre-nup and assets are similiar, I'd be...more hesistant. As going into the marriage it's more or less the same.
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uh, yeah, the woman I marry would be okay with that. this shit should be discussed way before you even get married.
alright lets for a second pretend you are completely logical, and drop your ego. the logical thing to do would be to sign the prenup right?
alright lets for a second pretend you are completely driven by your emotions and ego. You are madly in love with her. So no one signs any prenup.
alright two outcomes, you two last until death do you part, or you two last till someone is sick and tired of the other... actually I don't really know where I'm going with this, it doesn't make sense to me anymore.
in short, get her to sign the prenup. tell her about your friends bad experiences, or uncles or whatever. make something up.
raise another question, why WOULDNT she sign the prenup? you can't fucking predict the future. Marriage isnt a business transaction, therefore financial matters SHOULDNT BE A FACTOR RIGHT?
if it shouldn't be a factor, then why are you guys worrying about signing it? money isnt the main focus here, so stop focusing on it. money only matters when you split, if you split, and if you split, and that is a possibility, you will regret not getting her to sign the prenup.
think of all past relationships, how fast did they go sour? did you ever see it coming? could u have predicted the 180 degree turn? no one could have, it happens so fast.
why cant that happen to a marriage? don't give me that "but we love each other, we'd never let that happen" speech. you ain't some supreme being with supreme powers. you're just a human. you can't control that stuff. it's all in your mind.
sign it.
Last edited by Ulic Qel-Droma; 04-15-2010 at 11:47 AM.
uh, yeah, the woman I marry would be okay with that. this shit should be discussed way before you even get married.
alright lets for a second pretend you are completely logical, and drop your ego. the logical thing to do would be to sign the prenup right?
alright lets for a second pretend you are completely driven by your emotions and ego. You are madly in love with her. So no one signs any prenup.
alright two outcomes, you two last until death do you part, or you two last till someone is sick and tired of the other... actually I don't really know where I'm going with this, it doesn't make sense to me anymore.
in short, get her to sign the prenup. tell her about your friends bad experiences, or uncles or whatever. make something up.
raise another question, why WOULDNT she sign the prenup? you can't fucking predict the future. Marriage isnt a business transaction, therefore financial matters SHOULDNT BE A FACTOR RIGHT?
if it shouldn't be a factor, then why are you guys worrying about signing it? money isnt the main focus here, so stop focusing on it. money only matters when you split, if you split, and if you split, and that is a possibility, you will regret not getting her to sign the prenup.
think of all past relationships, how fast did they go sour? did you ever see it coming? could u have predicted the 180 degree turn? no one could have, it happens so fast.
why cant that happen to a marriage? don't give me that "but we love each other, we'd never let that happen" speech. you ain't some supreme being with supreme powers. you're just a human. you can't control that stuff. it's all in your mind.
uh, yeah, the woman I marry would be okay with that. this shit should be discussed way before you even get married.
alright lets for a second pretend you are completely logical, and drop your ego. the logical thing to do would be to sign the prenup right?
alright lets for a second pretend you are completely driven by your emotions and ego. You are madly in love with her. So no one signs any prenup.
alright two outcomes, you two last until death do you part, or you two last till someone is sick and tired of the other... actually I don't really know where I'm going with this, it doesn't make sense to me anymore.
in short, get her to sign the prenup. tell her about your friends bad experiences, or uncles or whatever. make something up.
raise another question, why WOULDNT she sign the prenup? you can't fucking predict the future. Marriage isnt a business transaction, therefore financial matters SHOULDNT BE A FACTOR RIGHT?
if it shouldn't be a factor, then why are you guys worrying about signing it? money isnt the main focus here, so stop focusing on it. money only matters when you split, if you split, and if you split, and that is a possibility, you will regret not getting her to sign the prenup.
think of all past relationships, how fast did they go sour? did you ever see it coming? could u have predicted the 180 degree turn? no one could have, it happens so fast.
why cant that happen to a marriage? don't give me that "but we love each other, we'd never let that happen" speech. you ain't some supreme being with supreme powers. you're just a human. you can't control that stuff. it's all in your mind.
sign it.
Lol, I think if Ulic work for some network marketing / MLM companies, he'll make big bucks
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How I wish I can remain ignorant, why do I know so much?
^ I'm not sure how to word this, but that's kind of removing part of the marriage. "What's yours is mine and mine is yours except! for this shit. This is mine honey, piss off."
So be careful who you marry, and don't be a cheating asshole. I mean I know if you're some richass guy marrying some random hot chick then yeah, sign one. But if you're supposed to be getting married for love, then it seems pretty dumb to me.
while i agree with marrying for love, you can't predict the future like ulic says. you obviously don't marry just to think you are going to get divorced, but you never know down the road if you or your partner will have a change of heart. people always change.
i mean you don't date somebody and assume you're going to break up in x amount of years, but it's always a possibility and you gotta be prepared for it.
while i agree with marrying for love, you can't predict the future like ulic says. you obviously don't marry just to think you are going to get divorced, but you never know down the road if you or your partner will have a change of heart. people always change.
i mean you don't date somebody and assume you're going to break up in x amount of years, but it's always a possibility and you gotta be prepared for it.
But by preparing for it are you not also ensuring that outcome? ie if you don't let yourself get too heavily into a relationship because it might end, then it will end because you always held back.
__________________ 1991 Toyota Celica GTFour RC // 2007 Toyota Rav4 V6 // 2000 Jeep Grand Cherokee
1992 Toyota Celica GT-S ["sold"] \\ 2007 Jeep Grand Cherokee CRD [sold] \\ 2000 Jeep Cherokee [sold] \\ 1997 Honda Prelude [sold] \\ 1992 Jeep YJ [sold/crashed] \\ 1987 Mazda RX-7 [sold] \\ 1987 Toyota Celica GT-S [crushed]
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Originally Posted by maksimizer
half those dudes are hotter than ,my GF.
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Originally Posted by RevYouUp
reading this thread is like waiting for goku to charge up a spirit bomb in dragon ball z
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Originally Posted by Good_KarMa
OH thank god. I thought u had sex with my wife. :cry:
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